he needs them like badly you can tell when hes off it and gives me the reason he doesn't need it that hes ookay and cause im not taking anymore since i was 17 that hes fine if im not on mines how can get them to see he needs it i don't want to see the worse of him if hes off it and show him he needs it but he thinks hes alright when is not true i want the best for both of us

he needs to want the best for both of you too and you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. I have to say this, if you two have so many problems that you need to post daily about them then why not move on for both of your sanity and well-being? If he isn't the person you want then leave him! That's a lot easier than constantly trying to control what he says, does, collects and thinks. If you don't accept him, respect him and value his differences then do you even truly love him? I think you should stop complaining so much about him and look at yourself and figure out why you are holding on to someone you obviously don't even like.

wait were do you get i don't like him im looking for help so we both work this thing out together we cat ask our parents for help so i come here for helphe needs to want the best for both of you too and you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. I have to say this, if you two have so many problems that you need to post daily about them then why not move on for both of your sanity and well-being? If he isn't the person you want then leave him! That's a lot easier than constantly trying to control what he says, does, collects and thinks. If you don't accept him, respect him and value his differences then do you even truly love him? I think you should stop complaining so much about him and look at yourself and figure out why you are holding on to someone you obviously don't even like.

Thought I'd share some wise advice I once received:

"A relationship can't be a rescue"

you have constant issues with him and are always trying to change something about him. maybe I'm blind sighted here but I don't see any post about fixing your problems I just see constant threads about how to make him quit using drugs, drinking, and wanting everyone to tell you it's okay to throw out his belongings. If you even like him, then why do you find fault in everything he does, says, and enjoys? You are not respecting him marytza and instead you're trying to manipulate him into what YOU want. What about what he wants? Here's some advice, the best way to change someone is to accept them for who they are. When someone knows they are loved, respected and appreicated then they desire to be a better person. Telling him to change or quit doing things or get rid of his stuff is just a sure fire way to you becoming single and him finding a new woman to accept him. And no matter what you think, him being medicated isn't really any of your business. I find it stange when anyone pushes another person to be medicated. It's another sign of control. Only his doctor and himself can know if he needs to be medicated.

i like him allot more then i liked anyone ever or get close to anyone first time i found someone and i don't play games or flirt with anyone now everyone is amazed how much i changed they see a better new me and happier me when i have my boyfriend he changed me allot so is not only him i wanna let him understand is not a game Thought I'd share some wise advice I once received:

"A relationship can't be a rescue"

since i was a kid and now im *manipulate* everyone tells me how do i fix that
or work with it to make it less?

since i was a kid and now im *manipulate* everyone tells me how do i fix that
or work with it to make it less?

It's easy .. don't expect people to be what you want or look for your needs to be filled by others. Just accept people for what they are and quit thinking you know more than they do about what would make them happy. I always worry when people say they have changed so much since meeting someone because that's not how healthy relationships work. You should grow together, blossom, sparkle, but not "change." If people are always saying that you are manipulative then why don't you seek some personal counseling/therapy and find out what is holding you back and making you that way before you drag someone into your life and cause them undue pain.

I will answer your origninal title question as others have answered the relationship side of things. Buy him or get him a watch that has a timer/alarm on it, set it for the first time in a morning he has to take his meds then reset it for the 2nd time etc etc-easy peasy!
we do that with a 9 yr old lad who has ADHD and ODD.
hope it helps.

ps you could also set numerous alarms on his mobile phones that repeat daily until you say stop-I do that for repeated things like weekly appointments or monthly things etc. And of course you always have your mobile on you lol

whoa i like that idea thanksI will answer your origninal title question as others have answered the relationship side of things. Buy him or get him a watch that has a timer/alarm on it, set it for the first time in a morning he has to take his meds then reset it for the 2nd time etc etc-easy peasy!
we do that with a 9 yr old lad who has ADHD and ODD.
hope it helps.

ps you could also set numerous alarms on his mobile phones that repeat daily until you say stop-I do that for repeated things like weekly appointments or monthly things etc. And of course you always have your mobile on you lol

i understand your views to thisIt's easy .. don't expect people to be what you want or look for your needs to be filled by others. Just accept people for what they are and quit thinking you know more than they do about what would make them happy. I always worry when people say they have changed so much since meeting someone because that's not how healthy relationships work. You should grow together, blossom, sparkle, but not "change." If people are always saying that you are manipulative then why don't you seek some personal counseling/therapy and find out what is holding you back and making you that way before you drag someone into your life and cause them undue pain.

Like any problem, you can't help somebody if they're not willing to help themself first. If he needs a reminder, that's fine, but if he's not cooperating or doesn't think he needs help, there is little you can do.

Maybe discuss it and ask him to think objectively if he thinks he is healthy and accomplishing his life goals and being productive, and offer to help. Also treatment is often trial and error. Maybe he is resisting treatment because it's not working to his liking. Or maybe he didnt even try it properly to have a basis to compare the treatment with being untreated.