Okay I know that this topic has been approached several time, but I wanted to know if any other ADD women are having this issue.. I can not seem to have the "big O" most of the time when my husband and I have sex. I feel bad becasue half of the time I fake it just so he won't feel bad.

I am not sure if it is because I get distracted or maybe I just don't know my body the way that I should.

Am I alone in this order are others having the same issues. Deos anyone have any suggestions?:confused:

I think it's nothing more than the staleness of sex, you know, same place, same time, etc...
The two of you have to do things 'differently', somehow.
:)

I have the same problem - and I know the main reason is that I get distracted by the thousands of other things going on in my head. Not that I don't enjoy the overall experience - I just can't keep my mind focused on the here-and-now.

Not sure that helps, but I hope you know you're not alone in this. :o

~Audrey

Yeah, me too. Meds have wore off and laundry to think about:o

#1 you need to masterbate and see what gets you off, because if you don't know, you'll
never be able to give instructions.
I would suggest how I do it, I like running water in the bathtub, it feels like oral sex.


........however.



#2 Most men do not know: women, are like combination locks, we look the same, but we
get off different......what get's me off may not get you off.

I learned this being bisexual, trying to do what *I* like to other women......who don't
work that way.


#3 ....as young girls, we don't care if we get off, we wanna please the men.
and the young men, all they know about is "IN OUT"

....when you reach 40 years old, both men and women shift.

I don't wanna have sex, unless I get to orgasm too.

....who might get pregnant? me.

I wanna know when the bed room door closes, something is gonna happen in there.
......and I'm willing to tell ya how to do it.

men become MORE intrested in pleasing US....as they get bored with IN OUT as well.

......so basically.

a partner, takes responsibility for your orgasm.
....just like you take responsibility for theirs.

but you have to communicate, because no one can read your mind.

....you are responsible for your own pleasure, by conveying "how to"
and he is responsible for caring enough to listen.

K?

LOL

I guess that covered it?

LOL!

LOL suzz. that does about cover it.

i can't focus during sex, either, and actually am not super fond of sex because it's an uninteresting act to me after the first couple of times with someone. (i've never had a G Spot orgasm, but even clitoral stimulation bores me) i try, though. my inability to want sex has ruined a few of my relationships, so i'm stuck forcing myself to go through the motions until i see if medication will work for me. which is probably a bad idea, it can seem like self rape because i'm extremely emotional and have a tendency to cry when i don't want it and do it anyway.

my partner (and past ones) is NOT aware of how bad this is and he does not EVER force me to have sex with him - just in case i gave that impression. it's an unfortunate situation, and the best advice i can give from an extreme case like myself - try and change it up. do something that excites you in your head, except do it the sack.

just like suzz says.

Gawd! I love to be forced to orgasm.
.............tied up and forced! slapped with a belt, at the right energy per second, sorta wakes up your nerve endings.

LOL!

...I cry easy afterward tho.
I think it's oxytonum, or some female hormone that does that.

in the end.
....we're the recepticles.

we're the ones violated, even tho we like it (hopefully)

.........so, I usually ask not to be yelled at, or critisized for an hour or so after.

if they wanna yell at me and call me names, they need to do it in bed.

lol!

no G spot for me....they weird me out.
......like pushing inward on your nipple *shivers* ahhhhhhh!

I don't wanna spray nuthin either.
.....LMAO! ...I'm happy with my multiples.

the older you get the more you begin to find your capacity.
.......for instance, I've done kregals for 20 years.

by flexing inside, I can make myself get off alone, w/o penetration
.....but only after a clitorial.

we're complex creatures.

June, why?
.....when did you start to feel like crying?

were you ever tramatized?

I was molested, but, I enjoyed it.
.......I was born a pervert I guess.

lot o guilt there.

If the need to get any more graphic arises I just want to remind members we do have a private adult relationship section that can be used for more - umm detailed discussions - minn306 is the moderator you would need to speak to about the pass word in the private relationship section . . . .


