i take 20mgs of adderall and i am 16 years old and i dont normally eat
breakfast or lunch during the school week because of the adderall depresses my appitite and my
lunch is period 4 which starts at 9:47 AM and my friends ask why i never eat and the other day one of
my friends was offering some of us her chettos and when she was asking our other friends she was
nice about it but when she asked me she was mean kelly(friend) put the cheeto bag in my face and
was like do you want some cheetos and then another friend was saying that i was anerexic (she clamied she was joking around) help.

maybe you should find friends that aren't as mean, or jealous for the fact of the matter. A lot of people have issues with body image and I know that people refer to me as anorexic. Just tell her you don't get hungry until later on and lay off.

Does the medicine help or do you wish the side effect would go away?

Kids your age can be cruel and judgemental. What can we help you with specifically?

i take 20mgs of adderall and i am 16 years old and i dont normally eat
breakfast or lunch during the school week because of the adderall depresses my appititeWelcome. What did you used to eat for breakfast and lunch before you started taking Adderall?

Thanks for the replies, to answer your question Matt S, the adderall does help. Andrew, you can help with giving me your opinion on if i should go talk to someone at school and tell them what is going on. I am on sadd club and the club advisor is the student assistance counsler and she said that if i ever had to talk to someone i could talk to her.

Thanks for the replies, to answer your question Matt S, the adderall does help. Andrew, you can help with giving me your opinion on if i should go talk to someone at school and tell them what is going on. I am on sadd club and the club advisor is the student assistance counsler and she said that if i ever had to talk to someone i could talk to her.

I think it's always helpful to get insight (and maybe help) from a trusted adviser. She may be able to give you some helpful tips that are more relevant to the situation you find yourself in.

Being thick-skinned at your age...being able to let things roll off your back...hard to do with your peers, let alone close friends.

oh I realized something i forgot to add about this. one person at my lunch table said that they were going to bring in a cake and that they would hold me down while they made me eat the cake. they were only joking they said but it hurt because nobody can force someone else to eat.

after i wrote that too do you think i should talk to someone more then before.

My personal opinion doesn't change. I think talking to your school counselor might help.

Thanks for all of your help I will talk to a school counsler about it

Good luck! Let us know how it goes :)

Andrew, I will let you and the other people that helped how it does go.

Andrew, I will let you and the other people that helped how it does go.

keep your head up - best of luck! :)

Phospho, thanks for your support and everyone else that is nice on these forums. I am glad that there is a website like this so you can get support and talk to other people that either do have add or might have a family member that does.

Period 4 at 9:35? When does your day start? 5am?

Thankfully I'm not a product of the NYC high school system.. my parents decided to split to California before those days.

And yes, people are cruel at your age. Not sure if there's anything else anyone can say other than either tell them you get hungry late or to shut up.

Civicmon, no my school day starts at 7:30 am.

Civicmon, no my school day starts at 7:30 am.I went to a numbered IS on Staten Island and my day was something like 7:30-1:30pm or something. Helps that my school bordered the worst projects on the Island during the city's massive crime wave in the late 80s but that's another thread.

shoppingbabe -

do your best to eat something before you take Adderall. It's important to get good nutrition.

I'm glad you're going to talk w/ your school counselor! Please let us know how it goes.

I talked to my doctor about my not eating breakfast or lunch during the school week and he said thats okay and he also said that as long as I eat a snack when I come home, dinner and something else later it's okay. Also if I did eat something before or with the adderall, it would be at like 6:30 am.

first let me just say i sympathize with you and it must be hard to deal with these type of people.

i have an food intolerance to wheat and oats due to an autoimmune disorder plus i take adderall xr so you can imagine that my appetite seems strange to others. one thing i tell people when they complain that i do not eat is-

i eat when i want to, i eat only the thing i have a taste for. if i do not have the taste of it i will not eat it. really what is the sense of putting something in my mouth that i do not feel like eating?

(even as an adult people make comments- i just take it in stride but it took me some time to learn how to do it). i hope this helps.

Reading your post brings me back. . . .WAY back :rolleyes: . . . .to my teenage years (I'm 36 now).

ShoppingBabe- just remember to do what you think is best for yourself and your body. If you - and your parents and doctor - think you are eating sufficiently and are not "in danger" of becoming unhealthy, then you KNOW that you are alright. I agree with others that it is probably a good idea to talk to your counselor at school who is used to dealing with teenage issues. I found that having a mentor in one of my high school teachers was invaluable when I was going through the rough teenage years.

It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders to seek help with a group of peers (ADD "survivors" taking adderall) AND to talk to your doc about your eating habits.

As for your friends at school - just know that they, too, have their own issues and their teasing you might just be the way they know how to deal with it. If they are close friends, maybe you can just tell them that this type of teasing really bothers you (because I'm sure they don't mean to hurt you).

Geez, I would have hated to hear the above lecture when I was a teenager. . . .sorry. I guess I've turned into my mom after all. :D Seriously - keep plugging along ShoppingBabe- I promise that your social life will get easier after high school. Take care of yourself!

forgot that I can edit an existing post. . . .sorry for this lame post here. . . .user error. :o Couldn't figure out how to delete a post that is no longer needed.

I talked to my doctor about my not eating breakfast or lunch during the school week and he said thats okay and he also said that as long as I eat a snack when I come home, dinner and something else later it's okay. Also if I did eat something before or with the adderall, it would be at like 6:30 am.
Wow. I just can't help but think you would feel better with something in your stomach!

Hmmm... Let's see.... Let's say you eat dinner around 7pm on a school night and then go to bed later that night, get up and go to school without eating anything, and then come home at probably 3pm and have your snack.

Having NO breakfast and NO lunch, you are going 20 straight hours without eating (from dinner, overnight, through school, until you have your after-school snack)!

Your body and your brain need fuel to keep going and for you to function at your best. Could you maybe take your Adderall with a glass of Carnation Instant Breakfast or something? Or even just a BITE of something at lunch?

I agree. . . .Maybe put a protein bar in your backpack at night to eat on the way to school?? Although you might not be hungry, it would do you some good to make yourself eat something (and probably help with your concentration at school). There are TONS of brand/flavors to choose from these days.

Shoppingbabe-I know that your friends comments are hurtful, but if I was your friend and I never saw you eat, I would be worried. Maybe they are worried and just don't know how to talk to you about it. Have you talked to them about your situation and told them that their comments are hurtful to you. This would give them a chance to learn some ways to express their concern in more appropriate ways. If they truely are your friends, they could be a tremendous support for you. You may just need to tell them what you need.

