Sounds familliar???;) Right now this the definitive issue that seems to be getting worse over time despite the fact im improving myself in many other ways. Its getting so bad that I get a sick feeling when Im around people even family members; Atm im lost for how to even start other than to move to a place where people are much friendlier than the folks here in (too ashamed to even name the state that I reside in)


Any suggestions????

I can't say that I have this all figured out, but at one time I believed much the same as the mantra you posted on the careers board the other day. I believe your mantra was something like:

Dont you ever let these b@$t@rds break your will...EVER!!!!

You see, by thinking of everyone else in such a hostile way, you will give off that vibe and people will react similarly. In other words, people can often tell if you don't like them. I used to hate just about everyone, and had bad results around people too. However, I have a new mantra:

Remember that other people have problems and disorders too!

Okay, it is still hard to apply, but people always judged me for things that I didn't even find out until I found out about ADD just recently. I didn't like being judged adversely just because we didn't connect, or because I thought or acted differently. How many other people out there are walking around right now with similar issues that are undiagnosed or untreated? It isn't fair to judge them anymore than it was for them to judge you. They aren't all b@$t@rds just like you aren't what people may perceive you to be.

In other words, maybe you need to lighten up. Maybe over the years you've developed such a chip on your shoulder that people see when they see you coming, and react accordingly. Maybe if you saw things a bit differently, and realized that other people have their own issues, maybe you might have a better result.

Myself, I still struggle some, but I'm doing a lot better than I did in the past. I was a long time perfectionist, and now I realize that it is okay to be imperfect, not just myself, but others too. I try to overlook what I can now. Getting close to people isn't my strength right now, so I stay away somewhat, but as I get better socially and learn to react differently to others, that may change.

Sounds familliar???;) Right now this the definitive issue that seems to be getting worse over time despite the fact im improving myself in many other ways. Its getting so bad that I get a sick feeling when Im around people even family members; Atm im lost for how to even start other than to move to a place where people are much friendlier than the folks here in (too ashamed to even name the state that I reside in)


Any suggestions????

Its hard these days. These days most of the USA is a consumer materialistic place. This person sums it up nicely. If you are not from the NYC metro area then you are probably from either NJ (northern), CT or CA.

NOTE: I DID NOT write that post, but agree with what she is trying to say.

http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/rnr/801421423.html