I greatly appreciate the new site for women to discuss the different forms of abuse they have suffered. But, it honestly does not feel fair. Men suffer abuse as well, I know it is not MY place to request it but is there any way they too can have their own place to discuss and support each other. I'm sorry like I said I know it isn't my place to ask it just didn't seem right to ignore their needs.

I don't think anybody is ignoring the needs of men. It's just that there was a lot of interest in the forum specifically for women of domestic abuse.

The male members of the forum have the same oppurtunity to express interest in a private forum for men with similar issues.

I very much appreciate you posting this Cherity.

I second the idea that this might be a worthwhile forum.

I think abused men generally suffer through different situations than abused women, but they do still suffer...

I will certainly agree that there is (sadly) MORE need for a women's forum like this, but it doesn't cost any $$$ to set up a comparable private section for men...

So there you go Tara. One male vote. :D

I did not mean to butt in or to speak for the men; I just thought it may be helpful to them to be able to discuss these issue's with other's who have been thru the same thing...I have found men are more ashamed of certain abuse's and do not want to share in a public format. I'm sorry for interfering.

There's no need to appologize. You did nothing wrong.

Thanks,,,I know I have a tendancy to speak out of turn...I just don't like the idea of someone feeling left out but I also understand the need for some privacy.

Futs, we both know it's a great idea..we all have the right to speak our minds here. Me thinks that is what the forum is for.;) Great job! Hugssssssssss

WC,

Your commentary is refreshing. Many men simply have a knee jerk and defensive response to the idea of abused women. Sadly organizations like the "Promise keepers" (Yuck, Spit, Gag!), and more than a few others mischaracterize any attempts to aid female domestic abuse victims as attacks on men... SIGH! They also blow statistics way out of proportion.

Your view is both realistic and compassionate. I find it refreshing. Statistically only 5% of reported cases of abuse occur on men. Naturally men will report far less often, for cultural reasons. Even if all cases were reported I suspect the vast majority would still be women getting abused though. It is not that I think men are naturally evil or violent. I do think men have a natural predisposition towards agressive behavior women lack. Agression need not be expressed as violence, but we live in a culture that has been very much divorced from the environment we adapted to for 5 million years and we have only had 6 thousand years to play catchup. Biology can't change that fast. I guess what I am saying is that the male equivalent to the maternal instinct which is generally expressed as nurturing in women, is the protective instinct which is where that aggression comes into play. Protecting your loved ones is very constructive and quite adaptive. It is all to easy in this society for those aggressive tendencies to get twisted into violence against the very people they are there to protect.

That is a mixture of text book anthropology and Dan Johnson's (ME) opinion.

Well , it was definatly food for thought...And perhap's no male will post there, I'm just comforted with the knowledge the resource is there should they need it. Abuse is Abuse in any shape or form it does not have to be said with fist's.

There should be a fourm for women sexualy abused or physically and then one for men .. also one for children

I believe the states of sexual abuse is 1 out of every 3 girls have been sexually abused and 1 out of every 8 boys has been sexualy abused.

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