Good luck and hang in there.

I'm sorry that this happened to you. Peers are sometimes our cruelest critics.

1. I would see if there is somewhere *safer* to sit. Whether they were *joking* or not, you have to take precautions of protecting yourself in case things get out of hand.

2. keep a journal of each time one of these verbal incidents take place, ie: time, date, who said what, etc.

3. You say you're already going to talk with the counselor. I would also talk to a trusted teacher or even the vice principal. If that's not an option in your view. Someone in your life outside of school, say a minister, or someone in authority like a coach or youth advisor.

4. Whatever you do, don't put yourself in harms possible way, by being completely alone somewhere with these students. Given the opportunity, they may put their threats into action.

As far as your eating habits since starting the meds.

1. Try eating an hour before you take your meds. Or take your meds an hour or two before you eat. Find healthy snacks, like energy bars, fruits, etc. Keeping your strength up will not only help with concentration, but will keep your energy levels at a higher rate and more able to manage your class schedule without feeling overly tired.

2. Eat small meals, say 6 x a day ....that way the heavier meal won't sit so hard on your stomach which is already upset from taking the med. (These are methods we worked on with our oldest, who took Adderal ... now she's no longer medicated). They worked well with her, but every person is different. I hope this helps, good luck!

Thanks to those that were helpful especially momness. Also these people I was telling you about are NOT close friends. today in school was pretty bad.

If anyone wants to here about my day and why it was bad, i'll post it here.

:):) anyone who cares to hear about it.

Of course - feel free to vent if you like. If someone doesn't want to hear about it, they don't have to read it. :)

....I'll be willing to listen/read.

so today was a bad day. The girl I was telling you about (the one with the cheetos) had a hand wipe and decided that she thought it would be funny to rub it on my arm and it was annoying and i got annoyed and shes like "god i was just joking cant you take a joke?". I dont like it when people put stuff up to my face or think that doing something like that is funny. I eneded up not telling any teacher about everything i am upset about toomorow i will. I had math period i had a mini melt down because of everthing that i told you. I have told them ( the people that are being cruel) that i dont think it's funny and that it hurts.

The girl I was telling you about (the one with the cheetos) had a hand wipe and decided that she thought it would be funny to rub it on my arm and it was annoying and i got annoyed and shes like "god i was just joking cant you take a joke?"
Okay.... umm.... I'm just picturing some girl with a handywipe rubbing your arm with it. I don't quite... um... understand?

But ANYWAY, I would just switch lunch tables and sit with a different group of friends. High school can be a weird time. Believe me, I know because I've been there. ;) And, please, please, PLEASE believe me when I say that one day, none of this high school crap will matter to you. It seems like the world right now (I know!) BUT.... when you *truly* start your life, go to college, move on, you will not even think twice about these annoying chicks. ;)

Are you involved in any extra curricular activities? If so, you can always just make friends with the people you are in the activities with. It might sound difficult, and it might be at first, but just get out there and get involved. It's also a great way to build self confidence.

Good luck and keep us posted. :)

Thanks and i am involved in a extra curricular activtiy. what i meant is that the handywipe thing, she thoguht it was a joke or she thoguht that it would be funny to rub it on me but i didnt think it was funny i thoguht it was annoying and immaturea and shes like god i was just joking you cant take a joke? BUT TO ME AND HOPEFULLY MOST PEOPLE THATS NOT FUNNY OR A JOKE. (sorry for the caps)

shoppingbabe, welcome. I'm the non-AD/HD mom of a 16 year old girl with AD/HD. She goes through spells when she's really sensitive - both emotionally and physically. She startles more easily when I walk into the room, sounds are more annoying, etc. IDK if it's related to her meds (until we started Vyvanse Thursday, she took Adderall XR 40 mg morning, 10 mg IR afternoon), rebound when she comes off of them in the afternoon, or just typical stuff for an ADDer. She went through a phase in pre-K when she couldn't stand the seams on socks and that was before meds.

Anyway, consider that some of your irritation may be from "jangled nerves". I would recommend that you eat a high protein breakfast in the morning. That helps keep your blood sugar more even and helps the meds work better, from what I understand. I know when I don't eat and my blood sugar drops, I'm a wicked witch (or something similar). My daughter is an almost-vegetarian. She has a Morningstar Farms breakfast burrito (soy protein) and a glass of soy milk. The burritos are frozen and only take 2 minutes to cook. She gets that in her system before she takes her meds. She usually doesn't have much of an appetite at lunch time and just grazes a little. Our high school starts at 7:30, so I know how you feel about eating at 6:30 in the morning.

There's a show on tonight that you might want to watch. It's called "High School Confidential" on the WE channel. It airs at 10:00 pm Eastern. It's basically a documentary/reality show that follows 12 high school girls from freshman through senior year. I haven't seen any previews (just commercials), but I think you'll see a lot of people you recognize. For most girls, high school is horrible. Think of it as an 8 semester boot camp to get you ready for college and life. :p

http://www.usatoday.com/life/television/news/2008-03-09-high-school-confidential_N.htm

I agree with wife&mom.... and she also reiterated what I said earlier about the eating. Sweetie, your body NEEDS some nutrition every few hours or so, to keep your body going strong, keep your metabolism going, and for you to be at your best. I'm not saying you have to sit down for a big honkin' bacon, egg and sausage breakfast every morning. I'm not a breakfast person myself. I never have been. BUT.... I at least try to have *something* even if it's just a glass of milk. Anything is better than nothing.

If you don't have a lot of time, just grab something and eat it as you're heading out the door. I take stuff with me all the time and I'll eat it even if I don't *feel* hungry. I'll list some of my favs for ya. A package of fruit snacks, string cheese, slice of cheese, slice of toast, ziplock baggie of cereal (I do this often), a "to-go cup" full of milk or juice, small package of crackers, the little 100 calorie packs of graham crackers, grapes/berries/other bite size fruit, and the lil squeezy packs of yogurt (Go-Gurt)..... :D

Thanks and i am involved in a extra curricular activtiy. what i meant is that the handywipe thing, she thoguht it was a joke or she thoguht that it would be funny to rub it on me but i didnt think it was funny i thoguht it was annoying and immaturea and shes like god i was just joking you cant take a joke? BUT TO ME AND HOPEFULLY MOST PEOPLE THATS NOT FUNNY OR A JOKE. (sorry for the caps)
It seems as if you are easily frustrated, which can be very, very.... um.... frustrating!!! :eek: Again, I've been there. (I'm trying to sound all old and wise here. hehe;)) Let me just tell you... I've ruined a few relationships because I would get soooo frustrated and mad at the silliest little things! I complained all the time and just was not happy. People always told me, "lighten up," "it's no big deal," "chill out," and stuff like that. So, I know how *frustrating* it is to be so *annoyed* all the time. I understand, I really do. After I got my meds, got organized, got my life straightened out, I feel like a completely different person. I'm one of the most easy going people now and I love it. And so do my friends. It's like that "burden" is gone or something. Hard to explain, but it just feels better being all easy going and "whatever" instead of uptight and snappy all the time. :D

Okay, sorry to get off track there. Enough about me!!!