Right now we are really rrrreeeeeaaaaallllllyyyyyy pushing past the PG-13 line here gals. . . .we don't want to be responsible any illness caused by men shivering in the shower - :rolleyes:

I'm sorry meadd, I forget this is a conservative board, Please, delete what
I wrote, if it is offensive, or you think it might be to anyone..

I'm used to blurting out the wrong things...and being told to can it.
....I won't be hurt.

I've always thought the truth was more intresting than small talk.
......I'm a master of shock value and distraction.

it might be offensive, but, I bet everyone forgot their problems for a minute.
......that's what i typically do about people in pain.

shock them out of their chair.

it's a reflex.

I am not sure if it is because I get distracted or maybe I just don't know my body the way that I should.

Am I alone in this order are others having the same issues. Deos anyone have any suggestions?

Sadly as a person my first thought is turn the TV off . . . . Gary used to leave the damn TV on and I couldn't ummmmm "get off" because I couldn't concentrate because half my brain was keeping up with the TV -

Fantasy helps some times . . . . . also practicing meditation . . . . ohh and "foreplay" I almost forgot about that {sorry been married a while}

:) .....whoops?

I'm sorry meadd, I forget this is a conservative board,

Adult topic are allowed - it is just that we can't get too graphic because we are listed a "family friendly" meaning teens are also members of this community. . . although my teens knew more than I did not all teens are banchies like mine were - I was also a very open parent again not all parents are - conservative hey this ain't nothing near true conservative moderation. . . .



please?

Did I sleep through some thing again ???? I am not understanding. . . .

.....Ive never been on a truely conservative board i guess, I did'nt mean you were being unreasonable...
....I'm admitting I was...
my spontanious outbursts are an issue for me in real life, and here.

I need to stay away from adult topics.

I think you offered some valuable ideas that are tangible - why would I want to cheat any one out of that? If other members get offended then I will move the bloomin thread into the private section. . . .

Impulsive answers are truthful answers and can be valuable. . . . you give excellent reasoning behind your suggestions. You were able to see beyond the obvious. . . . and offer valuable insight.

If a woman doesn't know what pleases her how can she tell her man ????? Some men have a difficult time reading their own minds reading our minds is out of the question = meaning if we do not tell them or show them they will not know. . . we can not tell them or show them some thing we our selves are unaware of

Experimentation is the best way I know of for a women to get to know where her arousal zones are . .. I guess there are books on the subject but I am a dyslexic so I do better with the hands on approach myself

-------------------------------------On a more official note-------------------------------


The thread is about sex and orgasm so in order to remain on topic ummm we have to discuss sex and orgasms ???

Moderator notes like the one above are reminders. . . . I write things like the above to prevent members from crossing the line I am trying to prevent trouble not to cause upset. I am simply telling you where the line is and I am telling others I have already read the thread Should they have any questions about appropriateness they can PM me . . . .

Sex? What is this sex you speak of?

I used to pay attention, orgasms, etc etc. Please my man, explore, all that other stuff SuzzanneX said.

I got bored and busy.
A switch went off about a year or so ago. I could care less. It bores me and I'm busy with other things. It even annoys me to be approached, and if I am in the mood (which is rarely) there is a very small window of opportunity...on to the next thing.

And that I feel this way doesn't bother me either.

LOL! ....sex with other people???
.....EYE FORGOT!

*winks*

ROFL!
Eye forget myself is in bed.

Okay I know that this topic has been approached several time, but I wanted to know if any other ADD women are having this issue.. I can not seem to have the "big O" most of the time when my husband and I have sex. I feel bad becasue half of the time I fake it just so he won't feel bad.

I am not sure if it is because I get distracted or maybe I just don't know my body the way that I should.

Am I alone in this order are others having the same issues. Deos anyone have any suggestions?:confused:

I've been married for 18 years and I have had the same issues off and on as you describe. I do the faking thing too sometimes so that he doesn't feel bad. I have finally figured this out after all these years!

