i feel like i seem to have tried everything even though im sure there are still things i need to try my 7 yr old son punched me for the first time last night i was so shocked all because i wouldnt give into him and let him have what he wanted im sick of the constant tantrums i feel at times that its cracking me up but i know deep down i gotta try and remain strong but i find it so hard i feel so sorry for my 1 yr old son as he is as it seems at times to be the one who suffers hes started to bang his head off the floor/wall obviously copying his 7 yr old brother its very worrying i love both my kids with all my heart but i just need to know that things one day will get better my 7 yr old really needs to be reassessed badly as we are trying at the moment to get him on meds i seem to be fighting a losing battle someone please advise me on the kind of things i can do to help him please :rolleyes:

Well being here is a good start and

i love both my kids with all my heart but i just need to know that things one day will get better

is a very positive attitude

maybe try some reverse psychology with him

ie: : why do you want that particular thing

tire him out with questions that make him think about what he is doing

this worked for me to some extent as my son would soon forget and get bored with the questions and then he would move on to other things

then it would start all over again and Id do the same thing

if he could explain why he wanted it and it was a justifiable reason then he would get whatever he wanted

if not then

to bad
so sad

it was back to him to question why he didn't get his own way

he did come up with some very creative reasons at times
but what it did was make him think about it

My 2 Can-ADD-ian cents worth

Does your son have a doctor or other professional that sees him regularly? It does sound like he needs to be re-evaluated. A change in meds might help, but he'll probably also need some behavior modification too. Here is a website with some good tips:
http://add.about.com/cs/forparents/a/discipline.htm
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing!

floss hugs,,,my son used to strick out at me also. It's a long and hard battle to break this cycle. There is no real answer unfortunatly I would look to krisp's link and find a couple that work for you and your son.

Keep us posted and remember with team work between you and your husband and perisistance it does get better

Im going through the same thing as you but my son is almost 8 and he has 2 brothers a 9yr and 7 week old. I finally got my son on meds last week. I saw a slight improvement the first 2 days but right now he is acting like his normal self. Wont listen , pushes his big brother , cant get him to do one thing without a fight, expects everything to be givin to him and then the crying and throwing himself on the floor like a 2yr/3yr.


HUGSSSSSSSSSs

Sorry i cant help you but I thought I might as well let you know your not alone .

Hugggggs floss;

sigh,...like others been there done that,.....there is no easy answer.

I came here cause i wanted to tell you this is beautiful women month and floss hun,.........

Tracy you are a beautiful and gentle woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and i love you,........XOXOXOXO

8 year olds arrrgh, seems to be a real trying time. My sons behavior has been regressed in someways.

In some cases or at least ours, i see my little boy going through major changes. Friends for the first time are his priority. So he is maybe reacting to his growing apart from his parents.

He said the other day that he felt he was a big kid now. Ohhh (crying break)Omg I am crying, This is a rarity for me. (honking my nose!)
I think I am crying because the whole irony of them wanting to be a big kid at 8, and my heart not wanting him to grow up, my fears of his future. And my desire for him to behave more mature! I sure need to make up my mind , -smiles and sniffles- In my mind I just see his beautiful little face so earnest saying "I think I am a big kid now" Here I go again~~~~~~~~~~ guess I should start my own thread entitled Janine cries!

I think our children at this age are trying to break free a bit and still be a baby too. A pedulum swinging from one end to another, they will eventually find the middle ground. They take it out on us, driving us away, an hour later wanting to curl up close.
After all we are the reasons they have attachments.

For my kid this is the age where he locks doors for privacy, wants to bathe alone. But frequently calls me in to see some water tricks, so I have to pick the lock.

He has hit me also. Not for awhile though. He threatened worse recently, and he seemed ashamed. We are having talks about teamwork. How his behavior causes his father and I to feel like a team with him being our opponent, just as if I were being impossible his dad and him would feel like a team fearing the scarey mom. Therefor we all need to work together or someone winds up being on the outside. I think this is effective, because it leaves it clear that it is their choice.
good luck all of you!