Going back to the friends deal.... I strongly suggest you start sitting with a new group of friends at lunch, but I DON'T think you should completely abandon your old friends. Perhaps you could sit with some people from your extra curricular activity some days during lunch period?

I think it would do you a world of good to experience a change of pace. :)

thanks

Sorry there is another thing I didnt mention that I just realized. During the school week is when I don't eat breakfast or lunch. On the weekends though I do have breakfast and lunch and dinner. By the way, even on the weekends I am taking my adderall, does anyone have any suggestion to why this might be?

Sorry there is another thing I didnt mention that I just realized. During the school week is when I don't eat breakfast or lunch. On the weekends though I do have breakfast and lunch and dinner. By the way, even on the weekends I am taking my adderall, does anyone have any suggestion to why this might be?
Do you wake up a bit later? Maybe you aren't in a rush out the door? You aren't stressed? You got more sleep? You are hungry from not eating much all week?

There are many reasons that this could be.

ShoppingBabe - Man, reading your posts really does take me back. . . . .I read your posts and wish I could come back as my teenage self and hang out with you and be your friend. :cool:

I started to type up this long message full of "motherly advice" but I know you don't want to hear that. Just know that you are a very special person and one day you will find friends who will love you for who you truly are (if you haven't already). Things WILL get easier. . . .or at least change. For now see what you can do to distance yourself from the people that make you feel bad about yourself or aggravate you. You do not need that extra hassle in your life right now.

Have you spoken to a counselor. . .a professional outside of school? One of the things my parents did for me as a teen was to take me to a counselor and it felt good just to talk to someone who was impartial. It doesn't mean you are crazy or anything - it just helps to have someone listen and give you some pointers on how to deal with your feelings. I still am thankful that my parents did that for me. If that is not an option, the school counselor or a teacher might be a good person to talk to.

BTW - I think that LittlePrincess is much younger than me, but she seems wise beyond her years. . . she's right - please take care of yourself.

If you need anything, I have found that there are lots of sensitive, kind, understanding folks here who have been through any of the same experiences. . . .you can always talk to us (even though I hope you find a "real person" you can share your feelings with.

Geez, I DO sound like my mom. . . . .Lord help me! :rolleyes:

BTW - I think that LittlePrincess is much younger than me, but she seems wise beyond her years. . .
Thank you, Momness. I appreciate that very, very much. :)


ShoppingBabe- Another thing that helps me is to just take a step back and take a short *time out.* Maybe relax and listen to a quiet song or something. Then, come back and take things one tiny step at a time. Conquer one thing before moving on to the next. Simplifying your life as much as possible can make a huge difference.

I know what Momness means about the "motherly advice." I heard *all* of this stuff when I was your age (wow, that makes me feel old to say that. :p). And I know you're probably reading this stuff going, "Yeah, yeah. Whatever." I know, because I thought the same thing a few years back.

Look, you're doing the hard part right now. And you're doing a great job handling it. Just hang on and keep doing the best you can. Once you get past all this stuff and *really* start living, you'll see that many of the things you believe are *your world,* really don't mean much at all. People change, priorities change, everything is going to change. Trust me.

Good luck and please keep us posted. :)

thanks so much for all of your help i talked to a counsler today at school hopefully that will help.

Glad to hear that, shoppingbabe! :)

Are you feeling better about things?

Now it's worse THEN EVER.

Please explain?

what i meant is that the handywipe thing, she thoguht it was a joke or she thoguht that it would be funny to rub it on me but i didnt think it was funny i thoguht it was annoying and immatureaI missed this post. Shoppingbabe16, you have every right to be upset that this girl touched you without your permission. We have a hands off policy in our school district and constantly work at teaching students what that means.
and shes like god i was just joking you cant take a joke? BUT TO ME AND HOPEFULLY MOST PEOPLE THATS NOT FUNNY OR A JOKE. (sorry for the caps)She invaded your personal space and then invalidates your feelings? No one has the right to touch you without your permission. She's a bully!

So they were saying the same things again and this was really botheing me and it was three of them or more and I cant stand it anymore. I was so ****ed that i put my head down and one of the "*****es" the girls that are the problem said all fake "oh are you okay?". and i'm like leave me alone i'm ****ing leaving so i got up and walked out of the lunchroom. i had a appoitment with the school counsler again today fifth period so i went to her office for the rest of fourth even thoguh she had another kid i waited in the waiting room of the gudience office. The counsler wants to talk to these girls about everything but i realized that it wont affect them, they will still do it because i told them to stop they see it bothers me very much and also after i've told them to stop they still do it and whenever they see i am upset about what they said we are just joking god you cant take a joke. Some people are telling me to ignore them but i cant its beginging to really affect my school work and classes. I feel like i cant go to lunch anymore.

shoppingbabe16, you did the right thing telling someone about the bullying. Give the counselor a chance to help.

I'm glad you talked to the counselor. How about next lunch period, try to sit with some other friends? Perhaps some from your extra curricular activity?

It sounds to me like these girls have picked up on the fact that it upsets you so much, and that's why they keep doing it. They realize they can get a rise out of you and it's funny to them now. You are going to have to either IGNORE it (DON'T let them see you getting upset) or go sit with other people at lunch.

I know that's easier said than done... but I'm not sure you have much other choice. Unless your guidance counselor talks some sense into them, there really isn't much you can do to *make* them stop.

I hope this works out for you. I know it's upsetting.

actually the problem is that they are part of the club i am in and they dont bother me there its just at lunch and today one of them said "are you okay, your acting differntly?" it's annoying when they do this almost every day(asking if i want some food) or why i'm not eating.

today one of them said "are you okay, your acting differntly?"
It sounds like one of "them" is concerned about you. Did you explain what was going on?

