I am afraid of waking up one day and being 75 years old.... and realizing that I have gone no where in my life...


What's your biggest fear with your ADD?

pretty much what you said.
failure.
not reaching my full potential.
hurting the people i love.

I am afraid of waking up one day and being 75 years old.... and realizing that I have gone no where in my life...


What's your biggest fear with your ADD?

Maybe there are some good things about not having had a diagnosis for 30 years. And being a woman. I had already gone through the "Mommy wars" debates and decided that I didn't need or want to "have it all". I would still like to experience career success one day, but I don't ever want to be defined by it.
I also grew up with extremely tight finances, but had a very pleasant childhood so money, while nice to have and much appreciated, hasn't been a big motivator for me.

I do have goals in life. Places I want to see, activities I want to try, things I want to show my children. Even if I only accomplish a few of them, I can't consider it having gone nowhere.

The one fear I do have is of my children growing up without feeling they had a happy childhood. They are pretty priviledged and thoroughly adored, but bad memories always outweigh good ones.

You know it is funny, I can't really say that I have any fears with ADHD/ADD. I live life one day at a time, and I try not to think to far ahead. My mind already goes 100 Miles and hour and if I were to think to far into the future it would be like an overload on my mind.

In another aspect though lately I find that I am more anxious about getting certain illnesses. It drives me nuts, I fear Kidney stones the most never had them and don't want them :), do I think it has to with my ADHD? Absolutely! But like everything else I'm dealing with it and doing just fine !!

Sometimes I wonder what it's going to 'look' like when I'm older.

Not being able to take care of myself. Particularly financially.

"What's your biggest fear with your ADD?"

Whether ADD or not I think that's a good question.

I used to be so afraid of everything. Then I got sick and tired of being afraid and I thought "Bring it on! I don't care anymore!" I waited for the sky to fall but it didn't, and then I began to feel less and less afraid and more and more in control of my own life. It was an amazing turn around for me.

'biggest fear' ?a particularly important question fraz -

- losing even a moment's unhappiness for our collective through not trying hard enough.

And what exactly does that mean ?

I don't really know
:-)
suppose it wouldn't be a fear if it could be rationalised into irrational.

Not being able to make it on my own. Not settling down because I have a hard time with relationships.

I'm afraid of doing something in life I hate and not having enough time in my life to enjoy my kids and this beautiful Earth before it too goes to hell.

All I want is to get a job I enjoy, not necessarely one that "meets my potential" because I think we often equate that with degree's or level.

I want a job I'm good at, despite forgetting to take my meds that meshes well with all that is me: meds or no meds :)

I want to be as happy as Steve Irwin was...

failure.
not reaching my full potential.
hurting the people i love.

Now that my meds are "working" a bit, I have hope that I won't experience the above again or to the degree that I have in the past. I have a TON to be grateful for. The meds are helping, I'm doing noticebly better...not perfect by any means, but better.

I guess the only fear re: ADD would be that the meds stop working or there are long term negative effects.
So in the meantime I'll research alternative therapies as an enhancement and/or back-up. I'll also take advantage of this "help" while I can and try to establish solid routiens, utilize strategies for organization, etc that I haven't been able to do before without the meds on board.
I have years of bad life habits to correct!

What's your biggest fear with your ADD?

Similar to you. That all the strange and wonderful things that I love so much (dreams, music, science) and want to know and experience will fade from me like the stars in the morning twilight.

I had a dream about this during one of the periods that I was really anxious (I had quit smoking). I wanted to join a group of people that were watching the stars .. the sky was breathtaking, like near the centre of the galaxy. But I could not move, and then the night faded into a pale gray dawn taking all the magic with it. There was also sort of incredible sad music. I have never felt such an intense sadness as then.

What a perfect way of putting this:

I want to be as happy as Steve Irwin was...

And what a perfect tribute to the man that he was! :)

My only fear with my ADD is that I won't "fix" my tendency to write in a hypomanic state (which is working less and less as I age) and therefore will lose the ability to "see" what I need to write the way I've "seen" it my whole life. If that happens, then I cease to be as happy as Steve Irwin in the work that I do. :( But I'm pretty confident that I'll get that part worked out soon, just perhaps not as fast as my (law) partners want me to.... :(

In terms of failing to reach our potentials... it seems to me that we'll all absolutely reach our potentials if we do things that we love, won't we, just because we hyperfocus on them? :) It's worked for me so far. (Now, if I could just figure out how to incorporate a little sleep... :rolleyes:).

Sandy

I am afraid of forgetting where I left my Yu-gi-oh cards.....for reals........

I afraid of failure too....failure to find a job that fits me, failure to control what is out-of-control, and hurting the ones I love. I'm tired of dealing with ADD. I love some things about myself. But, I'm afraid of the things I may not be able to change and how's that going to be seen from my family.

I guess right now...I'm feeling pretty crappy.

pretty much what you said.
failure.
not reaching my full potential.
hurting the people i love.

Exactly that. Sometimes I think I'm wasting time being worried about being a failure when I could be achieving something, arrrh!!

Not having travelled and known the many interesting places around earth. Weird isn't it?