One of my main problems with ADD is my inability to keep a schedule, as of recently I have made efforts to correct this. My new problem arises when my whimsical/forgetful girlfriend forgets to tell me things. Her and I hang about about every night, and as of recently she has called me an hour before I get off work, or out of class to tell me she forgot about this previous obligation, or to tell me that she decided to go out to eat with parents, etc. These changes of plan seem to utterly destroy me. When I take so much time to plan out my days and in one phone call I have an entire open evening. While some would be appreciative of this free time, I find it almost impossible to cope with and become depressed. My real question is whether or not this is reaction is a result of ADD, or perhaps something else
perhaps this has something to do with being overly sensitive?
Sounds to me like you've found an excellent way to manage a schedule, and cope with your ADD...and your girlfriend is the one that needs to understand that. I don't think you need to change...in fact, I think she needs to work on her short & mid-term memory...and be more considerate of YOU.
Just my $.02
03-09-04, 09:29 PM
Big's got a point.
Seeing as this is something important to you, discuss it with her. I say, if she really cares, she'll be willing to work with you, work on herself, and not fudge up your progress. If not, then personally, I would move on. But that's just me.
I have to agree with Big on this
sounds like you are really working hard at getting it together for yourself
03-09-04, 09:56 PM
I would discuss it with her in the same detail as you've discussed it with us, and if she refuses to change, start retaliating. Plan a few nights away from her and don't tell her until the last minute. Maybe she'll get the message.
03-10-04, 12:51 AM
hmmm, sounds a bit thoughtless or is she ADD?
03-10-04, 12:55 AM
Kevon if only I had it together like you do at the age of 17...Shoot if only I had it together as much as you do NOW...How great life would be. Open communication is the key to any relationship you have the right to say that really hurt's me when you do that.
thanks very much for you input everyone, I appreciate it and you (all) have made me feel much better about myself!