Can you sit somewhere else?

Keep talking to the counselor. I guess you are worried that they may start more stuff with you if the counselor talks to them. That is a tough call. Could help, could make it worse. You should still talk to her and let her know what you are worred about.

Agree with above that none of this will matter later on, but you do have to deal with it now. A lot of teenage girls want to be cool and liked. So they will say things to others that make them seem cool (kinda like that movie Mean Girls) but they really aren't like that with out the others. Can you try to hang out with one of them? Maybe if one gets to know you a little better, she will understand and try to be sort of a buffer.

What club is it? Is there another one you are interested in? Maybe with some friendlier, more understanding people?

I don't like it when people touch me, but it doesn't bother some people. They don't understand what the big deal is. I think over time, I have gotten a little more tolerant, but still, it bugs.


You do need to eat, maybe you could take a protien bar or some sort of snack that has vitamins in it and eat that at lunch.

I think it is a good idea that you talked to a counselor. He/she should be able to stop them, or help you in some way. I would probably get new friends, or tell them to shut up.

If that is not an option you can actually explain the situation to them. Explain to them that the medicine you take for ADD depresses your appetite and that is why you do not eat at lunch time. Tell them that you usually get hungry later on and that is when you eat.

If they still make fun of you, then they are morons.

the counsler talked to them and hopefully they will stop and i dont feel comfortable telling them about the adderall becuase its none of their busniess and I DONT CONSIDER THE GIRLS friends of mine.

If the counselor talked to them then I am sure they will stop. If you don't consider them to be friends then nothing they say is of any value anyway.

I meant I dont consider them "close friends" its just really annoying what they have been doing and it;s considered harrasment.

Understood.

If you consider them to be friends whatsoever then I would rethink my position were I you. People that treat you in such a way should never be considered friends. A true friend stands up for you, does nice things for you, confides in you and allows you to confide in them. These people don't sound like friends to me.

If what they are doing is considered harassment then they will have no choice but to stop now that you have spoken with an authority figure.

i dont consider them friends.

Good, with that mindset and after speaking with a counselor you should have no more problems. Let us know if it persists.

okay and thanks for your help.

Woodbury is right.

Shoppingbabe, (this might be long, hang tight and please read) :)

This probably isn't the best time to come into this conversation, but I was recently in high school in almost the same position as you. I feel as if I can relate to you in a certain way, so I hope you understand where I'm coming from. I'd hate for you to live your high school days like this. I'm a Freshman in college now, so my memories are still fresh on the mind. I would really like to help you, finding the friends I did through my experiences will keep me so close to them, it's amazing. I'll try to get to the point quickly.

I'm going to start with the criticism from your friends.

Basically, people would give me crap and start rumors saying I was taking steroids. My 'friends' would always give me crap about it and everytime I said that I just worked my butt off, they laughed. I would laugh back and simply ask 'Want to come lift with me after practice?', they'd ALWAYS say no. I was drug tested for 2 years straight in high school (supposed to be 'random', yeah right), and it sucked because people don't want to listen and see the other side. These 'friends' finally understood that I was just working my butt off when they saw me lifting before and after practice and sometimes going to the gym after the longest day and getting at it. I didn't consider these 'friends' my close ones, or friends at all (like the people you sit with at lunch), but after they stood up for me and backed me up, I was speechless. These 'friends' are my best friends now, and I cannot wait to see them during Spring Break.

Basically, what I'm getting at here is, people will give you crap everyday, ESPECIALLY in high school. I found the best way to deal with it is to laugh it off, because if you sit there and get angry/down about it, you make yourself more open to be criticized. It's the TRUTH, I PROMISE.

Now I'll move on to how to react to your friends in other ways.

As I said, I'm a Freshman in college. I go to a big University, about 35,000 people. Now when I came here I rushed and pleged a fraternity. Here's why I'm in the same boat with you now.

I recently initiated into my fraternity and became a brother. Now I have over 130+ brothers, and let me tell you, the crap they gave me when I started Adderall was pretty annoying, but I LAUGHED it OFF.
---When I started taking it, my brothers noticed a change in how I was acting, eating patterns, sleep habits, lifting habits, etc. I would laugh all their jokes off, but hearing it from a bigger number of people made me realize I should do something.

So, what did I do you might ask?

I looked my brothers straight in the eye and said "I'm getting used to something new and it's messing up some of my patterns. Everything will be fine if you just help me and push me through the day." This seems like a pretty stupid quote, but honestly, they looked at me and didn't question what 'new thing' I was getting used to. They just smiled and said they'd be more than happy. They backed off the criticism, and got behind me 100% and helped me get through each and every day (even though my eating patterns and sleep patterns are TERRIBLE which drives me nuts).
----Eventually I told them I had ADHD and I was getting used to new medication (which I feel closer to these people because they are my brothers for the rest of my life). They smiled and to this day, keep pushing me through the day. One of my brothers actually takes concerta every day. What I'm trying to get at, is if you are embarrassed by taking new medicine or the fact of having ADD/ADHD, DON'T BE! I'm not saying to openly tell your friends what you are taking or if you have ADD/ADHD, but ask them for help to get you used to the new patterns. It will help so much. Again, I'd hate to see you go through every day like this.

Also, your counselor will be there for you. Tell him/her how you feel exactly and what you should do in some situations. My advisor here wants me to talk to her once every two weeks, and it's amazing. Keep your head up, laugh off the criticism, and eventually ask for some support.

I had a horrible night last night, didn't sleep at all, but I smiled when I saw the sun rise knowing I'm still here.

Woodbury is right.

Shoppingbabe, (this might be long, hang tight and please read) :)

This probably isn't the best time to come into this conversation, but I was recently in high school in almost the same position as you. I feel as if I can relate to you in a certain way, so I hope you understand where I'm coming from. I'd hate for you to live your high school days like this. I'm a Freshman in college now, so my memories are still fresh on the mind. I would really like to help you, finding the friends I did through my experiences will keep me so close to them, it's amazing. I'll try to get to the point quickly.

I'm going to start with the criticism from your friends.

