Since I learned about ADD, I've been trying my hardest to try and manage it without medication (I live in the UK, so a diagnosis is unlikely, let alone any kind of medication).

Although I'm making progress in terms of organising myself, my husband struggles in how to deal with me!

We've been together for 8 years, but our son is 7 months old, and we're struggling with the fact that we can't just wing it any more!

One of the problems I have is my (occasional) irrationality, impulsiveness, mis-understanding what's being said to me (I'll take criticism very badly unless it's carefully worded!) and general moodiness. At the moment this is causing a few (!) arguments because I'm being so impossible some times.

Any tips or tricks for both of us on how to "manage" eachother better? :)

Marriage definitely changes when the baby enters the picture, doesn't it?

What do you mean by irrationality?

Misunderstanding? Repeat what someone has said to you or ask them questions to clarify what they mean before thinking you "got" it.

General moodiness? Looking after a baby, running a household and working add lots of stress to life. Is your baby a regular sleeper so you are able to get enough rest?

How to manage each other? Set limits for each other on how you speak to each other. There are lots of communication books about how to talk so someone will listen to you.

You have been together eight years. Have you changed drastically since you first met other than the addition of baby? If not, why isn't how you are good enough any more? Perhaps you both need more help dealing with your added responsibilities.

If memory serves me correctly all diagnosis of other emotional/mental illness goes out the window when you have a baby. Forget it. You're going through all the things parents without ADD/Bipolar/etc etc go through, so you're adjusting in that regard. But those same things are filtered with the fact that you're ADD and it makes you act different then you did before the baby...does any of that make sense?

I had undiagnosed bipolar and ADD, add to that post-partum depression, an incredibly low self esteem, a restrictive unhealthy religion and it was a recipe for family disaster.

What got me through is that the next day always felt brand new and had the potential to be better than the one before. We grew as the children did.

Um, excuse me...

WHAT irrationality, disorganization, mood swings? :mad::o:p:eek:

Heh heh heh heh heh.... :D;)

e: How do your partners deal with your irrationality, moodswings, disorganisaton etc


Easy I married an irrational, moody, disorganized man . . . to him I am normal - works for me