Is it normal for someone my age to want to have a baby? I don't even have a boyfriend. Im not going to just rush and have a baby but I feel kind of sad because I want one. I see mothers with babies all the time and It makes me want one even more.

I am only a freshman in college. Just fresh out of high school. I am also 8 days away from my period, so could hormones be causing me to feel like this? Should I see a psychiatrist about this?

I think this is normal to want one and want one even more when you see mothers with there babies..it's just picturing your future really

if you think about it, biologically it's your instinct wanting a baby. it's written into our dna as women. Like everything there are exceptions.

As a woman, you are wired to want children. We just happen to live in an era where we recognize this and have the option of putting it off. Unfortunately we sometimes feel guilty for doing so, but again, biology at work here.

It's not uncommon to feel this way around the midde of your cycle either.

In jest I offer this: ask a friend to "borrow" their small baby or toddler for a few days. You'll renew your birth control prescription soon after.

I can't believe how strong the feeling is though. My motherly instincts are mixing in with hormones and making me want a child. Im practically still a child my self. I just graduated high school back in june.

Women don't want children anymore than men do... it's all personality and acculturation IMHO. I've wanted children since I've been 17. I'm not going to however because the possibilities I want will never be fulfilled (i.e. a world worth living in. The world is great, wonderful, beautiful, yada yada, but the people are too ****ing stupid).

But women, due to acculturation, need a child to receive unconditional love.

But women, due to acculturation, need a child to receive unconditional love.Not necessarily. A cat or dog works too.

Not necessarily. A cat or dog works too.
I agree; just remember parenting a companion animal is time intensive.

i think its normal im 15 and i really want a baby

geez, I'm 44, past childbearing age, and LONG past the idea of having a little one around, but yeah, around "that" time of the month, especially if there is a baby nearby, the hormones and innate desires and all that other womanly stuff give way to me wanting a baby! It's just the way we are made. The same way guys are "made" to procreate. They are hardwired and programed and driven much the same way us women are. Maybe you can volunteer at a daycare or school nearby, or babysit for extra money, or get a pet to help satisfy and fulfill your nurting desires at this point in your life? You would probably be a great mom, Bandie!

Women don't want children anymore than men do...

Women experience fluctuations in their hormones in relation to their menstrual cycle which is THE system for child bearing. Correct me if I'm wrong but men don't menstruate.

But women, due to acculturation, need a child to receive unconditional love.

Uhhhh ... do you have children? I have one. And she loves me, but it's not unconditional. Just ask her how she feels about me when I tell her she has to turn the television off so she can do her homework.

Uhhhh ... do you have children? I have one. And she loves me, but it's not unconditional. Just ask her how she feels about me when I tell her she has to turn the television off so she can do her homework.The boy can dream, can't he? LOL! Actually, Min, my kids taught me so much and they are my best work.

I am a 43 year old ADHD'er, if I knew I carried this sensory illness and could explain it to get help I would not have considered having children at all no matter how much the desire was there..
My youngest got his diagnose at 8 years and is non medication treatable or able to live at home with my oldest son, whom got his ADHD/Asperges diagnose at 15 years several months back..
It is a inherited sensory illness and I have been to parent support groups where one family has children 8,6,4 and 2.. Child 8 years and 6 years have dignosed ADHD and are on medications child number 4 is being dignosed and it is only time before they have to get child 2 years also seen to.. I got sterilised efter number 2.. My kids have heavy dignoses even if they are very social and have alot of friends can and will pass the genes on if they have kids.. I have a new boyfriend whom is ADD and in denial but we do agree on not wanting anymore kids, because the risk is too high, not fair and every time my kids experience something that gets me down, it kills me a little more inside...

Is it normal for someone my age to want to have a baby? I don't even have a boyfriend. Im not going to just rush and have a baby but I feel kind of sad because I want one. I see mothers with babies all the time and It makes me want one even more.

I am only a freshman in college. Just fresh out of high school. I am also 8 days away from my period, so could hormones be causing me to feel like this? Should I see a psychiatrist about this?

I don't see what the problem is. Find someone you like, and raise a family.
You're 19, not 9. You'd be in your twenties by the time you have a child. That's old enough. Maybe you should do part-time work (if you aren't doing it already for college payment), just to make some extra cash.

Oh, and please don't see a psychiatrist about this, unless you want to be diagnosed with the "Functioning normally disorder."

P.S. I'm not a female. I just realized this is the "Women with ADHD/ADD" section

I don't see what the problem is. Find someone you like, and raise a family.
You're 19, not 9. You'd be in your twenties by the time you have a child. That's old enough. Maybe you should do part-time work (if you aren't doing it already for college payment), just to make some extra cash.

Oh, and please don't see a psychiatrist about this, unless you want to be diagnosed with the "Functioning normally disorder."

P.S. I'm not a female. I just realized this is the "Women with ADHD/ADD" section

dude, seriously? did you READ her post? she doesn't even have a boyfriend, and is just starting college. I guess you tell ex smokers that crave it to just go buy a pack. Awesome.

Based on your advice she'd have to like start NOW finding a guy that not only likes her, wants to have relations with you, but also have a kid with her and now. did you check with her to see what sort of resources she has available to help with the care of that child you're so sure she's up to having?

have you checked out daycare costs? or are you assuming she's obscenely wealthy and doesn't need daycare and/or employment. You can't exactly be in two places at once, so she cant work and raise her kid at the same time.