Basically, people would give me crap and start rumors saying I was taking steroids. My 'friends' would always give me crap about it and everytime I said that I just worked my butt off, they laughed. I would laugh back and simply ask 'Want to come lift with me after practice?', they'd ALWAYS say no. I was drug tested for 2 years straight in high school (supposed to be 'random', yeah right), and it sucked because people don't want to listen and see the other side. These 'friends' finally understood that I was just working my butt off when they saw me lifting before and after practice and sometimes going to the gym after the longest day and getting at it. I didn't consider these 'friends' my close ones, or friends at all (like the people you sit with at lunch), but after they stood up for me and backed me up, I was speechless. These 'friends' are my best friends now, and I cannot wait to see them during Spring Break.

Basically, what I'm getting at here is, people will give you crap everyday, ESPECIALLY in high school. I found the best way to deal with it is to laugh it off, because if you sit there and get angry/down about it, you make yourself more open to be criticized. It's the TRUTH, I PROMISE.

Now I'll move on to how to react to your friends in other ways.

As I said, I'm a Freshman in college. I go to a big University, about 35,000 people. Now when I came here I rushed and pleged a fraternity. Here's why I'm in the same boat with you now.

I recently initiated into my fraternity and became a brother. Now I have over 130+ brothers, and let me tell you, the crap they gave me when I started Adderall was pretty annoying, but I LAUGHED it OFF.
---When I started taking it, my brothers noticed a change in how I was acting, eating patterns, sleep habits, lifting habits, etc. I would laugh all their jokes off, but hearing it from a bigger number of people made me realize I should do something.

So, what did I do you might ask?

I looked my brothers straight in the eye and said "I'm getting used to something new and it's messing up some of my patterns. Everything will be fine if you just help me and push me through the day." This seems like a pretty stupid quote, but honestly, they looked at me and didn't question what 'new thing' I was getting used to. They just smiled and said they'd be more than happy. They backed off the criticism, and got behind me 100% and helped me get through each and every day (even though my eating patterns and sleep patterns are TERRIBLE which drives me nuts).
----Eventually I told them I had ADHD and I was getting used to new medication (which I feel closer to these people because they are my brothers for the rest of my life). They smiled and to this day, keep pushing me through the day. One of my brothers actually takes concerta every day. What I'm trying to get at, is if you are embarrassed by taking new medicine or the fact of having ADD/ADHD, DON'T BE! I'm not saying to openly tell your friends what you are taking or if you have ADD/ADHD, but ask them for help to get you used to the new patterns. It will help so much. Again, I'd hate to see you go through every day like this.

Also, your counselor will be there for you. Tell him/her how you feel exactly and what you should do in some situations. My advisor here wants me to talk to her once every two weeks, and it's amazing. Keep your head up, laugh off the criticism, and eventually ask for some support.

I had a horrible night last night, didn't sleep at all, but I smiled when I saw the sun rise knowing I'm still here.

Very well put, Edgec0.

The counsler talked to the girls and it went well because today at lunch they didnt say any thing rude to me and they didnt tease me with the food.

The counsler talked to the girls and it went well because today at lunch they didnt say any thing rude to me and they didnt tease me with the food.
hey, I skimmed through this thread and I'm sorry to hear about your troubles with your peers. keep your head up. :)

have you had any luck getting some food down before school? I really think this would help you. I know when I don't eat breakfast I get really irritable, and the meds can sometimes make it worse as they can amplify your feelings. I'd recommend something high in protein about 45min - 1hr before you take your medication. Eggs, bacon are great. If you're rushed for time in the mornings, maybe you could cook you something like a bacon/egg sandwich the night before and put it in the fridge overnight.

Hang in there. :D

No I havent been eating before I take the meds, i talked with my doctor and hes okay with that. I would have to eat breakfast at 6:30 if i wanted to and that is wayy too Early.

Well, ShoppingBabe - I hate to tell you but if they are leaving you alone today about food, most likely there will be something else tomorrow. What EdgecO said was right (and smart) - laugh it off as much as you can. By letting these people irritate you, they win.

When you are out of high school, 95% of the people will NOT act this way. And, if some does you can choose to stay away from them. Believe me, there are a-holes in ALL age groups, but you get to choose who you have to hang out with. In high school, you are kind of "trapped" with the same folks for a while (or at least you can't totally avoid them). That's the hard part.

I hope that all continues to be quiet for you. . . .the most important thing to remember is to believe in yourself. You seem like a very special person - don't let them lead you to believe otherwise.

The counsler talked to the girls and it went well because today at lunch they didnt say any thing rude to me and they didnt tease me with the food.That's great news. I'm not surprised that a little chat with an adult with authority in the school stopped the inappropriate behavior. You have sent a message to them about your personal boundaries. It may take a few times, but they will get the message.

Well, ShoppingBabe - I hate to tell you but if they are leaving you alone today about food, most likely there will be something else tomorrow.That's right and functional people deal with it. What EdgecO said was right (and smart) - laugh it off as much as you can. By letting these people irritate you, they win.By letting these people abuse you, they win and it doesn't stop.

When you are out of high school, 95% of the people will NOT act this way.When you were a kid in school, did anyone say something or do something that hurt you? Can you remember their names? Most of us do even decades later. Why? Because we remember who hurts us and who makes us feel good.

And, if some does you can choose to stay away from them. Believe me, there are a-holes in ALL age groups, but you get to choose who you have to hang out with. In high school, you are kind of "trapped" with the same folks for a while (or at least you can't totally avoid them). That's the hard part.Good point. Some kids change schools or even move to another town. Unfortunately, there a bullies and victims at every school. That's why we need to deal with it.

I hope that all continues to be quiet for you. . . .the most important thing to remember is to believe in yourself. You seem like a very special person - don't let them lead you to believe otherwise.I second that emotion.

WHOA - :eek:

Imnapl - Somehow I think you misunderstood the tone of my message . . .I have posted to this thread before (and so have you I see) and have been following along to make sure everything is okay with ShoppingBabe.

I was just trying to point out that high school is a hard time and it's tough to be stuck with these folks she doesn't want to be around. I hope they will leave her alone now, BUT even if they don't, she can still be in some control by the way she reacts to the situation and by how much she lets it get to her. I agree that she should talk to an adult who can help her deal with it, but maybe she can also look inside herself to deal with it in her own way. As I said earlier, she seems like a special person and I hope she to believe in herself.

I also want her to know that high school is rough, but it will pass. It didn't seem like it when I was in the middle of all the problems, but it DID pass and things got much better. There are more choices as an adult: different groups, different types of people, different experiences. . . . so hang in there. That's what I was trying to say.

