Having AD/HD im beging to think im going to lose my friends from being to hyper. I mean that everyday i get really, really hyper. I cant take medicine for AD/HD because i have bipolar and the medicine i took made the bipolar worse. Anyways when i get hyper i act stupid and then i annoy them because i am hyper. also i have ODD and one of the symptoms of ODD is that you annoy people and enjoy it all the time. i do that alot, unfortunately. I also tend to get agressive toward those im angry at. im hoping someone one could help me because my friends are boys and they are fixing to kick me out of the group for all this. can someone help me?


Boogie

can someone plz answer?

Boogie,

I think the reason you haven't had (m)any responses is that the situation you describe is rather complex, and there is no simple or easy answer.

While I'm sure that your family and doctor are trying to work with you on strategies for dealing with these challenges, the only real advise I can give is this: Do onto others as you would have them do onto you. Yes, this is a simple phrase, but hear me out.

When you're with your friends, how do they treat you? Do you like how they are with you? I suspect you do, since they're your friends. All they want in return from you is the same thing. So when you're withyour friends, and want to say or do anything...stop, take a deep breath, and think if what you're going to say or do is something you would like said or done to you. If you need to, count to 5 or 10 before proceeding.

I know this flies in the face of your ADD, but this is the best advice I can give you right now. If I think of anything else, I will certainly post it.

Hugssss!

Also may try to get into the habbit of counting to 10 or even 3 before you say or do something when you are with your friends.

In those few second try to think about what could happen if you do or say what you wanted to.

Now listen here BoogiButt, you little spitfire!!! My friends' son has ODD/CD and ADHD. Just a few weeks ago, he set his best friend on fire with gasoline! True story, and thank God his friend wasnt injured. Just burned his jeans pantleg, didnt get through to the skin. Her son is really, really, really wild and untamed! Mom has all but given up with him. The doctor has said there is not much more that can be done for him. She is diminished. My point? There is always someone who has it rougher than we do. Keep that in mind. Friends in school will change and evolve over time. Dont forget to cherish those friendships. But as someone who went on to college and enter the work field, I can tell you that I do not hang out with anyone that I knew back in high school! You may not understand exactly what I am trying to say yet. But keep in mind that a true, real friend would not make a decision to push you out of the group. They would accept you for who you are, and like you because of it!

Boogie,
I'm bipolar and I'm difficult for some people to deal with. As a consequence, I have few friends but the ones I have are friends for life. You gotta remember the flip side of the coin...bipolars are like no other people and they have gifts that are awesome. You'll find your true friends by being as authentic as you can be. Try not to sweat the group right now. My son is ODD and ADHD and its tough for him, too but things have a way of working out.
Huggggs
claudia

r u picking any one boy in particlar? r u doing for the attention?

Okay, first off, I love your avatar

Second off, I have the same mixture of OCD, Bipolar disorder and ADD that you have. Believe me when I say I know how you feel.:)

I know it's not much comfort now, but believe me, it gets better as you get older. In a few years you'll get to a point where social groups arn't so collectivised, they segregate out into smaller tighter friendship groups. As other people have said, you'll find those people are more likely to stick by you.

hugs

Toby

I don't know what may help you, other than maybe letting your friends know you have this issue.
This may sound dumb, but maybe you can develop a code word (my son and I use elephant), this word can mean something specific, like them letting you know that you need to stop what you are doing.
Somethings are hard to control and it may not happen, but I hope things work out for you.

Having AD/HD im beging to think im going to lose my friends from being to hyper. I mean that everyday i get really, really hyper. I cant take medicine for AD/HD because i have bipolar and the medicine i took made the bipolar worse. Anyways when i get hyper i act stupid and then i annoy them because i am hyper. also i have ODD and one of the symptoms of ODD is that you annoy people and enjoy it all the time. i do that alot, unfortunately. I also tend to get agressive toward those im angry at. im hoping someone one could help me because my friends are boys and they are fixing to kick me out of the group for all this. can someone help me?


Boogie

Boogie,

I am ADHD/OCD/Deep depression and to make matters worse I'm an adult :eek:. I believe what everyone has told you thus far is very helpful and right on the money especially Big's idea about the Golden Rule even if it's not what you wanted to hear.

If I remember right your a female and you stated your friends are male. They may be pulling away lately due to hormones. Fact is your different hon it can be anything from trouble understanding you (as a female) or developing crushes. Friendships between male/female can be the best. One of my dearest and oldest friends is male. It takes a lot of understanding, patience, open communication and rough play but you can make it work with a lot of hard work.