Sadly as a person my first thought is turn the TV off . . . . Gary used to leave the damn TV on and I couldn't ummmmm "get off" because I couldn't concentrate because half my brain was keeping up with the TV -
My problem is...I hyper-focus myself right out of the big O. I want it to happen so bad and I'm concentrating so hard that It just doesn't happen. I'm not relaxing and just letting things happen. So, I have figured out that (unlike the poster's quote above), I need to turn the tv on so that I "am" partially distracted! After all these years, it ummm.....comes so easy for me now. I have to NOT think, just feel! Okay, I think I need to "get off" the computer now....where's my husband? :o :D

Sometimes i can get distracted whilst having sex..

but it all depends on the person i am having sex with.. i think..

i do masturbate a lot, i find i can orgasm really easily with a viberator..

i find it harder to orgasm when im just having sex...

if i get oral or my clit is being stimulated then i will orgasm loads.. LOL

So this is an ADD thing? I wondered why I always got lost during sex. I even sometimes remind myself, think about this, stay here, enjoy the moment, this is supposed to be nice and enjoyable.

And this sums me up as well:
" I got bored and busy.
A switch went off .... I could care less. It bores me and I'm busy with other things. !!!It even annoys me to be approached!!!, and if I am in the mood (which is rarely) there is a very small window of opportunity...on to the next thing."

Only it bothers me BAD. I don't miss having or not having sex, because I do get distracted, so it ends up not doing its job for me so why do it. But I want to want to have sex, I just want the desire back. I want to think about it during the day like I used to, I get excited to see my husband. He's done nothing wrong, and I am still attracted to him.

It used to be my exercise routine :rolleyes: I looked good:o

My best friend went to acupuncture for this very reason, and she's done it every day for the past 2 weeks. She looks ALIVE.

Some times hormones mess with desire too -

If I'm in peri-menopause I'll puke.

LAMO - well puking umm won't stop peri-menopause you are certainly free to do so - other things can cause a dip in Libido - hypothroidism ,depression, stress, anxiety, children

I hate ADHD sex... im gonna stick to masturbation for the rest of my life... unless I find a girl thats stimulating enough, i.e. takes initiative and such.

not me....sex is the one thing that being in the moment has never been a problem,or having the "big O"

[quote=babelsgp;632322]So this is an ADD thing? I wondered why I always got lost during sex. I even sometimes remind myself, think about this, stay here, enjoy the moment, this is supposed to be nice and enjoyable.

And this sums me up as well:
" I got bored and busy.
A switch went off .... I could care less. It bores me and I'm busy with other things. !!!It even annoys me to be approached!!!, and if I am in the mood (which is rarely) there is a very small window of opportunity...on to the next thing."

Only it bothers me BAD. I don't miss having or not having sex, because I do get distracted, so it ends up not doing its job for me so why do it. But I want to want to have sex, I just want the desire back. I want to think about it during the day like I used to, I get excited to see my husband. He's done nothing wrong, and I am still attracted to him.

Well it's great to know that I'm not the only one like this. (constantly having remind myself to stay in the moment). But after being married 10 yrs (together 13) he just realized that I couldn't always 'enjoy' myself so if I'm not in the mood and he is I don't have to fake. The first time I did fake though I felt so bad about it, but when I realized he really believed it I thought "OMG I can do this and he won't have to feel bad"!!!!!! So, that started happening regularly. But if I am in the mood to 'get off' (which is NOT very often and I'm only 27!!!) then I could and he never knows the difference. Sneaky but it works. I'd love to get the desire back, but don't know where to look for it??? I remember when we first got together (before 3 kids) we did it all the time and I 'enjoyed' it. He doesn't understand that women's bodies and hormones change as they get older. I've heard that usually when women get into their "wanting it all the time" phase, their husband aren't there anymore or can't. Of course I've also heard that men never stop "wanting it". Sorry this got so long! Don't know if it helped anyone or not.

I hate ADHD sex... im gonna stick to masturbation for the rest of my life...

