i've always been violent as child. as i grew up, coz of it not being very socially acceptable, i learned wats to constrain my violent nature and hatred doesn't get expressed as much it used to.

i get mad over unreasonable things....

right now i'm so **** mad, and i won't tell you why, coz like i said it's unreasonable. i already talked to person who caused this. it's really not his fault and i don't have any good reason to get mad at him... but that's it i'm mad, just mad.

on an ordinary day a few years ago i would have already gone berzerk, literally. things would get really messy. i've seen what happens when i let my wrath get the better of me and i'm trying to avoid that.

i'm on my way out to drink with some friends and have a good time... i'm afraid i might go vent this out on the wrong person, animal or thing.

constraining myself is one good thing i learned but i know it's not enough. i need to have this wrath expressed. i used to play tennis, hitting those poor balls actually feels great, especially when you're imagining someone you hate.

to sum it up... actually writing this down sorta made me feel better. ok, so writing it on the forums is actually a good alternative to punching like crazy an innocent person.

i don't know, lets talk bout how you guys deal with anger. it comes with being ADHD anyway, we have problems with inhibition, that sorta stuff.

bekindtoedward I give it away. I give my anger away to anyone but me.... on a good day.

Most times I never make it that far and end up getting angry anyway but sometimes when I'm on the ball I can let it go.. I'll give it to a chair or something stupid but I give it away and walk on knowing I would have made a mess.

Other times I'm just stronger now than I used to be and it rises up in my gut and then falls back down almost instantly on it's own.

The ones I hate are the angers that perk along for days waiting to explode. These are usually the ones that lead me into trouble. These ones require firm action to avoid. Meditation is a sure fire way to kill them for me but meditating is not an easy choice for me. I'm familiar and somewhat comfortable with anger... meditation is not as comfortable. Splitting wood seems to work well to take the edges off my rage. ehhe

Easy does it... Ian.

Where is the anger coming from? I know in my own experiences the majority of my anger began as frustration.

What has helped me a lot of acknowleding that I am frustrated by things and allowing myself to be frustrated. It's ok to be frustrated...

Thank you Tara as you helped me to explain my post

I was going to a (sike) (spelling) (pysic) clinic and we were discussing my anger

(Grin can you use your super admin powers Tara and correct that for me )

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and one of the other people there said

What happens before you get angry

And I said its ussually when I get frustrated then I get angry next
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And then he said (again)

What happens before you get angry

And I said its ussually when I get frustrated then I get angry next (I told You)

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And then he said (again for the 3 rd time)

What happens before you get angry

And I said its ussually when I get frustrated then I get angry next (like I told you the other 2 times ) (and I can feel myself getting frustraited now)
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AND ALL HE SAID WAS

"BINGO"

"AND THE LIGHT WENT ON " as the expression goes

It sure made a drastic turn around in my life to discover that simple little thing

Wow Garry, that was a great point you made and one to remember.

I have had anger problems as well even where violence became an issue, but the violence was directed to an object and not a person. But the anger has caused me to end up in jail a few times. I finally learned, my triggers such as when I am more likely to have an outburts and PMS is the key for me. And with PMS, I had to learn what types of envrionments I had to stay away from.

I had to learn to walk away and stop.

The violence is now undercontrol.....I believe I just figured it out on my own, I guess having to go to jail helped me. Jail happened before my diagnosis and I eventually put everything together. By the way, the charges were for public intoxication and attempted assault. On the public intoxication I paid the $140 fine and the assault charges were dismissed.

I have to share this with everyone. I lost with my eight yr old daughter this morning! She woke up in a decent mood, however, it went downhill fast. She told her daddy that she wished he was dead before he left for work. Then she refused to go and brush her hair and teeth after me asking about 25 times. She just sat in floor and looked at me, even after telling her she would be grounded for 2 days. I have to be at work at 8:00 and it's a 25 minute drive from my house. So, I go after her and she starts running! I had to tackle her on her bed and then she starts screaming to the top of her lungs! I'll do it mommy, I'll do it. How in the world am I suppose to handle this? I am such a great morning person, and I have to deal with this each and every morning. She too has adhd.

Does anyone have any advice for me?

Kathi, not to be insensitive to your post or anything...but I believe your message belongs in the parent of a child area of the forum....not very related to this topic of adults with anger issues.

bekind, I have anger issues as well...I have a WERID, roommate and he drives me crazy(the guy is a wanna be male model, and has had 4 plastic surgereys)....anyway, I go off on him every few months(he also stays at home almost 24/7). This past THursday, I go off on him...screaming in his face,etc...the next day he CALLS THE COPS! I wake up and the cops are at my bedroom door, WTF!! anyway, the guy is amazing...I have NEVER even touched him(he says he is afraid of me, cause I am bigger than he is)... anyway, I am trying to get a hold of my anger issues...I think like other's have said, its associated with frustration(my frustration is having recently broke up with my girlfrined, getting fired from 2 jobs in 2 months)...you might need some therapy, medication...have you tried one or both???

not to be insensitive but it's kind of comforting to know that there are others out there with anger issues other then me. I wish I could answer some of your posts but I am still tring to cope with my anger issues. before meeting my wife everyone used to say I was so misrible. I would fly off the deep end for every little thing. my wife knew how to deal with so i wasn't as frusterated with her. the stratara is helping but not so much for the anger. i still have anger issues sometimes. i am tring to cope.

oops, you all are right! I do need to post this elsewhere, I was really only thinking of my adult anger. Sorry!