So, I'm not sure what I said that made you pick apart my last post, but I think it was a bit unfair to make me seem like a bad guy there. . . . .

. . .or maybe I misunderstood your tone (and if so, I'm sorry).

Momness, I'm sorry if I offended you, but I take bullying quite seriously, as I'm sure you do. I work with teenagers and see it everyday and help where I can. Perhaps I misjudged shoppingbabe16, but I got the impression she had tried other things to deal with the abuse before seeking the help of an adult.

I listened to a lecture about bullying by an expert in the field in a gym with 300 teenagers and about 30 adults. The speaker asked the students to close their eyes. Then he asked all of the adults in the room if they could remember the names of people who had hurt their feelings when they were in high school. Then he told the kids to open their eyes and they were surprised to see that every adult in the room had their hand up. His point was that even if it's just a comment, "just joking" (bullies like to use that one when confronted) or teasing, it can hurt and he wanted the teenagers to know that what they say to other kids today will stay with them for years. He asked the students if that's how they wanted to be remembered by fellow students.

The speaker also gave us statistics about teenage suicide. I think that as adults, unless we are right on the front lines, we forget what it's like to be thirteen and trying to survive in a high school. Kids may tell parents about their day at school, but they don't tell us everything.

Perhaps you could respond to the remarks I made about parts of your post so I can understand what you really mean.

Thinks we all have good days, bad days, in between days. It's how we intepret things on the whole that help us make it through it all. So very hard to get the tone of reading in the chat room and forum.. unless we say things like... I'm not meaning to step on toes.. or hurt feelings or nit pick... here is my experience and here is how I dealt with it on the whole. I hope it helps in some small way. If not ...keep asking for help, keep asking for guidance, keep asking for different opinions.. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Just don't ever give up and keep working at whatever is causing the problem, the pain, the heartache. Because in the long run it helps us grow. It doesn't feel like it at the time, but when you look back at it in say a year,,.. you sometimes wonder what all the commotion and stress was all about in the first place. Each and every person who posts on this forum... has something valuable to say. If we didn't we wouldn't keep reading the most recent posts of how much we are all valued in some significant way. Just my opinion ...for what it may or may not be worth. I enjoy reading everyone's experiences.

Bullying in any form... is unacceptable. Just wanted to add that. I've given advice earlier in this thread about possible options.

Shoppingbabe,

Are things going any better for you?? :)


High school is ridiculous... and it sucks that you have to deal with these people, but I guess everyone has to go through it. :rolleyes: A lot of people are so immature in high school that they don't even know how to act. They're impulsive and rude. They haven't been exposed to the rest of the world, or to deeper ways of thinking, so they don't know how to be mature. :rolleyes: These girls are probably dealing with their own insecurities, and they're trying to feel better about themselves by questioning you. ...But you just have to try to ignore them and surround yourself with a few good people who are genuine friends. :) Don't let them get to you. Even if one of them is being obnoxious, just try to smile and brush it off. And try to remember that there's a huuuuge world out there-- beyond your school and the kids in the cafeteria. :p One day, they'll realize how stupid they were acting, and you'll realize how insignificant other people's opinions are.

;)



If it really bothers you though... is there any way that you can get out of lunch?? After 10th grade, I stopped going to lunch... because it seemed like a waste of time. Instead, I got a pass from my teachers to go to the library and work on projects- or to go to the fashion room and work on stuff for the fashion show. I kind of hated the whole "cafeteria scene"... and I hated eating lunch at 10:00 AM. :eek:

(I was hassled a lot for not eating, too-- and it was retarded. :rolleyes: I just told people that I hated eating early in the day, because I wasn't a morning person...which was true. I was still getting enough nutrients though, because I drank a smoothie before I left for school, and then ate when I got home at 1 PM. Plus dinner with my parents. ...But if people don't see you eat -- for whatever reason -- they get really nosy and curious.
It's annoying...but you just have to ignore them and keep living your life...)

To all - sorry if I seemed touchy yesterday. I felt misunderstood and unfairly corrected. After seeing the response to my message, I also noticed that someone had taken away one of my reputation points for the above post with a comment of "not good advice". I just didn't think this was a very friendly - or fair - response to my last post. As Mary said, we may not all agree on everything, but that doesn't necessarily make my post bad advice. I felt that I was free to voice my opinions in these forums and now I'm a bit unsure. Anyway, I'm sorry - this thread is NOT about me. . . .I think I need to take my own advice and not let things bother me as much. :rolleyes:

Now back to ShoppingBabe's problem -

ShoppingBabe,
I think you did the right thing by involving an adult who can help you. It made the girls stop picking on you AND it might also make them think twice before doing it to someone else. Good for you - I know this must have been hard.

I grew up in a very small town in Mississippi, so the atmosphere there is probably much different than most of you have experienced. When I was in middle school and high school I was the object of a lot of bullying (both mental AND physical). I remember being frustrated, scared, and feeling alone. I did talk to the counselor at school AND my parents took me to a professional counselor as well - both helped me realize that the problem wasn't ME. They showed me how to look at things in a different way and that helped me tremendously. Instead of wondering what I was doing wrong to "deserve" this treatment and feeling helpless to stop it, I realized that the best thing I could do was believe in myself and my own self worth. I was able to see that these girls were all banding together and acting this way to make themselves feel better about their insecurities. Maybe they didn't "like" me because I was smart or because I came from somewhere else or because I didn't want to hang out with them. . . . . who knows, but their actions had more to do with their problems than it had to do with me.

Yes, involving someone who can help you is the best thing you can do. In this case, it stopped the girls from picking on you. I also think it's important to learn to accept and love yourself for who you are. You should NEVER put up with bullying or abuse - and in my case, the first step to stop the bulllying was to realize that I did not HAVE to put up with it. I went from being a victim to being someone who stood up for myself and said/did something about the problems. In my case, the shift in my internal perceptions made ALL the difference. Also, I came to see that my situation was not uncommon - the high school years are very very hard on many - if not most/all - teenagers. I was able to turn the situation into an opportunity to build up my emotional "armor" and learn valuable coping skills that I still use today (20 or so years later). Although it was a turbulent time in my life, it made me who I am today.

So, my advice to ShoppingBabe - stay true to yourself. You are doing the right thing by talking to the school counselor - that is what they are there for. You do NOT have to put up with people treating you badly. Unfortunately it will happen (one thing I've learned is that life isn't always fair), but the way you react to it will make a lot of difference.

