I am looking for information to research a form of borderline that is not commonly discussed, sometimes called "quiet borderline" or an as-if personality or as if borderline. Does anyone know anything about this or have any suggestions for books or articles?

I have never heard of "quiet borderline." I did some reach and this is what I found.

http://www.borderlinepersonality.ca/borderquietb.htm

http://www.borderlinepersonality.ca/index.html

http://www.soulselfhelp.on.ca/ excellent site

or you can www.google.com (http://www.google.com) the term borderline personality disorder.

hope this helps

"AS IF" ....

Sounds like someone who has a lot of fantasy stuff going on... more like Schizoid or Schizo-Typal PD?

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See, the hallmarks of Borderline are (a) manipulation and (b) rage.

Since Borderlines tend to oscillate between the Extreme Pole Roles of Victim and Offender, I don't believe there is such a thing as a 'quiet borderline'...

Borderline is a "Cluster B" PD. Those are The "Dramatic" PDs: not much silence or quietude going on there... ;)

I'd be wary of using the label "PD" when labelling people. I think you are moreso just describing personality "traits" or passive-aggressiveness (some of that is female socialization, BTW).

'Quiet Borderline' is an really oxymoron... given the amount of disruption that often results.

I went on to look up that expression later last night.

A quiet borderline sounds more like "self defeating PD" (e.g. 'i hate myself and want to die' by w/o the active suicide attempts') or "avoidant PD" (i'd call that a variant of having PTSD-like symptoms + PD-like core organizers; as PTSD type stuff has as a key feature -- the 'avoidance' of triggers, actions and emotions reminding one of the original circumstances of their traumata [conscious or not]).