Just because your an adult, does that really mean you can't act like a kid anymore? Furthermore who says that people who are none add adhd define the standards of society? How many people actually feel that it is not a big deal to act like a kid, as long as it can make you comfortable, laugh and just help move life a long... Is not acting your age really a big deal?

Here are some of us who feel the way you do and why:

http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=50338

Plese add your anecdotes to that list, as we'd love to hear them.

Glad to have one more of us here!! :cool:

Here are some of us who feel the way you do and why:

http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=50338

Plese add your anecdotes to that list, as we'd love to hear them.

Glad to have one more of us here!! :cool:


Thanks for the input, my apologize if my first question repeats the linked fourm. However I asked that to build into my second question. In the linked forum you are asking people to "tell" how they are acting less then thirty. I am more asking people basically is it right for people in our society to judge how one should behave if they are non ADD/ADHD? I also proceed to ask, that if you are comfortable with the way you act, what makes it so worng as long as you feel good, why not act like a kid is it so wrong?

I was originally going to post a question such as yours, but after reading your post, I came up with the above Idea...Really it takes your question and dwells a little further on it.

Great! Just wanted to make sure you had seen it and were aware that you're not alone! I'll think about your follow-up questions and get back to you ... (P.S., I do have ADD so it may be a little later than sooner!). :cool:

LOL!! I hear you :)

Well, in what aspects of a child are you talking about? Of course it's not ok for an adult to have the same mentality of a child on things such as finances, responsibility, work ethic, etc. There would be something wrong with acting like a child on those matters, and it would make your life very hard in the real world. As far as things like interaction, most adults find it frustrating to interact with someone who is acting on a child's level. It would be harder to convey complex ideas, have debates, etc. Most adults cannot relate or feel they relate to children very well.

If you are considering things like playing in the leaves or splashing in puddles, I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm assuming most of society does in some way due to the way you are portraying yourself. As a somewhat immature carefree adult who doesn't have anything better to do therefore must not have an important job, a family, etc. When we reach adult hood, we are expected to do certain things and take on certain responsibilities. If you are portraying yourself in a way that makes others think you are not putting those first, it can be putting off.

Yeah, unless it adversely affects your day to day life...be a kid. But that's just it with ADD/ADHD; the symptoms are a problem where day-to-day life is hindered by these problems, and not necessarily just based on other peoples' perceptions of those symptoms.

How many people actually feel that it is not a big deal to act like a kid, as long as it can make you comfortable, laugh and just help move life a long... Is not acting your age really a big deal?

ahhh! I'll answer! Just don't shout so loud!!! :eek::eek::eek:

(hehe)

it's funny how those BIG BLACK letters really feel as if you are standing next to me and shout in my ear like a drill sergeant!

to answer your question .. I don't think it's a big deal to act like I feel. Although I do restrain myself a bit, I think, because I am aware of it and am sensitive to criticism.

It would depend on what kind of behaviour you have. I am generally very quiet so - not too much splashing in puddles (although it IS fun :) ).

Well, in what aspects of a child are you talking about? Of course it's not ok for an adult to have the same mentality of a child on things such as finances, responsibility, work ethic, etc.
my feeling is that my immaturity is on certain areas. Not in moral sense and feeling responsible anyway, but the inattention has given me problems dealing with financial things (like forgetting to pay bills).
It's mostly social-emotional: dealing with personal relationships, and especially in groups (Sandy mentioned somewhere that the part of our brain that deals with that is not {fully} developed).
In how I relate to others: dealing with conventions, directness, touching, well, in general, the way I want to "be around" others, I feel that I am exactly like I was when I was about 8 yrs old.
I've really given this a lot of thought .. I keep coming back at that, it just feels like that.

Another thing that occurred to me over and over is that I cant regard kids "as kids". For some reason I never understood, I cannot feel different, more "like an adult". This has frustrated me quite a bit: I see people finding their way in this without any trouble, but anything any kid says to me - I take it totally serious - like I am their peer! Even if my ratio tells me that it's "nonsense" or "don't take it serious". Its really odd.

But again - it is not really too big a deal, as long as I avoid certain circumstances. If I am around people that just let me be myself without pushing or pulling and who don't mind my dreaming or playing with things I'm usually fine.

Being a big kid isn't so bad- my husband is turning 40 soon & looks & acts like he's in his 20's-- we both get told all the time that we look & act way younger so I think that's good. He's got so much energy it sometimes annoys me- but then I'm actually greatful that I've got a cool guy to hang around instead of some dude that wants to loaf on a couch all day.

Luthien you and me are exactly the same! :D

Im reliving my childhood with my kids--Disneyland here I come:)

Luthien you and me are exactly the same! :D
oh http://www.emoticons.free.fr/smileys/Emotion-Happy/smile3.gif

Losing that child inside=decay and then death

Losing that child inside=decay and then death


Failing to let go of part of it and make it grow up also equals the same.

i think a different approach to the question might better solve the problem.

Its not that people with adhd are wrong in any way. We don't get help and medication and psycho-therapy because we are different, we get help because we want it and we need it.

We get this help because we live in a world filled with people who think differently to us, organisations and systems designed for these people, and we need help to live within these systems.

There is nothing wrong with acting like a kid, however to survive and succeed in the society we live in, to be happy and live a rich and full life, attention, restraint and good people skills are crucial. These are the things we need help with.

i think a different approach to the question might better solve the problem.

Its not that people with adhd are wrong in any way. We don't get help and medication and psycho-therapy because we are different, we get help because we want it and we need it.

We get this help because we live in a world filled with people who think differently to us, organisations and systems designed for these people, and we need help to live within these systems.

There is nothing wrong with acting like a kid, however to survive and succeed in the society we live in, to be happy and live a rich and full life, attention, restraint and good people skills are crucial. These are the things we need help with.


Good Point! Thanks for the information.
The question that I asked itself is rather none specific so I apologize if it hard to follow for anyone

Myself though, I have done well without seeking help. Acting like a kid is actually somewhat rather abstract of a term. This could mean Literally acting like one, or it could mean taking on a few of the characteristics of one. Me I am the latter. It is not a problem or symptom, its just more of my character and the way I am. I have ADHD, which sometimes causes me to act a bit more goofy, and do sillier things then most average adults. However I am not ashamed in anyway of the way I act. You either like me or you don't like.
I mean who and what defines what is appropriate behavior in our society. For a person who does not take medication, I am quiet successful in my life and I would more successful then a lot of people with out ADHD :). . In general I don't think there is anything wrong with taking on some characteristics of a kid, as along as you can maintain a certain level of professionalism and maturity. Heck I think that in many ways it helps me to act a little goofy or silly at time, my stress, is almost null, and my worries ar few. I would more safely say that some people need help with this and not all (we) in this case.

Oh i would like to apologize for "YELLING" or should say sounding like i am "YELLING" I was not, I just wanted to make sure you guys saw the questions. LOL Yhea thats it!

well yeah when the times is right.