I just went to the counseling office in Disabled Student Services because I had to drop a class and I was chatting a bit with the counselor, mostly about concerns that I have about my education and how I'll best be able to pass the class. The issue was taken care of fairly quickly, or at least in a reasonable amount of time.

The odd thing was that he kept talking to me for about an hour afterwards. It started out being mostly about my education and future, but it kept wandering away from the subject into cooking, religion, global politics, local politics, history, and everything in between.

Now I tend to a little off topic in situations like this, but he kept taking the conversation even further off topic than I would, and even going off into his own rants. I enjoyed talking about these things, but after a while I found myself wondering if he had work to do. After an hour and a half I told him I had to leave. Thinking about the whole thing I find it really weird, though I think the guy said something about having ADHD, in which case it might make more sense.

Has anyone else had an experience like this? What do you guys think?

it sounds like you were uncomfortable with the situation. though i'm not sure why i'm guessing that and i may be *way* off.

if the wandering conversation interferes with your schedule (i.e. you have other places you need to be), or the counselor isn't following through with something that he needs to do in order for your class to get dropped, you may have to address this issue further.

on the other hand, if you enjoyed the conversation. it's sometimes nice to drop in on someone who is more than willing to keep up their end of the conversation.

Originally posted by Djiril
Has anyone else had an experience like this? What do you guys think? [/B]

i have had an experience similar to this. though it was a friend/acquaintence who i'd call *only* if i had an hour to spare. it was sometimes a bit frustrating to talk with her though because no matter what i said, the conversation came back to her. so, obviously, she is *not* the person i call when *i* need a shoulder.

oh, and, it's nice to meet you, djiril:)

I wasn't exactly uncomfortable. I was just a bit confused and freaked-out because I'm not used to this kind of behavior from counselors. Usually they just shoo me out of their office when were done with whatever I came to see them about, or at least they stop talking and wait for me to end the meeting or bring something else up.

This went from "professional appointment" to "conversation that never ends". It started out being about my plans to move out of the dorms next semester, and then he kept asking me questions that led to all the different topics. I got the impression the guy was bored or starved for conversation. To be fair, this might give him a better idea of how to advise me in the future, but the whole thing seems just a bit abnormal for that situation. What I would like to know is, is it normal for counselors to talk to students like that?

Or perhap's he get's tired of controlling his behaviour's and felt comfortable enough to just be himself with you. It's another way to look at it anyway's. Just make sure he follow's thru on getting you out of that class.

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Cherity

wow, I think I would have felt the same as you... It seems like most professionals are SOOO busy - I always end up thanking them too much for their time becuase I have this big idea in my head that I'm just the little student getting in their way.

I have two professors this semester who I SWEAR are ADD - each in their own versions of course. One told me that his daughter is ADD, so it would make perfect sense. The other professor... oh man. The first time I went to his office hours we ended up having an hour long conversation about everything from taking ntoes to musical instruments... I had to leave after an hour, but I'm sure that it would have gone on longer if I hadn't. This same professor has a horrible tendancy to go on tangents in lecture, and it's even worse becuase he insists on saying everything JUST SO (it's a math class - you have to "know what you're talking about before you can talk about it" are the words he says continuously.)

anyway, yeah! I just wanted to say that yes, I've had that happen before... and it is weird becusae normally it's such the opposite!!

Maybe he was just lonely. I know I have felt that way many times and when someone shows an interest in listening I tend to keep talking. Just another possibility!

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Originally posted by Lafnalot
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I wouldn't call that sexually explicit language though. :nono:

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Truly weird, same thing just happened to me with a new shrink I went to see - the first few times I saw him he just rambled (much worse than me) & I hardly got in a word about me. Not going back to him, at those prices I want to talk about me :D

Thinks to self .... he must have adhd too?

Please tell me you sent him a bill? lol

I went to disabled services at my college and had the same experience! Mine came from my counselor who was female. I too am female so our conversation went from my life goals to her goals she completed, to her family, to her goals and back! I asked her if she had ADD too, she replied that she didn't. But I suspect that she did she was so hyper and a talker! But I finally left and almost two hours had past!!

By the way. I never graduated. I just dropped out. I have met a new guy who just had his graduation from NKU Saturday. He has a bachelors in geography. I wrote a couple of his papers, one being a ten page paper! He got an A!

Sooooo, he told me to go back and finish that degree and he would support me 100%! I am just divorced after a 16 year marriage that left my self-esteem pretty low. If high school wasn't enough, the marriage just added to it. Since being with this new guy my self-esteem is climbing! I am going back to finish my degree!

When I have an encounter like this, I usually assume the other person is ADD too, whether they know it or not. I've often experienced a "spark" in ADD conversations that keeps the conversation going and jumping from topic to topic. I've always enjoyed talking to people whose minds could keep up with mine .... and I think many ADD folks feel the same way. You probably just gave him a welcome opportunity to stop acting linear for awhile! ;)