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View Full Version : tips on dealing with anger lunaslobo 03-06-08, 07:04 AM In the mens section there is a couple of posts about anger. Now this is not a problem that only men deal with so I decided that I would post some of the tips on how to deal with with anger in the adult section. if you have any please add. lunaslobo 03-06-08, 07:05 AM Anger management: Tips to control your temper From MayoClinic.com (http://www.mayoclinic.com/) Special to CNN.com If you find that your angry outbursts are negatively affecting your relationships with family, friends, co-workers and even complete strangers, it's probably time to change the way you express your anger. Here are some tips to get your anger under control: <LI class=doublespace>Take a "time out." Count to 10 before reacting or leave the situation altogether. <LI class=doublespace>Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets, for example. <LI class=doublespace>Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga. <LI class=doublespace>Express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person. <LI class=doublespace>Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. <LI class=doublespace>Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation. <LI class=doublespace>Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions. <LI class=doublespace>Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want. <LI class=doublespace>Use humor to defuse your anger, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression. Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.You can practice many of these strategies on your own. But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or has escalated into violence, you may benefit from seeing a psychotherapist or an anger management professional. Role playing in controlled situations, such as anger management classes, can help you practice your techniques. Keep at it It may take some time and intense effort to put these tips into practice when you're facing situations that typically send you into a rage. In the heat of the moment, it can be hard to remember your coping strategies. You may need to keep something with you that serves as a reminder to step back from the situation and get your anger under control. For instance, you may want to keep a small, smooth stone in your pocket or a scrap of paper with your tips written down. With due diligence, these anger management techniques will come more naturally and you'll no longer need such reminders. July 18, 2005 lunaslobo 03-06-08, 07:13 AM Give Up Your Angry Behavior <!--mstheme--><!--msthemelist-->If you are the least bit annoyed, do nothing. Exercise is the best way to get rid of "anger chemicals," or just walk away and wait till you chill. Before you open your mouth, stop and think about how and what you will say. <TABLE class=MsoNormalTable style="WIDTH: 100%; mso-cellspacing: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 0in 0in 0in 0in" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 0; mso-yfti-firstrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 68.76%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="68%">Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Calmly.<O:p</O:p </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 1; mso-yfti-lastrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 68.76%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="68%">Never, ever raise your voice. <O:p</O:p </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE> If your partner thinks your voice is too loud, it is too loud. It doesn't matter if you don't agree. If you are too emotional to control yourself, see an MD for a medication evaluation. Inability to control emotions is often a real physical disorder that can be helped! Give up drinking. Alcohol use is associated with anger and violence. Never, ever hit, punch, tap or push your partner or any object. Never, ever walk away from, walk ahead of, roll your eyes, yawn, breath hard, sigh, frown, or make any other unnecessary behavioral expressions of anger towards your partner. Make eye contact when addressing your partner or replying to them. <TABLE class=MsoNormalTable style="WIDTH: 100%; mso-cellspacing: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 0in 0in 0in 0in" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 0; mso-yfti-firstrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Acts of omission are no less angry than acts of commission.<O:p</O:p </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 1; mso-yfti-lastrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Your criticism is not "constructive."<O:p</O:p </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE> <TABLE class=MsoNormalTable style="WIDTH: 100%; mso-cellspacing: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 0in 0in 0in 0in" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 0; mso-yfti-firstrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Do not make threats. <O:p</O:p </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 1"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Everything you think, do, like, dislike, wear, eat, etc., is your responsibility. Own it. <O:p</O:p </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 2"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Nobody makes you angry. You do that to yourself. That is why only you can stop it.<O:p</O:p </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 3; mso-yfti-lastrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 87.5%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="87%">Remember all these things when you are angry.<O:p</O:p </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE> lunaslobo 03-06-08, 07:17 AM Control Yourself, Not Your Partner <TABLE class=MsoNormalTable style="WIDTH: 100%; mso-cellspacing: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 0in 0in 0in 0in" cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 0; mso-yfti-firstrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">It is OK to disagree with your partner. </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 1"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><?xml:namespace prefix = v ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:vml" /><v:shape id=_x0000_i1026 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-comhttp://www.addforums.com/forums/ /><o:lock aspectratio=</o:lock><v:shape id=_x0000_i1025 style=" /><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Respect your partner's position when you disagree. Especially if you disagree.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 2"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1027 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">When your partner asks a question, answer the question.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 3"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1028 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">If you hurt your partner, apologize. (Apologize because something you did hurt their feelings, not because you did something "wrong.")<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 4"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1029 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">You tell someone about your own feelings; ask about theirs.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 5"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1030 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">You decide things only for yourself. For others you may suggest...once or twice. Only.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 6"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1031 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">When your partner tells you something you don't like, don't tell them why they are wrong or don't feel the way they say they do. <O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 7"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1032 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Listen to what they have said. <O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 8"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1033 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Ask questions to clarify your understanding of their position, but do not add your input no matter how much you want to, or "know" it is the right thing.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 9"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1034 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Don't assume you know what's on your partner's mind. Ask. Then listen.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 10"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1035 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Accept whatever answer you get; you have no other (sane) choice.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 11"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1036 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">If your partner asks for something, give it if you reasonably can. <O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 12"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1037 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Hear your partner's requests. You are not the judge of whether the request was "important."<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 13"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1038 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Do not impose anything unwanted on your partner, even "good" things.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 14"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1039 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Do not "count" deeds or things your partner did not ask for and then expect things in return. <O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 15"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1040 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Your partner's feelings are the most important thing in the world!<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 16"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1041 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">You can only tell someone about your own feelings; ask about theirs.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 17"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1042 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">If your partner does not think a "joke" is funny, it is not.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 18"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1043 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; 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mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Don't expect people to read your mind. They can't. Ask for what you want<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 20"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1045 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Accept what you get or don't get.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 21"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1046 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 22"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1047 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Don't do anything with these feelings (including judge, shame yourself, kick yourself, pretend you don't have them, etc.). Just notice them.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 23"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1048 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Articulate the thoughts, especially if something bothers you; write it down on paper so you can see it in black and white. Do this for you.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 24"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1049 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">If something hurts, let it hurt. Feel the pain, but don't dwell on it.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 25"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1050 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">There is nothing to prove to anybody.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 26"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1051 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Other people can and will think what they want. Accept that.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 27"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1052 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">It is not your responsibility to take care of another adult; that belongs to them.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 28"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1053 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Do not accuse your partner of being "selfish." It is their job to be self-caring.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 29"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1054 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">Your partner is not "too sensitive." There is no such thing. Sensitivity is a trait you need to cultivate.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR><TR style="mso-yfti-irow: 30; mso-yfti-lastrow: yes"><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 31.5pt; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width=42><v:shape id=_x0000_i1055 style="WIDTH: 13.5pt; HEIGHT: 6pt; mso-wrap-distance-left: 9pt; mso-wrap-distance-right: 9pt" type="#_x0000_t75" alt="bullet"><v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\david\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_i mage001.gif" o:href="http://www.drirene.com/_themes/irene/bbullet.gif"></v:imagedata></v:shape><O:p></O:p> </TD><TD style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 100%; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" vAlign=top width="100%">If you remember only one thing: the keyword is respect. Respect your partner. Respect yourself.<O:p></O:p> </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE> |