Glad I'm not the only guy like this, I've been bored of sex for a while. Anal is gross, so that is out too. Oral is the only thing I can get into mainly because it is 10x more stimulating than "in / out". I still get distracted, but it is a lot easier to come back and stay in the moment.

unless I find a girl thats stimulating enough, i.e. takes initiative and such.

Hoping to find a girl like this too, if a girl is kinky and fun and isn't afraid to make some noise or slap me in the face... :eek: or keeps it engaging and interesting somehow, otherwise I would really rather just go without. One night stands can be alright once in a while as it is usually still exciting the first few times with someone, but with all the diseases and what not out there you are always taking a risk (not to mention that I am in no way ready or qualified to be a father, I can't even take care of myself).

Anyways, just thought I'd throw in that I think it's an ADD thing. I must say, though, that I have had some amazing sex when hyper-focused, truly amazing... so there's that. We'll see, maybe I'll be interested again once I find the right meds and get my life back together and all that fun stuff.

I find my desire waxes and wanes , sometimes I climax sometimes I don't , we are adventerous, try new things , and we also do the same old same old as well . I don't fake it , I just tell him that it felt very good whether I climaxed or not . I do get distracted durring, especially if the t.v. is on but if he starts doing something that feels very good ,it brings me back . I do believe that my inability to climax is sometimes caused by being easily distracted (there is also a little bit of performance anxiety related to not being able to always reach climax, that makes it difficult sometimes too) . I do my best not to place to much importance on the climax itself, but just enjoy myself overall, this seems to help, even if the only enjoyment I am getting is just from being with my husband interacting and sharing the moment , that's more than enough for me and well worth the effort .

I thought this was something many women had issues with anyway (not climaxing during intercourse or IN OUT haha). Only 40% of women do or something, the figures always change whatever I read!
Not really sure of the reason...but not getting there cos of distractions is obviously more of an ADHD thing!

Hmm I never have via in/out but it's felt very nice sometimes :o more so when I'm drunk!

Otherwise I have no problem!

thats when when being able to hyper forus comes in to play this is mind body dis sync at its worst...

dunno, i think it has more to do with hormones but especially how you grew up, rather than AD(H)D.

determining wether its you or your partner is rather easy; do you come when masturbating but not with your partner? then you should talk about that to him, tell him (or her) what you like, etc.

but i see a lot of girls are being brought up in the wrong way to learn to feel good about their body. "hey, dont touch yourself there, thats naughty! youre a bad girl!" - which child wants to be a bad child?
if youre a boy, the thing between your legs is much more often something "good", it seems. its normal to touch it, e.g. when having to pee.

i dont know, i seem to have a male brain. i am on the pill as well since i am 14, but i was the same about orgasms even before. i enjoy erm... "graphic movies of sexual content with no storyline" as much as men seem to do, and i would be called a "minute-man" as well, i guess. :D
same as i totally focus on my uh... "primary organ" (how the heck do i say this family-friendly) and dont care about anything else being touched, EXEPT for my neck, which is one odd exeption and i dont know why.

This is an old thread that got brought back up it seems, but I'm glad for it. I think ADHD contributes to the lack of climax in sex, but not always. Sometimes when we are having sex we are stuck in our heads and don't pay as much attention to the physical stimuli, or are de-sensitized to it.

And I would definitely get bored. Or tired.

For me though, Adderall has been a godsend. I experienced sexual abuse in my early years, along with antidepressants as well... so there was no hope for my libido. But luckily I've got a side-effect from the adderall that makes me feel like I'm going through puberty again and my libido is thru the roof. But I have noticed that it makes physical feelings a little more hyper-sensitive.... so maybe that's also why. So its always nice in a place that I'm comfortable in... but if I say, forgot to take off a sock, that sock will drive me nuts and ruin the whole experience.

