what can that be?

I'm not quite sure what you are referring to in this post. Are you saying you are the only one who does this, or are you asking if others do it too? Well, if it's the latter then you are certainly not alone with this one! I do this alot, simply because i feel the need to be away from people at times. I work 9 to 6 Monday to Friday and it takes an hour to travel there and back. Because of my not so good social interaction and working long hours (in my opinion) i like to lock myself away and spend time on my computer, especially if i have had a bad day at work.

What's your relationship like with family and friends? Do you talk to them much?

I like to be alone too, I spend my days off sometimes just alone in my room or in my garden.

I like to be alone too, I spend my days off sometimes just alone in my room or in my garden.

me too...

Sustained interaction with people is taxing. I definitely need to take a periodic break...

Sustained interaction with people is taxing. I definitely need to take a periodic break...

I never thought about this way, but it makes perfect sense. I find it exhausting to interact with people sometimes. Especially at work. I definitely hide away for days at a time not wanting to interface with the outside world if I can help it.

I love being alone because it allows me to re-charge my batteries. I think I'm able to give my friends and family the best of me because I'm not cranky, short tempered etc.

And if there are annoying aspects to my ADHD, at least I can spare my loved ones the angony!

I love being alone, although I do connect with people when I must...BUT I've spend days in my room away from people for long long periods.

I'm alone by choice most of the time.
While I do like people (some, anyway) it does exhaust me to be out among people.

And I hate it when I slip and make someones day less good because I have a crying fit or get cranky or something because I am worn out.
I don't resent showing negative feelings all in all, but people should "earn it" by hurting me or pressuring me, they shouldn't just become innocent bystanders when I hit my stress button. I hate when that happens.

And besides: I LIKE being alone! :)

Marytza, if you are still working at the restaurant, you are likely very busy, helping demanding people all day. It's okay, no matter what you do though, if you just need to defrag and take some time to recharge, and have nothing demanded of you by anyone. If you have any sensory issues, it may be even more easy to go into sensory overload and need that downtime to "recover."

I can take a full weekend and stay at home and be quite happy for all kinds of reasons! :-)

Yes, just wait 'til you have young children and a husband who works nights and a baby who won't sleep. Enjoy your down time while you can.

I'm an extreme introvert, I've spent weeks and even months alone in my room. Since I've got a couple good friends now though I've had some social interaction. I'm now without a job again, and never have any money to do much.

sounds like my roommate... An EXTREME hermit(works and that's it! comes home and locks himself in his room, day after day). Nice guy, but very ADD and very weird. Of course I'm ADD as well, but I'm fairly social when I want to be. Postives.... quiet, respectufl roommate. Negatives... when you need to talk, the guy barely can handle a conversation! Hasn't been out with a woman in years either. The ADD people I have known throughout the years(only 3 or so) have kind of got on my nerves almost more than most "normal" people. Maybe I just dislike living with anyone though. We also have nothing in common, which makes things bad as well.

no you are'nt alone.....I sit in here with my puter while thesun goes down and comes up.
.......I always feel alone, even when I'm in a crowd.

I feel to crazy to impose it on someone else alot of times.
....I think a spaceship might be coming to get all of us back to our planet.

I'm afraid we have been exiled on this planet... :)


....I think a spaceship might be coming to get all of us back to our planet.

I have enough to talk to myself about without the interruptions of other people! :p

Ironically, I feel more "alone" in a supermarket full of people. When I'm by myself (a rare treat when you have 3 kids and a husband) I just feel like "me", nothing to hide, nothing to 'fake'... *sigh* yes I quite like being alone...

From time to time, I come out of my 'shell' and have a sudden need to get out for some wild fun... you know, like bowling or pool...really crazy stuff...hahaha

shoot, I think the cookies are burnin'...forgot to set the timer...again

Yes, just wait 'til you have young children and a husband who works nights and a baby who won't sleep. Enjoy your down time while you can.

Wow, that was me 30+ years ago. Even though I didn't know anything about ADHD at that time I realized I wasn't cut out for that life and I stopped with just one baby. In a couple of years she was old enough to go with her daddy to visit his family on the weekend and give me a couple of hours of alone time - which nearly saved my sanity. That was truly a crazy time of my life and not the best way to raise a child, but my hubby didn't have a clue why I was so cranky and difficult, and it was frustrating for me that I didn't know why either.

I like spending time with my friends.
But I also enjoy spending time on my own. I enjoy doin my own thing. Whether its listening to music, researching something, going for a walk or run, training...
Sometimes I need to recharge my batteries. I need time to just think about things.

no you are'nt alone.....I sit in here with my puter while thesun goes down and comes up.
.......I always feel alone, even when I'm in a crowd.

I feel to crazy to impose it on someone else alot of times.
....I think a spaceship might be coming to get all of us back to our planet.

what can that be?

I've done that too... going to my room and spending a lot of time apart from everyone - even when I was a kid. I don't anymore - but like SuzzanneX, I spend a lot of time on my computer until about 2 or 3 in the morning. I think we do that because we are not likely to get distracted when everyone is asleep (until our dog starts barking to get my husband to go to bed after he falls asleep in the recliner:D). So I believe the main reason we do this is because during the day when everyone is awake and trying to talk to us while we work (or are performing a task on our computers), we are being distracted and can't concentrate or our concentration is broken constantly and we have a hard time remembering what we were doing or about to do. Does that sound familiar, marytza?

You are not alone .... I am like that as well .... and yes hanging with people can be taxing for me ....

But I am trying to relax so that when I hang with people, I am expending less energy, so I won't be so exhausted afterwards ....

I definitely benefit from really good human contact, but I can probably spend more time alone than the average person ... damn, is this an adhd thing? ... Interesting.

When Ditzydreamer said "I have enough to talk to myself about without the interruptions of other people!" I almost fell out of my chair laughing. I feel the same way.

As many others have stated, the act of social engagement can be quite taxing on me. I'm probably the life of the party a great deal of the time but it's not because i'm a great entertainer, it's because i'm so uncomfortable that you can't shut me up.

I've found that after any social exposure of any kind I spend half a day analyzing my "performance." Why did i say that? I wonder if they found that offensive? Geez, that must have sounded dumb, why didn't i respond this way...... I'm such an idiot. Well, that will probably be the last time they want to visit.

I was just diagnosed ADHD 3 weeks ago. There may be other underlying problems, dunno yet, but my being more comfortable when i'm alone is the only way i can remember being since my mid teens.

.... how many of you have sensory issues? (raises hand)

I thought it was just me who can easily spend days in my room and not move and interact with people!!!

I love it....

my friends always get bored when they are alone for like an hour, i don't understand how they can get bored and lonely....

i work 9-5 mon - fri and through the weekday i need my own space and time, work exhausts me.. i need time away from people to re-charge..

weekend is a time to socialise and have fun :D

I cherish my "alone time" even when I'm not really alone (such as communicating with people on this board).

Parties- I find that a lot of conversations taking place in social situations become tiresome to me very quickly. If they're talking about something I just don't have any interest in it's hard to pretend to participate. I'm usually there with someone who is happy to go on for hours about things that I either don't care about or don't care to know about. So I find myself walking around outside, or making repeated trips to the refreshment table, or wandering off to talk to someone else. Just when I think we are ready to leave, the person I'm with starts talking with somebody else or about something else. So I stand quietly and tolerate, feeling that internal frustration grow.

Well Marytza,

It is amazing to me that your thread is carrying on without you. Where are you? I am not sure if this thread is rambling off topic or not - without your input. Was there something you wanted from your post - or was it just a random thought that doesn't bother you any more?