I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible. Essentially, for as long as I can remember I've always had issues getting close to people. It's very hard for me to open up to my so sometimes and I'm not sure why. I'll have little breakthroughs every now and then, but a lot of the time I'm just in my own head and I won't really talk.
When I DO feel a moment of closeness I get scared. I'm not really sure how to deal with this.
I think this is made worse by the fact that he has ADHD as well.
Any suggestions or just comments are welcome.

yea cause we arent using only our heads like the neurotyps... we are feeling gut feelings and **** more so than normies.

I think that that can be a common issue that people have, fear of intimacy, or getting close to others. It can be ADHD or a host of other things. I recommend a decent counselor to all with these sorts of problems, but also get screened for stuff by a doctor where drugs can help, your therapy bills will be lower, and recovery faster.

Thank you both for the responses. I think it is just a normal fear, but it gets exacerbated by me being in my head too much to voice my concerns. I actually spoke up a few days ago and magically the problems disappeared. Imagine that ;)

I have the same problem, but i think my reasons not getting close to people is because in my past the ones i loved and cared about immensley either left or died, so i think it's easier not to get close now.

life sucks........

Man, if you can come up with an answer to this one, you should let me help you bottle it and we can sell it and make trillions!

In all seriousness, it's no secret that adhd'ers have social problems because we have trouble reading social cues and all. I'm just thinking also that a running mind does not help.

To be intimate, means you can relax in a quiet space when you're in that intimate moment with someone! ... You have to just sink quietly into the moment and not say something or do something to pull away. Well, our adhd brains are always generating crazy thoughts and ideas. This interferes with intimacy I'm sure.

In any event, I do think this is something you can get better at. I have and I'm continuing to work on it. Just remember: there's nothing wrong with being totally relaxed and quiet in that intimate moment.