I'm upfront with my partner. I feel bad when my mind wonders off during intimate moments because I love him and I think he deserves me to be there at those moments. He understands what its like to have a dreamy mind. I tell him sorry but I can't do this right at this second because I'm thinking about things I don't want to think about when I'm doing this with you and thats ok because he knows what it is like to have sex and feel like you're the only one in the room.

Like the above poster said many women can't physically orgasm from sex. I never have. I don't think its a concentration thing. It is hard to make me cum the other way but men really don't seem to mind some gentle guidance as opposed to satisfy.

Yoooo! I'm a dyke..I make lots of ladies have orgasms. Over 50% of women do not orgasm from penetration alone. I actually heard the number is higher. I am only stating this because some women are too afraid to ask for what they want or are with a lover who won't go down.

Oral sex before penetration is where it's at. *smile*
And masterbate..learn your body and how it moves to achieve orgasm. then replicate with partner.

Lastly...Are a majority of you taking anti depressant/anxiety drug? Celexa completed obliterated my sex drive.

Sorry..I am stating the obvious, but I have just met so many straighties (ha) that just do not seem to put two and two together.

No offense..go hetro sex!

ps.. your bodies are beautiful just the way they are! (tend to meet women with self body issues)

Suzzanex you nailed it. I agree one million percent that masturbation helpes a lot not only for this but to relax and it helps you find out what you like to feel and how you like it to get you ''off''. Also being honest with your partner is very important if you don't like how something feels say it they can't read your mind and if you don't say something will think that you like it and you may end up with very negative feelings towards your partner afterwards which he won't understand.

My problem is not with sex but with foreplay. I just can't stay still that long. I always want my hubby to get to the actual intercourse and get frustrated when he wants to have some foreplay. I guess our roles are reversed in this relationship :)

eh, posted in the wrong topic, d'oh

wow, am i glad i DONT have this adhd problem. I love sex and often hyperfocus so much i feel like the guy LOL. The second my partner touches me in a sexual way i can't think of anything else, not even the sentence i was in the middle of finishing.

SuzanneX - well said and so true

(One day I will figure out how to reply to a specific "Reply" or "User")

This one is to OP> I scanned through the replies and have to agree on 2 things.
1. ADD can definitely distract a person from sexual pleasure.
2. Knowing your body is the MOST important thing.

If your partner is doing it "Wrong" help out by pleasuring yourself. This way you know it will get done the way you like it, you will demonstrate for your partner, and it will probably really turn them on too! win-win-win...don't be shy, believe me, the first time I "Helped Myself" my husband (BF at the time) was like "Sweet" This is great! She's helpin me out! He loves it!

Someone might have already said this, but it isn't uncommon for a woman to not be able to achive orgasm during intercourse - whether they're ADD or not. It's more common than you might think it is. The key is to figure out what are your climax "hot buttons" and they're different for every woman. I think the "holy grail" is for both partners to climax at the same time but in reality this seldom happens. There's nothing wrong with exploring the best ways to pleasure each other.

But I agree, boredom is an issue, particularly for ADD people. If your partner isn't open to trying new, er, things, it can be a barrier to happy sex. :)

I am all over the place (in mind and action) when intimate and having sex with someone...perhaps my fear is that it is way more obvious than what it feels like for me...I keep snapping into it and realizing I went off in la-la land thinking about who knows what and not being able to do one thing for more than, well, about 5 seconds. Thus, a tendency to apologize ALL the time. It is more horrible than being all over the place-like some sort of defense mechanism to diffuse any possible frustration with me because of the typical add sex...

Okay I know that this topic has been approached several time, but I wanted to know if any other ADD women are having this issue.. I can not seem to have the "big O" most of the time when my husband and I have sex. I feel bad becasue half of the time I fake it just so he won't feel bad.

I am not sure if it is because I get distracted or maybe I just don't know my body the way that I should.

