"I am sorry, it is not a good fit, we are going to have to let you go"

These words have been used on me many times. According to the formal legal Employee Handbook the boss was supposed to give me a formal step by step process of progressive discipline. First should be an oral warning, then a written warning, then a performance improvement plan, then a final warning then after buy in by HR and senior management they could fire me for an inability to do the job.

None of those things were ever done for me, I am always blind sideded and fired when I least expected. The boss will always act like they were doing me a favor. Does this sound similar to what you have experienced?

Have you talked with a disabilities lawyer?

http://www.eeoc.gov/

I suppose there might be a difference between an "inability to do the job" and just not "being a good fit," to use your words and their words. I'm sorry this happened to you again, and I sincerely hope you are doing alright. It may be the company's way of getting around the policies that you mentioned in the HR handbook, saying you are not a good fit, especially since you have heard this before.

I know that the company I work for, they can fire an employee on the spot for certain things that are not even mentioned in the employee handbook, with no ladder of discipline at all.

Wow. Employers are so predictable. One of my employers used the exact same words.

Have you thought of contacting the Labor Board?

http://laborboard.com/

Can you ask for highly detailed feedback? (e.g. quotes and in/action examples)

I think this could help you grow in your performance and boost your JOHARI window status, and boost your self-monitoring (ADDers are often low 'self monitors').

JOHARI Windows:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johari_Window

Self-Monitoring:
http://behavioural-psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/their_opinion_matters

http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=51829


you are'nt alone.
...I know how you feel, it hurts our esteem, and wallet.

good luck finding a new one, I'm looking too.

What I would do is take a Myers-Briggs Personality test and come up with who you are, and how you view the world. I am an ENFP/INFP meaning that I am an externally focused/internally focused intuitive person who deals with things by how I feel about them on a personal level.

I really like the test at www.personalitypage.com, and would suggest their descriptions, as they seem to be more detailed than other places.