A couple months ago one of the local news magazine shows did a program on something called 8 Minute Dating. Its pretty much a night where a bunch of single people get together and they have 8 minutes to talk with somebody. Then when the 8 minutes is up they move on to another person. They each have a check list and if both people like each other they set up a real date.

When I was out last night I saw a sign at the restuarant for a local one in my area. My husband and I both joked about how fun that would be if we were single.

To me it sounds perfect for people with AD/HD.

I also saw something else about a similar program but that one was only 3 minutes...lol


Here's the URL for ithe 8 minute Dating site.
http://www.8minutedating.com

wait, you mean an 8 minute date isnt the norm?! Crap............

Seems kinda gimmicky to me. Yeah you may "click" with someone in 8 minutes, but I think we all know that the cute stranger with the witty repartee may turn out to be an absolute JERK once you know them for _longer_ than 8 minutes :)

I don't think I'd do it... dating is tough -- 'nuff said!

No offense but i'm not sure i'd wanna meet the kind of people who go to things like that...It's just like personal ads they just seem too good to be true and they show u all the pics of the beutiful ppl you'll meet when in reality most beutiful non psychotic ppl don't have trouble getting dates and the ones who do don't swallow there pride and do things like that....
I could be wrong somewhere there could be lots of cool ppl getting drunk and doing these things for fun but for the most part i'd say it's sad but true it's survival of the fittest out there and ur prob better off just going at it the normal way.....

There are numerous reasons people join dating services and use personal ads. There are many attractive people who are not psychotic who have trouble meeting people. Some spend a lot of time at work, some are new to the area they live in. Some people do not do well in regular social situations like bars.

Okay, I must admit, I have done the yahoo personal ads thing. Of course, there are those people in the ads, that have a tendency of just looking at your picture or not reading for what you are looking for in a mate. I get tired of people that are out of my age range wanting to hook up. The last person who contacted me seemed to be someone I was willing to talk to a little bit more. So some emails have been exchanged.......well, I have not heard from him in a week and I sit here thinking.......okay what did I do or say wrong............

Yes, I've done it too. One thing I've found is that most people do not look like their pictures. I have met some nice people, though....just no one I'd like to spend the rest of my life with.

As for the 8 minute dating, thanks livingwithadd for the info. I don't know if I would have the courage to do it, though. Being behind my computer screen is much safer emotionally. But on the other hand, I could be in love, out of love, and having an affair in 8 minutes, so....

Sounds like its worth a try.

I think it would be fun if you went into it with an open mind

Do you think my wife will let me try it out so I can tell you guys about it

Ill ask her right now

if I dont write anything else you will know im laying on the floor

There's nothing wrong with personals ads. It's an old, tired myth that the only people who use them are the losers, the rejects, and the pathologically ugly.

In this modern world, we're pickier than ever about our mates -- we want physical chemistry, lasting romance, intellectual stimulation, barrels of laughs, good child rearing, nice teeth, toned abs, a good income, "no baggage" (yeah, right), and so on. The laundry list just gets longer as time goes by.

Most adults realize by a certain age that the simple fact that that girl (or guy) at the supermarket is cute and flirts doesn't mean she (he) is not a psychopath. IE, meeting people in "real life" does NOT guarantee or even really make it more likely that you'll meet a nice person who you're compatible with.

It's simply not true that good people are interchangeable like legos. Two people can be totally wonderful, with-it, mentally healthy, emotionally ready individuals -- and want to tear each other's throat out within minutes. There is such a thing as simply not compatible.

I'm not saying it's wrong to be choosy -- I think it's a good idea -- but it does narrow your possibilities somewhat. If you add to this the fact that despite an increasingly crowded world, we're getting more and more cut off from the people around us -- no more extended families, no more village matchmakers, even the "social" is a thing of the past -- and you have a recipe for a lot of lonely people. Not losers, just dissatisfied with the run-of-the-mill choices around them, and looking for more.

Hence -- the personals ads. Yes, yes, there are a lot of strange people on personals ads, and there are quite a few liars -- but how is this different from everyday life?

I think that before long, (online) personals will become the defacto "normal" way to meet your true love.

As to false pictures -- not much you can do there. In a way it's not a new problem though. Who hasn't met/dated someone who looked great on the date, but who slowly got more and more slovenly and disheveled as the relationship progressed? IE, don't we all "sell ourselves" a little when dating? The ethical question is when "selling yourself" crosses the line into dishonesty... I'm not going to put a picture of myself from 10 years ago on my personals ad; who would I fool? I'm 33, and I look like a 33-year old. A 23-year old man still looks like a boy (no disrespect intended, 20-somethings :) ) in some ways, but by the time a man hits 30, life has hardened him a bit. Sure he's got a bit of grey at his temples and a couple lines on his face, but he no longer looks like a kid. Anyway, my point is (damn, I'm ADD :) ) that anyone who met me would instantly know that the picture was false, and if they used that picture as part of the attraction, that's the end of the date right there. But the flip side is, I'm not going to intentionally use a bad picture -- I'm not going to pick one where I have two day's growth of beard and am in bad need of a haircut, with bags under my eyes from lack of sleep, and scowling. I use a picture that does accurately reflect me, but it shows a groomed me, smiling and looking cheerful.

Boy, I sure ramble.

-- Tom

I've always been so nervous about posting an ad.. do you all mention you are ADD? I mean it is a major thing in my personality. I just don't know what I should say or more importantly what not to say.

Personal ads are "okay". I tried them for over a year, and out of all the ones I met, I met one nice lady whom I dated for about 8 months. She was a good woman, and very lovely. It was the closest thing to a healthy relatiohship I'd had in 5 years. I'm glad I met her.

The down side is that I met a LOT of unacceptable ones.


Glen