Am I alone in this order are others having the same issues. Deos anyone have any suggestions?:confused:


no you're not alone
I've just been diagnosed with this though I know I've had it for years and initimacy is a stuggle and now that I just started meds, its difficult to see how much better it will be knowing that typically most meds wear off in the evening...I do often get the big "O" but it takes work , I could be in la la land but I do get there,, though it's a huge struggle
hope this helps

Guys i am lovin this thread. In regards to tv i am exactly the same, it distracts me. Sometimes it is really hard just to relax, cos us add never blinkin relax even if we night look like we are cos us brain is going on and on.

But u know what works for me, think anout what u would like them to do and when they are they are near the place then tell em to give it u. Because we always want what we can not have, so if u think they might do it then u will relax and want it and have the big o

Does that make sence lol
jennyxxx

It is the thought of will he wont he that gets me going but some times i have to scream it out cos just have to have it, but then i spol it as want it to much lol

Very hard to fully relax, and for some odd reason I always feel like talking while we're doing it, which just makes me even more distracted.

And I get really sad afterward...I don't know why... I love my partner and enjoy sex. We do both communicate what we want and that is helping to a certain extent...

I have the same problem mainly because I just can't keep my mind on the "task at hand".

Well, I don't have In/Out "O"'s at all, but I know that isn't uncommon for women, so it doesn't bother me. I really love sex too, it's great. I am 31 now though, and enjoy it alot more than when I was younger. It all seems to feel better now, and I am more sensitive to it all it seems. But I have a hard time getting "off" with my hubby even with oral. he is really good, it feels wonderful, but it just doesn't get to that point of no return for me. I used to be able to have an O when he did oral, but for the last few months, or more, I haven't at all with him. But, I fake it. I hate faking it, and feel bad about it, but I want him to feel like he is doing a good job(which he is). I don't have a problem when I masturbate though. I can get myself off fast, especially if I have watched something "adult" before hand to get me excited. I started a new anti-deppresent a while back, so I assume that is the problem. I still want sex, I just can't O with him anymore......:(

Same problem here... I can get there with myself, so I know it's not a physical thing, but I don't do that often- only when I just *really* feel the need, so I suppose I am able to hyper focus at those times perhaps. But I just don't ever get there with a partner. I do sometimes think it has to do with being easily distracted, and I think the inability to relax is a huge factor too! I was reading how when we orgasm, all sorts of parts of the female's brain literally shut down (men have different/fewer parts that shut down) and I think that it's probably a lot harder for those with ADD!! For me I think it's also a trust thing, I'll never fully relax (or relax to my potential LOL) unless I trust my partner 100%, and if I don't relax ain't NO WAY any part of my brain is going to shut down!

It gets frustrating, too, because as I wrote in another post, at times I have a lot of difficulty getting my thoughts to come out as words... this is one of those times... I may be thinking "That feels amazing! More of that!" or "ok that's just not doing it for me" but actually getting those out in words, not so easy for me. It's not the topic- I have no problem talking about and being open about sex (I was a Passion Parties consultant for a few years, and I did a presentation in grad school on paraphilias, all without being at all uncomfortable!) it's just an inability to get out words in emotional situations.

~Katy

It's got to be as animalistic as possible, making the entire body feel and work so hard that there is nothing left for the brain to think with.
No time or patience for 'love-making' no no no. That just starts a whole awful train of thought that starts with seeing human biology and David Attenborough videos in my head. Then the sound of kissing amplifies and becomes either pure comedy or completely unbearable and every touch feels like sandpaper and every move feels like am acting in some kind of Meg Ryan movie. Ew. Oral is worse! The very few times can get straight into it, it's amazing but mostly I feel all alone, just me, my brain and the above thoughts, floating around while he's all the way over there.

But when you're with the right person (usually other ADHD!), there is not a damn thing better!

LOL, I blame my lack of orgasms with partners on the men I have been with...

My ex-husband couldn't have cared less. And I can't seem to meet a caring individual who is willing to put up with all my baggage, let alone sleep with me, lol.

Orgasms are relatively easy, in general... it's just when another person gets around that I find it difficult. Women, I think, really do require a lot of clitoral stimulation to have the big O, and men really need to learn that little tidbit. In and out, as previous poster stated, hardly EVER does the job for me.

