Who likes it and how much?

In safe and moderate doses...I don't find anything wrong with giving someone an ego boost but that is as far as it needs to go.

Waaaah, Still can't vote but I'll fix it some day.
I used to think I never flirted, then I realized I secretly flirted. I would dress unrevealing, and use my ability to relate to different people knowing that guys would fall in love with me or the validation I offered. Having a nice bod and not showing it off, can be more enchanting to many. Mostly I was just not comfortable showing it.

Nowdays I am an overt flirt, but never in an endangering way, Married folks etc.. I just don't get as much attention now so I have to flirt!
Oh yes my answer is #1 and 4

I agree with Futs on this one...I like to give an ego boost, depends really I do NOT like to be flirted withand I will not flirt with them back.... with the ceartain people who seems ito act like if you flirt back they will expect more. I will freeze up if they expect more...then it gets ugly.

I flirt with safe people, not creeps, people I hold in high regard.
I am more of an brain flirt, than a body flirt.

Im Old Fat and Ugly so I can only dream any more !!!!

But I remeber kiddee's
Why back when
9 or 10 lifetimes ago

I even had hair then,that reached down to my shoulders

Oh for the late 60's early 70's

hehe I was born in the 70's.

Born in 76... I hardly remember the 70's

Still can't either.....My vote is:

OMG I love it I am the King/Queen... I wish they\'d make it an Olympic sport, Gold Medal here I come! ;)

and when it's safe

When I took the first glance at this thread topic, I thought it said "farting". Haha.....anyways I love it when people flirt with me, but I'm not crazy about flirting w/ others, unless I'm 110% sure that I won't be rejected.

Originally posted by lilthingsADDup
When I took the first glance at this thread topic, I thought it said "farting"...

LOL I hope they don't make that an Olympic sport... :D

I am such a klutz when it comes to flirting--either giving or receiving. It's that social ineptness that plagues (some) people with ADD. Only after she leaves does the little light come on and I realize that I have just been flirted at. As for being the flirter...well, let's not go there, shall we? <sigh>

Hey, clam , there's an Olympic sport we could qualify for!!:D

I like innocent flirting for I'm comfortable with that. I do love to compliment people honestly. I have this belief that if it takes 100 nice things to cancel out 1 bad thing, I might as well help others get their 100 :D

Okay, I used to be a huge flirt, I think flirting is fun, but only to a point. I would never try to lead someone on or hurt anyone. But it was a big mood booster for me back in the good ol days! But now I have a fiance and I don't even look at other guys.

Often I am really dumb about when people are flirting with me, usually, I figure it out later.

I only flirt if I know the person and they are my freind.
Also if I need to make a sale at work :D

Melly - BORN in 1976? sheesh - that's the year i graduated high school. make a girl feel old. tsk.:D

I was born in 1981, so I guess I make you feel super old. :D

I was partying in 1981.

Well, I guess I'm in between. I was partying in 1981, but that's only because my dad was throwing the submariner new years eve parties at our house and the "boys" used to amuse themselves by seeing how much trouble they could get the old man's kids into. I was 11 in 1981. I never did manage too much trouble though. My old man wasn't much of a "My three son's Man", but he was pretty protective.

Well I get embarassed when someone flirts with me because that puts me out of control especially when caught off guard. If I do the flirting and I am in control, then all is well.

Lately only flirting I have done is with the other half... but I do enjoy catching someone's eye and flirting when I have the opportunity!

I'm hopeless at it without booze. I'm also hopeless at picking up signals.

I get all flustered if someone flirts with me like they mean it to say"I want to date you". I am extrememly uncomfortable bieng singled out and having extra attention on me. But if I know someone well enough, I do not mind flirting in a playful way. I flirt with guys at work all the time. It is a fun way to pass the time. ANd we know nothing will ever come of it. ANd that is the way I like it.

Ginger

you guys are fun. thanks for flirting or whatever you call it. it makes the support process go so much better.

thanks for caring. it shines thru your posts, pics and avatars.
Gosh. what would our grandparents think of these terms.
they didnt exist back when.

look forward to more thought provoking conversation or tid bits. :) :)
Paul :)

I used to enjoy flirting, but I was more of a mental flirt. I always enjoyed making a connection with a person and then seeing how far he could follow my free-associating brain. (Hint: not very far, unless he's ADD...) I had a couple of male friends that I hung out with mainly for the mental exercise. Did we want to date each other? No, not really, but we enjoyed the verbal jousting.

Being an introvert, I was at a disadvantage in crowded bars. Most of the guys there weren't sharp enough to keep up with me once we started talking anyway. (But to be fair, these were 20-something guys, full of beer and hormones. Their brains were on autopilot!)