S.B., You have done a lot of very smart and mature things - 1. You realized that you have ADD, 2. You went to a doctor to seek treatment for ADD, 3. You joined this forum to speak with others who may also be having many of the same problems as you, 4. You listened to the advice given to you and tried to make the situation better, 5. You talked to the school counselor and had them intervene to help you, and 6. You continue to lean on others to help you through these tough times. Keep it up! You seem to be on the right track. And, know that there are many kind people here who care about you and want to listen and help as much as we can.

....Phew, sorry for the long post. . . .. . . .I hope it wasn't "too much". :) Everyone out there have a great day. . .. .

Apparently I'm going through this with my daughter. She just called to say a group of girls are talking about her.. right in front of her.... laughing and snickering behind their hands... pointing straight at her, etc. Then as one leaves... yells at my daughter, saying to stop being rude... when they're the ones being rude. My daughter hadn't said a word up to that point... but responded to being yelled at, by yelling back that the other girl is the one who's rude.

I told her to go to the principal as the counselor has been no help up to this point. The counselor tells *A that she is a baby and maybe she's bringing it on herself, etc. I told her to inform him (the principal) of what's going on... and then call me back. She wants to come home again. I told her she had to try and stick it out. She just doesn't need this after losing her grandfather...and frankly, neither do I.

The counselor tells *A that she is a baby and maybe she's bringing it on herself, etc.That really pushes my buttons, even if it's masked in politically correct language.

Mary, your post reminded me of something important I started and didn't finish. A high school counselor I know attended a conference on girls and bullying, shared the outline with me and even told me I could borrow her books. I got half-way through the outline and spring break happened. I will do this as it is such an important topic, especially when you consider how many undiagnosed girls with ADD/ADHD there are.

This is from the outline:
Help the girl you are working with to identify her strengths first. You can not expect all girls to respond in the same way. By their very nature you may re-victimize them again by telling them "stand up for yourself" or just say "No." By empowering her first with her own personal strengths, she is then able to use what comes naturally to her to respond to the situation.

I also get angry when adults accuse children of tattling instead of looking into the reasons the child is trying to get adult assistance in dealing with social situations. Help the kid learn how to handle things by herself. Shutting down a kid who is asking for help is soul destroying.

This has been going on since November. The counselor has turned it all around on *A* ...and says I'm partly to blame for her problems at school, as well as her acting like a baby. I know my daughter, she is very mature at school and only gets upset when pushed.

My sister in law is checking into someone who does homeschooling. I'm also contacting 2 different schools and seeing if I can get her moved. I've had it with trying to get my point across at this one.

If my husband argues, I"m going to ask him what's more important.. his daughter's happiness and well being or the fact that she will be 4th generation to graduate from this same school. Our 3 oldest ones have already graduated from this school.

Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it.

Mary, have you tried a private therapist? I'm thinking along the lines of empowerment; building on strengths. I'd hate to see the situation at the school win.

Mary, have you tried a private therapist? I'm thinking along the lines of empowerment; building on strengths. I'd hate to see the situation at the school win.

At this point, I am waiting for a call back from the superintendent of this school. I talked to the principal 2 months ago. I haven't tried a therpist yet, since A is going through all kinds of tests healthwise and will also be having her tonsils out in April. She's overwhelmed with that as well.

I'm just totally frustrated here. This school caters mostly to the rich kids and the kids who do extremely well in school. My daughter does well, when she's not being hassled for stupid reasons. That is when her grades plummet to the ground again. If you're not among that crowd then your viewpoint isn't worth their time of day.

(not trying to step on anyone's toes with this..... but in this case, it's very true)

The movie Mean Girls is used as part of the anti-bullying program in our school district.

Ladies, I just realized this thread is in the Adderall forum. LOL! Don't you just love ADHD?

The movie Mean Girls is used as part of the anti-bullying program in our school district.

Ladies, I just realized this thread is in the Adderall forum. LOL! Don't you just love ADHD?

LOL I knew it was here.... I'm just frustrated with everything that happened today. A went to assistant principal and turned in a list of all the girls that were harassing her today. I think she's seen the movie mean girls, but if not I may get it so she can.

Still no call back from the super.

thanks for all your help everyone and momness, you are right I am on a good track in life and school.

Thank you, shoppingbabe16, for being confident enough to bring up a topic that concerns all of us. It's great to hear it from a teenager.

HA HA HAAAA.......I had forgotten that we were on the Adderall forum as well since I was so enthralled with the thread. :)

Mary - gosh, I feel for your daughter. It's a shame that the very people who should be helping her seem to be making it worse. Good for you for talking to the Superintendent - take it as high as you need to because it sounds like they have someone on staff who should not be in the position of giving ANY advice to children. Who knows what else she's told other kids! Also, thank goodness your daughter has a mother who is willing to listen and help her stand up for herself - you are teaching her valuable lessons by speaking up. Have you all gone into the school for a conference with the principal and the counselor together? It might be helpful to get you all in the room together and talk about it so that there is no way the counselor can "weasel out of it" and has to admit to what she said. The also both need to understand how hurtful the comments of a school "authority figure" can be to teenagers who are already going through a lot.

I agree with Imnapl that you should try to build on your daughter's strengths - I guess that's also what was done for me when I was a teenager (see my story earlier) and it helped me TREMENDOUSLY.

You mentioned that your daughter is having tests done for health reasons? Is it serious? Is she alright? Keep in mind that stress can play a major role in our health and immune systems. Not only is this situation upsetting her, it might be contributing to her ill health as well.

My boys aren't to the teenage years yet, but I feel for you and your daughter. I remember what those years were like for me and I know it must have been super hard on my folks,too. Good luck to you - keep us posted and make sure your daughter knows she's not alone. Neither are you. ;)

Hang in there. . . .

thanks for all your help everyone and momness, you are right I am on a good track in life and school.

YEA!!! (I'm clapping as I stand up to cheer for you!!) I'm so very glad that you are able to see that you are on a good track!!

One day at a time is all you can do. . . .you are taking the right steps and I hope it helps you to know that there is a group of us here cheering you on and checking in on you every now and then. Take care, keep us informed, and down let the meanies get you down!! :D

BTW - I hope you don't mind our "side notes" on your thread - it seems that you've gathered quite a fan base here.

Thanks, the super never called. He called the principal. The principal called me and is following up with his assistant. However, the counselor is denying all knowledge of A being harassed. Caught her in a lie right there, since A saw her on Monday about this. I told him I'm tired of the crap, that we neither one need this with everything that has been going on the last few weeks.

