not sure if anyone else struggles with the annversry of someones death...it was 2 years ago march 30 that my dad died.....not a good day for me

not sure if anyone else struggles with the annversry of someones death...it was 2 years ago march 30 that my dad died.....not a good day for me
hugs TD
xxxxx

Teedrum, I know lots of people who struggle on anniversaries. That's why when I read an obit that's close to Christmas I can't imagine having to deal with it. Tell us about your dad.

((HUG))

I have that too...My Mom died May 14th and it happened to be the day after Mother's day. I was pregnant at the time. Now I hate Mother's day. I have TONS of leftover trauma about it...geeze it's almost like a lifetime movie!

I'm sorry TEE.....:(

I sure can empathize. For several years, the anniversary will be part of your grieving ... after that, there will come a point when you begin to take the anniversary as an opportunity to bittersweetly remember the good things and to honor his time on this earth.

Hang in there, T-drum. P.S. I'm with Imnapl if you're up to talking about him ... anytime or way that works for you.

It's tough for sure, my Dad died on July 29, the birthday of my nephew who died from a gunshot wound when he was 9 years old. It's a double whammy for me, and my Dad passed 7 years ago. I feel your pain. Hopefully your friends here are helping.

I know i struggle on not just the aniversry of my grandpas death. but also on his birthday. he was more of a dad to me than my own dad. One thing that may help is do something on that day that you both liked and it may help by honoring his memory.

Hang in there Teedrum. The pain does ease with time.

We all grieve differently. Certain dates bother me and others don't. My wifes birthday is the same as when my father died when I was young. Strange how sometimes we may not think of someone but when their birthday or anniversary comes around we do.

Big hugs Teedrum. I do know how you're feeling. Although sometimes others bad days, is someone else's good days, yesterday was my twins birth day, they're 20.

I lost my Mom December 20th(but they kept her on machine till Dec. 21st), 2002. She died from a stroke. Somehow we crammed visitation, Christmas and her burial all into one week.

My Dad (step-dad).... March 20th, 2008 ....supposedly natural causes. In the midst of our sorrow this past week, our momma cat had her kittens. Something to take away a little of our grief with the miracle of birth.

I'm here too, if you need someone to listen. ((((((((HUGS)))))))))

Teedrum,

(((Hug))) Lots of dates to think about, some good some not so good - like deaths. My worst one is 14 Oct. my first granddaughter (Jessica Rose) died. My best date 31 Oct. My grandson was born and I was there to see it. Born on Halloween, he calls himself 'the devil child'. I'll show you a picture it might cheer you a little.


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That look on his face is because we told him to choose a lipstick. lol

{{{{Big Hugs, Teedrum and lots of Cyber Tisues}}} I know everytime the anniversaries of my Grandmother and my Dad's come up, I find those days hard to deal with, too. But then I know neither of them would want me crying all over again. No they would want me to remember them with joy and yes even laughter and keep them and their memories alive.
One thing I do know We are a part of those we seem to have lost and the bonds are never broken. That's the beauty and strength of Love. It endures and is forever.
Teedrum you have lots of friends. Grab one or all the hands you need for strength encouragement , or just to commismerate with. We're here for you and really do care. If only I could reach through our computer screens to give you a real hug !

Peace and{{{{ More Hugs,}}} Hon Contact me anytime. :D

Hugz and comforting energies to everyone who is hurting because they miss someone they loved.

My mom certainly knew all about this. She knew she was dying of cancer and was very concerned that she would not die on any of her grandchildren's birthdays, although I think the funeral was on my niece's birthday even so.

My sister died last year on Christmas Eve, but I am reminded of her the most each week when I clean a salon-spa because she worked in a beauty salon in her town.

My hubby and I were married the day before Valentine's Day, and when we broke up Valentine's was a very difficult time for me. He died from a heart attack one year after we were divorced (he was only 50) and his Wake was on my birthday.

If you have a lot of people in your family or have lived as long as I have, it's pretty much a given that when someone dies it will be pretty close to or on a date that has meaning for you.

Thankfully, it does get a bit less painful over time.

Teedrum,

This has been nice really as it gave us all the opportunity for some peaceful reflection. I hope tomorrow find you feeling a little brighter.

I'm sure that must be really hard :-(
((((((hugs)))))))

Thanks for the support guys....

My dad died of a heart attack suddenly on the way home from a bike ride. He had diabetes and was diet controlled for a while but then he stopped going to the doctor. In 2004 he got an infection in his foot and almost lost his foot. He ended up getting his diabetes back under control, but it was to late. After the autopsy they found out that my dad had a heart attack that no one knew about . The thing is taht he was fit, almost underweit and in the best shape of his life....it was the worst day of my life

Sorry for your lost.

Thanks for the support guys....

My dad died of a heart attack suddenly on the way home from a bike ride. He had diabetes and was diet controlled for a while but then he stopped going to the doctor. In 2004 he got an infection in his foot and almost lost his foot. He ended up getting his diabetes back under control, but it was to late. After the autopsy they found out that my dad had a heart attack that no one knew about . The thing is taht he was fit, almost underweit and in the best shape of his life....it was the worst day of my life

Thank you for the reminder that even though we think things are under control. They may not really be. Especially for those with diabetes... My Dad was diabetic.... one of the things listed on his death certificate was blood poisoning and his leukemia. The blood poisoning shut down his vital organs, he'd had the leukemia for 20 odd years. But it weakened his condition so much that when he got this last infection...he took over his whole body.

Once again, Teedrum... big hugs from me.

I can relate to that. My mum died just last year, haven't reached the 1st year anniversary yet, that will be June 20. But I know mothers day will be hard. This time last year my brother and sister and I were wondering if our mum would reach mothers day and what we would give as a gift.