These days, I don't flirt much. Don't have the time. But I've been noticing recently that young men (too young for me even if I weren't married) have been trying to flirt with me. Kind of an ego boost, there... ;)

Like most other men, I love it when I catch a womans eye and I know they are gazing at me intently. I usually don't make the first move when it comes to flirting, unless I really like the woman I am trying to attract. ;)


Frank

you cant say the right thjing the the wrong person and you cant say the right thing to the wrong person.

paul :)

good morning!!!!!!!!
2.5 miles 45 min t h i s morning. 630am hope it catches unto tomorrow. ;)

you cant say the right thing the the wrong person and you cant say the wrong thing to the right person.

better said this time. oops. :)

g o o d am. :) PAul

I think flirting is a healthy human activity...It tells us that we're still alive, and, if reciprocated, that we're still "desireable" to the opposite sex. This also plays strongly into the whole self-esteem thing.

An article I read had the following to say about flirting:

Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.

Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct.

According to some evolutionary psychologists, flirting may even be the foundation of civilisation as we know it. They argue that the large human brain - our superior intelligence, complex language, everything that distinguishes us from animals - is the equivalent of the peacock's tail: a courtship device evolved to attract and retain sexual partners. Our achievements in everything from art to rocket science may be merely a side-effect of the essential ability to charm.

Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.

Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct.

According to some evolutionary psychologists, flirting may even be the foundation of civilisation as we know it. They argue that the large human brain - our superior intelligence, complex language, everything that distinguishes us from animals - is the equivalent of the peacock's tail: a courtship device evolved to attract and retain sexual partners. Our achievements in everything from art to rocket science may be merely a side-effect of the essential ability to charm.

The full article is available here: http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

According to some evolutionary psychologists, flirting may even be the foundation of civilisation as we know it.
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Good points B i g! will check out th article in a bit.
Paul :)

Thanks for finding the article.

I think flirting is also something of an art. Not just the romatic kind of flirting, but the 'make everyone feel incredibly important and worth listening to' kind of behaviours

One of the best compliments I received once at work was that I 'flirted' with men and woman. That I took time to show them i felt they were interesting, important, valuable etc. I wish i could do that every time, but right now Im satisfied with the ability to do it at all.

And you do it SO well.... :D

LOl well yep yep yep yeppppp ** don knotts kinda thumb in belt movement ** what can i tell ya, it's an art form

I like to flirt in a safe way. Just showing people you care for them in a non romantic way. I am clueless about when people flirt with me. I think that is a self confidence thing also. I flirt more when I am high in the self confidence area.
Jim

flirt= forget about what people think, love to talk about other peoples interests, inspire other people, recognize other people talents, train others to flirt with others and repeat the cycle.

now you know how to flirt better. :)
paul

What I love about flirting is that you have more words to use to show you really like someone, as a friend or other. I mean some days I'm in such a good mood that everyone is my Sweetie.. know what I mean... hmmm I have to stop saying that....

Hey Kassie, why would you stop saying that if that is how you feel? Thats what I like about you, you are real and you say what you feel. :)

You have already voted on this poll. ;) Paul

lol

It's quite annoying when you're a nice guy, being friendly to most people you meet (harass?) on campus, not necessarily flirting, and that everyone around you believes you're constantly trying to pick up chicks.

brainless fools... i'm just trying to connect with people.
its truly sad that some guys only go talk to a girl seriously when they want more(edited by admin) ... not that there's ANY problem with that... ;-)


KRISP, great point... nobody can keep up with my conversations... seems the only normal (or interesting, really) ones i've had so far were with other ADD/ADHD people.

lol
:)

appreciate you shteklatte.

What I love about flirting is that you have more words to use to show you really like someone, as a friend or other. I mean some days I'm in such a good mood that everyone is my Sweetie.. know what I mean... hmmm I have to stop saying that....

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I call everyone Hon, Sweetie or Love and don't even realize it half the time. Used to bother my husband now he just laugh's it off.

When I'm in a mood like today. I'm a toucher, I hug everyone and touch their arm or hold their hand when I'm talking to them. I should really work on that but nobody has complained yet. Maybe, it's not that big an issue.

I try to flirt. Can't tell when I am getting it back (if I am, lol)

Someone said they flirted with words...this is me too. Have not ever been a physical flirter...maybe with bf only.

I fear contact with other people...in fourth grade I was a bit naive and was tricked into some other guys in my grade to make inappropriate contact with a girl. I didn't know it was inappropriate, of course, because I was very, very naive well into my older years. I got in a lot of trouble for that...very bothersome to me, heh.

