... I am just going from one subject to the other... :)
I think in my other post I have touched upon this that my ADHD has had an effect on my marriage unknown to me really. Does anyone else find that now that they are being treated it is going to be fixed and that it should move on. I find that there were issues before due to this, and hey maybe more, but not sure I am married of course there are other issues, but to me now that they are known, or I am "officially" diagnosed that and I am trying to change that erything should be fixed and back to normal. I found the problem and am fixing it so it will be fine.This seems to be my thought process and i am having some difficulty getting past it. I feel that now that it is know and we are working on it things should go back to normal and we should continue the way it wa before. I just want to move n I guess like nothing happened but I guess that is not the case. This is not entirly true becuase obviously there was a problem that was compounded to a point to were I am at now. I just want to go back to have a happy marriage and not have a lot of questions. I had stated to her before I wish I could go back 10 yrs and get treated then, so we are not were we are now, obviousely she has the response that I am sure everyone is thinking, you cna't and what is done is done, you can't change it. My thing is that I want normalcy and to have to worry about what may or may not happen. I am not sure I have clearly gotten my point across about what I am talking about, it might just be wanting a definitive answer about something that doesn't have one...i.e. how long is this going to take to fix and when are we going to be back to "normal". That sounds about right...

Have either one of you thought about getting some marriage counseling.. to work out the issues that both of you have? In order to have some semblance of the normality you seek... you both have to keep communications open..and be willing to work hard to keep your relationship on a workable, loving level.

If she doesn't want to agree to that.. I would consider going to a marriage counselor alone. Just my opinion.

If you're seeing a counselor about your ADHD.... talk to him or her..and see what they suggest, as well.

Actually, I am having the same kind of problem here. I was diagnosed in January, but it seems like things are getting worse rather than better. So weird! We talk about it and he will read any info. I give him..but it is hard!

Just want to say I am adjusting to a "new" me after diagnosis and trying to bring my husband and kids along for the ride. I have a post in this section under "What do I do now?" that explains what is going on for me. Other than that, I just wanted you to know you are not alone.