kristy1983
03-05-08, 02:16 AM
While researching ADD on my boyfriend I stumbled upon what may be the diagnoses with me as well!! What is funny is that i've been diagnosed with GAD, panic disorder/anxiety disorder, bipolar 2, social phobia, mood disorder, but I still knew that wasn't it because I'm not really depressed, I do get moody, angry, frustrated, irritable all because I have so much energy that I just can't seem to channel. I want to do so many things, but am not sure how I can take them all at once. If I took it one at a time, that would be boring! I'm very smart and creative, but worry all the time about time! I feel rushed to do everything even without time constraints. I will wait until the last minute and then rush. When I rush I do the most perfect job; I could do in 10 minutes what somebody could do in 2 hours. My job pattern is unstable and my parents think I'm a loser, but I just know right away what I like and what I don't like. I'm cut and dry, black and white; there is no gray with me. I'm not the typical ADD'er in that I'm "unproductive", I just get bored.
my boyfriend: He doesn't exactly fit the entire ADD mold. He is extremely successful. He can see a problem and find a solution, but it could take him days. When he finds an answer it's ingenious. He can walked around for hours without doing anything. The reason I knew something was wrong was because he started not calling me when he said he would, he would work on his kitchen and i'd find other major projects started, it just annoyed me that when I was excited to come hang out he would just watch tv, read, do laundry, write business emails... he would pay attention to anything that wasn't me. I confronted him about this and he said it was his ADD.. and after reading this message board I feel less anxious in the fact that it's me. And I have low self esteem anyway b/c of unfinished projects, always being the "loser" or "black sheep" of the family. A month into our relationship we were already arguing about how he didn't care to call me, or didn't care to cuddle with me. We argued about his lack of affection, even thought he thought I was the crazy one who demanded too much!!
I do have to say that even though we both have different kinds of ADD, I think we can compliment each other very well in that fact that he can teach me patience, because i tend to overanalyze, overthink, jump the gun, go into a rage and say things I later regret. I think we contrast to the point where we can compliment. Anybody have any thoughts on this rare situation? Most important, can any of you relate to the arguments of your partner not caring? because i'm taking this very personaly... i mean how does somebody that cares about you FORGET to call you? can anybody explain this more in depth to me?
my boyfriend: He doesn't exactly fit the entire ADD mold. He is extremely successful. He can see a problem and find a solution, but it could take him days. When he finds an answer it's ingenious. He can walked around for hours without doing anything. The reason I knew something was wrong was because he started not calling me when he said he would, he would work on his kitchen and i'd find other major projects started, it just annoyed me that when I was excited to come hang out he would just watch tv, read, do laundry, write business emails... he would pay attention to anything that wasn't me. I confronted him about this and he said it was his ADD.. and after reading this message board I feel less anxious in the fact that it's me. And I have low self esteem anyway b/c of unfinished projects, always being the "loser" or "black sheep" of the family. A month into our relationship we were already arguing about how he didn't care to call me, or didn't care to cuddle with me. We argued about his lack of affection, even thought he thought I was the crazy one who demanded too much!!
I do have to say that even though we both have different kinds of ADD, I think we can compliment each other very well in that fact that he can teach me patience, because i tend to overanalyze, overthink, jump the gun, go into a rage and say things I later regret. I think we contrast to the point where we can compliment. Anybody have any thoughts on this rare situation? Most important, can any of you relate to the arguments of your partner not caring? because i'm taking this very personaly... i mean how does somebody that cares about you FORGET to call you? can anybody explain this more in depth to me?