So I really fear touching other people...I'm always worried it won't be acceptable, or something...I dunno. At any rate, I am very, very, very self-conscious about touching other people, because I fear repercussions...heh. Just recently I've gotten to the point where I can touch other people and not be extremely worried, but I still avoid it a lot. Only exception really is handshaking, high fives, etc. Or wrestling with kids at work, throwing them around in pools, etc. that doesn't really bother me, heh.

I also get very defensive when people touch me, especially if they jump on my back or touch my back, neck, or torso without warning. I've been known to throw people and shoot elbows on reflex when they grabbed my shoulder from behind, etc. I don't know why that is, I think it just goes with the anxiety thing, heh. Light touching bothers me as well, but that's more hypersensitivity than anything.

When i worked in retail i would flirt with the pretty young ladies that would come through my line, or if it was working on the floor the ladies that came in to my deptarment, but never crossed any lines..but now hat i'm married, i don't really flirt as much as i used to and all in good fun.

I don't think i like flirting
And i think i have never done that before..
so much so that people even think i was lesbian or whether i came from "all gals" school that made me very unsociable towards opposite gender. And firstly i am not neither the above two mentioned.
I just don like flirting. I think it is also usually for those people who are more self confident and think they look pretty or handsome that then they have this tendancy to flirt? Hmm not sure.

=I ...
Smokey ...
I don't really enjoy doing it ... kind of ... you know ...
yuck ...

flirting is fabulous
it took me a long while to realize that i was participating in this dance and that other ppl were playing along with me..i think i've been this way since i was a girl...and as for all those that said its more mental than physical-well, i think all attraction comes from your brain ( i mean, you wouldn't have anything going on in your body anyway if you didn't have a functioning brain to do those involuntary lovely things like pheremones right?) so sometimes its more on purpose for me, but most likely something that is just interwoven with my communication..one of the poster's on this thread..i think it was the younger girl: she says that she flirts w/ women also ..me too..i think flirting goes beyond bare mating potentiality
i didn't read big's article but i get the gist and as the other primates enjoy, both genders cater to their superiors and peers with more attention or less attention etc..
i discovered that i have a preference for the borderline victorian couched aesthetic, its more fun and inventive with words...
you can flirt via internet, hand written letters, with a look, with a walk, with the right exhalation
and i think its unfortunate that this is to be so closeted often. i understand that i'm married but as i've come into my womanhood i've risen to the occasion of experiencing the unfurling of my senses...and i just have to adamant in my refusal to feel ashamed about that
i know that it can get you into trouble (and i've been in trouble)
but i don't intend or perpetrate harm, teasing etc. i think flirting is ethical in a sense that you are being delicately honest about your humaness and if you're wise you won't let it run away with you and your object of desire...

I answered 1 & 4. After that, I'm envoking my right to the fifth amendment. ;)

:rolleyes: Its human..yet if involved on a serious level with someone,what the point,cause and effect is huma,send mixed messages and deal with what you set into motion.

Freddy
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8 mos later from my first post and flirting is no easier, lol.

When I am in the mood, to a modest degree, I flirt with everyone. I don't think the dynamics of flirting has to have a sexual aspect. Watch children and animals (mammals) of every kind and they play in such a way as to enchant others into their sphere.

Here's what I do when I am in a good mood:

(Everyone gets included in this behavior. The lists includes old men and women, cute guys, good friends, dogs and horses, children in grocery lines, people who just need cheering up, single folks, married folks, and sometimes complete strangers.)

1. I offer a smile to everyone. I have been known to smile at people who dislike me just to confuse them.

2. I touch folks on the shoulder when parting or when I want their attention.

3. I pat heads and rub them behind their ears (dogs and children).

4. I find something nice to say. Old people especially seem to appreciate compliments.

5. I look deeply into their eyes. (I do this to each person whom I want to know that they have my complete attention and understanding.)

6. I pat hands. (For attention and encouragement.)

7. I really do give a damn how their day went.

8. I lick my lips and smooth my hair. (Works wonders with men.)

9. I mirror body language but speak computerese. (I use this with anyone who is very upset.)

10. I nuzzle. (Horses, my daughter. My dog. Ie: I do not do this with strange dogs. They have been known to object.)

You want to know something: I have never been misunderstood.

It is very sad when we get so frozen into our own worlds that we cannot express concern and affection for others.

Wow, I'm a wicked flirt. I don't even mean to do it... it's an unconscious sort of thing... I catch myself sometimes and I like blush lots...

Everything in moderation...never would want to hurt anyone only make them feel better aboutt themselves...auntchris

I guess i am a flirt too. It's just so much fun to do it.