I know I do get distracted during sex, too. But I don't blame that for my lack of orgasm. I just need to find the right guy for me, lol. ;)

Good luck!

Oral or, erm...my bf um "playing with" me :o is no problem, I've never had one during intercourse though.

It doesn't bother me, I didn't expect it to happen cos I know it's quite common in women. But my bf annoys me a bit when he says all the other girls he's been with have. I said "Listen I'm not trying to be harsh, but it's quite common for women not to orgasm through intercourse, and probably most of the girls you were with faked it." He wasn't too happy :o but it p'd me off, cos he was making me feel like the odd one out or like something was wrong with me...but at the same time, I knew it was perfectly normal and that there's something wrong with him (ego or something like that).
Maybe he's not lieing, but he's been with a lot of people and I can't believe they all had the "Big O" through intercourse!

And I can also relate to something that was previously said, something about the g-spot and how weird it feels. Lol.

Tbh sex isn't a massive priority for me. Though I still don't know whether that is just me or because of being depressed, stressed and having anxiety most of this year. Last year I had no sex drive but I came off the combined pill and it went to the other extreme! :D Then after an incident where I sort of faced my worst phobia, I haven't been the same since generally, like personality, anger, self-esteem is soo bad atm as well. I'm hoping that when this passes I'll be more interested!

Going to psychiatrist this Thursday for my ADHD diagnosis, I will mention the anxiety etc then and hopefully she'll precribe me with some anti-depressants that don't affect sex drive, I've heard some do exist. I know I'm almost there, I'm so close to just losing all this anxiety and tension and going back to normal, I just need a little extra help and hopefully meds should do it (though I know they can have side effects and take a few weeks to settle in, so this could be quite tricky).

70% of women need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm and just due to how we're "organized", that can be rather difficult. Very few women have "in and out" orgasms, ADD or not. I'm a Passion Parties consultant, so it's my job to talk about this stuff, LOL!

That being said, I've noticed over the last couple of years that as my symptoms have gotten worse (I still don't know if I'm depressed with ADD or Bipolar with ADD or what, I just recently started seeking treatment), my sex drive has all but disappeared, which bothers me quite a bit. There have been some external factors in this, so I don't know how much to "blame" on my mental state and how much is something else.

If the need to get any more graphic arises I just want to remind members we do have a private adult relationship section that can be used for more - umm detailed discussions - minn306 is the moderator you would need to speak to about the pass word in the private relationship section . . . .


Right now we are really rrrreeeeeaaaaallllllyyyyyy pushing past the PG-13 line here gals. . . .we don't want to be responsible any illness caused by men shivering in the shower - :rolleyes:


No 'shivering' in the shower here :D

Have,nt even got past the first page here :p(lol)

It's got to be as animalistic as possible, making the entire body feel and work so hard that there is nothing left for the brain to think with...But when you're with the right person (usually other ADHD!), there is not a damn thing better!


Isn't that the truth!?! My best ever was with a guy that has ADHD as well. :D

ha, agreed!
Can't seem to focus, I have to keep telling myself to focus! Hopefully this will improve too!
Secondchance

Thank goodness, someone else has the crying thing. I just considered it total emotional release! 1. I've read that the lack of impulse control while young can produce promiscuity, of course, practice makes perfect. 2. I've also read you might go the other way that sex is blah and "it's not needed."

I can be in the moment for a short time, so idiots that try and push it to "bragging rights" of how long it lasted usually get told either they get real about this and participate or they go for a 10 mile run instead. Now or never.

No one needs to take this as a suggestion, but I happen to be with a guy that has E.D. He was so embarrassed to tell me. Its working out wonderful. I usually can concentrate when all the exactly perfect motions are happening, but I'm the only one that really can do the exact perfect motions. Sensuality has become the wonderful part of our being together and since we both have an oddity, neither one of us is "offended" if the big O doesn't happen.