Join a support group, while my kids have friends who could be considered normal, they find a lot of support, understanding and forgiveness with friends who suffer from the same issue's they do.

YMCA sports...while my kids want to win there is hardly any emphasis put on winning. their bursts of energy and ummm (really working on a nice way to put it) chatter to the other team? come in handy and are a asset to their team. Look for something your good at and utalize it to your benefit.

And the sad truth is friends are going to come and go out of your life...I've managed to hold onto a few really great ones thru being a good friend. Friends fight it's normal...a good friend is forgiving. Friends disagree...a good friend listens to both sides of a story and is open minded. Friends hurt...a good friend is there for them. Friends dream...a good friend supports their dreams. Friends laugh...a good friend laughs WITH you, never AT you.

Good luck Boogie remember your young and as unlikely as it seems your going to find your place in this world and your gonna rock!!!!!

Having AD/HD im beging to think im going to lose my friends from being to hyper. I mean that everyday i get really, really hyper. I cant take medicine for AD/HD because i have bipolar and the medicine i took made the bipolar worse. Anyways when i get hyper i act stupid and then i annoy them because i am hyper. also i have ODD and one of the symptoms of ODD is that you annoy people and enjoy it all the time. i do that alot, unfortunately. I also tend to get agressive toward those im angry at. im hoping someone one could help me because my friends are boys and they are fixing to kick me out of the group for all this. can someone help me?


Boogie


:) What's ODD? Is that a real disorder or a clever way with a word?

You could exercise in the morning before school and that should help get out some of your energy. :) That might be a pain :confused: ,but it doesn't hurt to try.

:) What's ODD? Is that a real disorder or a clever way with a word?

You could exercise in the morning before school and that should help get out some of your energy. :) That might be a pain :confused: ,but it doesn't hurt to try.

Oppositional Defiance Disorder...my 9 year old daughter was diagnosed ADHD/ODD basically her symptoms are to go agianst anything or anyone who has power over her. Her teacher will ask her to pull out her math book and she will yell "NO" but pull out the book. I ask her to clean her room she yells "NO I HATE YOU" but cleans her room. Her first answer to a question or directive is NO even though she may want to actually do it such as this summer we went to the zoo all week she talked non stop about the new atrium they had built and couldn't wait to see it. When it was time to go in I told her "its time lets go" she glared at me and said "NO I'll go when I'm ready" then got up and walked in. Its a trial and we are working on her first response to anything Not being NO. There is more information on the disorder at Bigsplace.com. It is very real trust me.

What are the symptoms of ODD

What are the symptoms of ODD

Symptoms and an online test are available at Bigsplace.com (www.bigsplace.com). good luck, Cherity

Do your friends understand the ADHD, ODD, and bipolar? If they don't, maybe try to explain to them, about these disorders, so they understand better, what you are going through. If they are your true friends, they will stay friends with you, regard. Good luck!

oops..that was supposed to read, regardless..sorry about that!!!!

What about something for anxiety/depression? I'm 27yrs old and am taking Celexa and after one fast week, I'm already feeling a difference.

Since you can't take ADHD medication b/c of the Bipolar, maybe something in this sense would suffice for you?

Boogie...don't worry I have both ADHD and Bipolar among other things and I had the same problems making and keeping friends like you do....just hang in there!

look you won't be able to fix this problem over night but what you can do is try to control your impluse i have read what some of these people have written you and u know what its pretty good advice. i also have what you have and you know what i told my friends to do. i told them to do me a favor i told them that whenever i am annoying them or doing something really stupid and they want to to quit i told them to pull me off to the side and tell me inprivate and u know what when they did that it work i stop and i kept my friends

i don't know whether this is the right forum to talk about this but do you find that you

get really close to someone and then days or weekslater you are not and you totally

forget that you were, is that just me, or does anyone else just get bored of the same

friendship groups and when you do get bored, other groups dont wanna know cos they

formed a group. MAKE SENSE???

My friends think my ADD and major depression are just acts, and that I want attention.

Well sure I want attention, but in a good way...I just want to feel cared for and like I have real friends. My current "friends" hardly bother with me, even though I give so much of my life to each and every one of them. I help them when they need it, I'm always there for them, I like to make them happy, etc.

Its made it really hard for me to feel accepted, or that I belong anymore.