I also told him that the girl's parents are still showing up at my inlaws and telling them they're not the ones involved,etc. I told inlaws, that I never want to hear what either one said again and if it doesn't stop I'm finding a lawyer.

We addressed this once back in January or February. It's so tiresome to have to go over it again. I told him that *A* better not have any repercussions because she finally had the guts to turn these girls in.

Thanks to you both for your input. I WILL keep you updated.

I too apologize, Shoppingbabe. I should have started my own thread somewhere. If a mod wants to move my posts, it's ok, with me.

the counselor is denying all knowledge of A being harassed. Caught her in a lie right there, since A saw her on Monday about this. I told him I'm tired of the crap, that we neither one need this with everything that has been going on the last few weeks.

Yeah, like I said, maybe you should get the principal and counselor in the same room and have a meeting to "clarify" what really happened. The counselor would have a hard time denying it then.

Keep it up - this person needs to be accountable for what she said. . . for your daughter's sake and all others who count on getting good advice from adults "in charge".

Good luck.

Mary, it's fine if you used this post to talk about your daughter and her issues with school.

Actually, Mary, I think that what you shared with us about another teenage girl going through the same thing as shoppingbabe16 only added to the discussion.

From the Dare to Care website:
Facts about Bullying:


In the average elementary school classroom, two to three students spend their day afraid and in need of help.
In Canada, an episode of bullying occurs every 7.5 minutes on the playground and every 20 minutes in the classroom.
In any school population: 15% of students are victims of bullying, 6% are doing the bullying and 79% make up the silent majority.
Only 4% of bullying incidents are reported to an adult.
What is bullying behaviour in elementary school can easily turn into violence by middle and high school.

UGH, the hassling started as soon as *A got to school. First one of the girls bf's.... then the girl herself and her cousin. *A was so upset and frustrated she left school and walked home. I've called the school and still waiting for a call back from the VP.

SO sorry to hear that Mary. If you are able to, I think you and "A" should go up to the school together and march right into the principal's office to talk to him about the entire situation. Maybe then she can avoid having an absence on her record or being "in trouble" for leaving school as well (don't know if this is a big deal there, but it can be here in TX).

Hubby has tomorrow off work. I think he and I will be paying a visit to the school.

Boy, I wish I could be a fly on the wall in THAT meeting! Go get 'em!!

We may just be removing her from the school tomorrow. AFter talking with the VP, who tells me he can't believe the counselor would say what she has to our daughter.

He also said, the boy in question says, A has been coming on to him. She would never do that. She is embarrassed too easily whenever we think she may be wanting to date.

A- got a warning for leaving the school this morning. Instead of going to office. After two of the girls in question screamed at her for looking at a doorway. Saying she was glaring at them. A- is the one who came home in tears.

VP and Principal talked to all in question to some length this morning and all are denying that anything is going on. Which of course, they will.

I called AE, our school has to sign off on A.... before they are able to talk to her. But, that is where we're at so far.

Well something is, or *A* would not be calling me almost daily saying something else happened. From nasty notes, to being yelled at, to whatever.

My son is 16 & ADD- you do have to develop a thick-skin- easier said than done. And harder to do w/out becoming callous towards those around you. Your struggle is unique & you should talk to someone about it. Our son doesn't really open up to us too much but he goes 1/week to a family therapist & also sees his school counselor 1-2X/week. It has helped him-- just remember- that which doesn't break you can & will make you stronger. Kids that deal w/this can end up being really phenomenal people that can empathize w/others instead of being the "mean girl" that wants to force cake down your throat-- terrible!! Even if she's kidding around!! Hang in there!

Thanks, I just talked to VP again. He was asking *A* to give a better time line. I also told him there is no way she would ever ask someone to drop a GF...because the GF used to be her best friend. The BF is saying this all took place in the library. Well A doesn't go to the library. I can't even get her to go to the one up town. I can't even get her to go to after school programs.

I also told VP this has been going on more than just the last 2 weeks. That the counselor has told A every time to go back to class and suck it up. She's conveniently not there today.

I told VP that I'm doing my best to protect my child. That it's frustrating when this is going on. That when she comes home in tears afraid to go to the school because of previous meetings with the counselor. I was in shock yesterday that she finally took a list of names in and turned them in.

The boy in question says her proposition took place last Thursday. Well, I pulled her early because of my StepDad passing away. Plus they only had a half a day to begin with and no school on Friday.

Sorry I'm going back and forth on this post, too... I write as I remember things.

A* went to school on Monday but couldn't make it through the day. She was hassled then, too. That was the day of the funeral. They allowed her to come home. Tuesday she didn't go because she was and is still having a hard time with the loss of a Grandparent.

Yesterday, Wednesday... the minute she walked in the door. The hassle and the stress began. But she did finish the day, even though she called home a couple of times. Crying the whole time last night that she did not want to return today.

Today, repeat of yesterday. I talked to hubby a bit ago. I told him that she cannot and should not have to go through this on an every day basis. He's finally pulling in his reins about her having to graduate from this school.

I will post again with any updates as they progress.

Whew-- I thought it was tough having a son adhd-- I forgot about how mean girls are & what THAT must be like... good for you Mary to stand up for your daughter. Don't know how this would work but could you have a meeting/mediation w/the parents?? There's a lot of great parents out there-- we had to do this w/our son in 9th grade- kept getting into arguments/being bullied by this kid he knew from jr. high- the parents came over, the boys sat down, we all talked & we told them - This ends here & now. Not another discussion about it. Avoid each other or get over it. Done. And it worked!!

Perhaps you could respond to the remarks I made about parts of your post so I can understand what you really mean.
If you wish another member to respond to something in order for you to clear up a misunderstanding you have, please PM the member and ask them to PM you back with an explanation.

Hashing out a misunderstanding that is between two member is something that takes a thread off topic, unless the misunderstanding has to do with the OP's topic.

I will post again with any updates as they progress.Hey ladies! How is everything going on the high school front?

Hey ladies! How is everything going on the high school front?

So far, so good. She's not coming home crying anymore. She stayed in school all day for the last 2. She's not come home saying this one did this or that. Now we're on spring break.. so, keep fingers crossed for after break... please!

Mary, I'm sorry, I don't know how I missed your reply today. That is great news. Thanks for the update.

Mary, I'm sorry, I don't know how I missed your reply today. That is great news. Thanks for the update.

You're welcome.