Oh and diapers aren't free.

for all you know she's on her own, working to put herself through college and a kid for her now would mean one of two things, quitting college to afford the daycare so she can work more than she sees her kid, or staying in college and working so much that she never sees the kid. even if there is family in the picture, I'm not entirely sure they'd applaud their daughter for putting college on the backburner in favor of a very expensive and noisy and attention seeking human being.

your post was awesome.

P.S. I'm not a female. I just realized this is the "Women with ADHD/ADD" sectionYou are quite welcome to post on any forum you want to. If the OP just wanted a female perspective, she would have stated that in her post.

Since when does unconditional love not include anger at times?

dude, seriously? did you READ her post? she doesn't even have a boyfriend, and is just starting college. I guess you tell ex smokers that crave it to just go buy a pack. Awesome.

Based on your advice she'd have to like start NOW finding a guy that not only likes her, wants to have relations with you, but also have a kid with her and now. did you check with her to see what sort of resources she has available to help with the care of that child you're so sure she's up to having?

have you checked out daycare costs? or are you assuming she's obscenely wealthy and doesn't need daycare and/or employment. You can't exactly be in two places at once, so she cant work and raise her kid at the same time.

Oh and diapers aren't free.

for all you know she's on her own, working to put herself through college and a kid for her now would mean one of two things, quitting college to afford the daycare so she can work more than she sees her kid, or staying in college and working so much that she never sees the kid. even if there is family in the picture, I'm not entirely sure they'd applaud their daughter for putting college on the backburner in favor of a very expensive and noisy and attention seeking human being.

your post was awesome.

My post wasn't meant to ignore the above things. If it's not feasible for her, then obviously she should wait until it is. I was mostly responding to the "I am 19..." part, and pointing how her age has nothing to do it, and if she has the resources, she could raise a child as early as 20.

Maybe you're just very "maternal", which is a lovely quality. Work with kids or babysit if you can; but seriously, get your diploma first. Wait for a while, I'm sure you'll meet a GREAT guy who also wants a family.

Oh, my you definitly need a psych. You really feel like you need a child to be loved, I hope you know this is not true. I had my first child when I was 21, I had parental rights taken awayfrom his father due to him being totally nuts. At the age of 2 it was clear my son was not right. He is now 12 and has had complex Tourette's syndrome, bipolar disorder Nos with psychotic features ADHD and autism. He is the brightest star in my life but he is a special needs child and depends on me for everything. I am currently going thru a divorcce and have an 18 month old. i cannot tell you how difficult it is financially at times and especially with a special needs child, it can be exhausting. Please do not get pregnant right now, please get some help if you can and realize you have to love your self before you can take care of a child. Not to mention the financial obligation in raising a child. Especially now it is very costly. Please re-think everything and realize you are lucky you can address your personal issues before you bring a child into the world. E mail me anytime you need to or want to I would be happy to talk anytime with you, all my love and concern, liz

I think it is normal to want a baby at 15 or 19 , around the time we begin to menstruate because that is what menstrual cycles indicate We are biologically ready to reproduce and young males are not going to see a thing wrong with that because they are where you are in the biological process of it all

However the more mature women are going to caution you and rightful so. It is their jobs to be the voice of reason and to do their best to to snap loose any romantic notions you may think having a baby will be - They speak the truth by the way. . . . babies are NOT romantic,e they messy as hell and in my opinion the only reason they are cute is to keep you from killing them when they are teens

yes babies are can be so adorable and having one can seem like a good idea because they look like a wonderful experience all dressed up in their cutie outfits, riding in their strollers through the park with that loving young couple . . . Notice the sun glasses worn by the young mother - notice even after she removes them that concealer under her eyes??????

She is trying to hide the dark circle cause by lack of sleep children bring into your life beginning day one and not ending - ever. Even when they are grown they will keep you awake with worry . . . motherhood marks the end of the life of charmed sanity and sleep

What you are NOT seeing is 2a, feedings 4am colic fits 6am poopie diapers and the smell of formula spit up. If it weren't for this biological drive the human race would be extinct for it is in this drive causes even experienced mothers forget the formula induced projectile vomiting, the teething fusses from hell and the poop painting fests first thing in the morning.

Children are a life long commitment and it is the jobs of the more experienced women to be sure you realize this. . . .

My point -

While it is natural to want a child it is also natural to want to reach out and slap the smirk off a rude clerks face, or scream and pitch a fit in the middle of class about how unfair a professor has graded your hard work .

As humans we have many desires that are perfectly natural. However it is not always in our best interest to give in those desires no matter how natural they are.

Hope this helps :)

Since when does unconditional love not include anger at times?

The problem with the concept of a baby is the same one many have with puppies and kittens - humans dogs and cats GROW up !!!!!

Do I have to begin a thread to see how many people here hate their parents -

I think what is being seen as unconditional love is in reality unconditional needs - that is what children have unconditional needs

Only some are able to acquire the ability to offer unconditional love and it is influenced by the parental ability to do so first and foremost no matter how challenging!

That explains it then.

I have a theory, and I'll see what you ladies have to say. Maybe I'm way off base, but this is just based on what I've seen in my life, with people that I've been around.

I think that a lot of women, particularly young women, that get to the "I want a baby" stage are really just hungry for love. Love is something we all want, and we all need. However, look at the world around us all. Everyone is out for their own needs, there isn't a lot of love shown in daily life, and that includes many families. People are too busy to show love, and a lot of kids (boys and girls) grow up with somewhat absent parents, or parents that were never shown love themselves and therefore don't know how to show it. A lot of girls also date boys, or women date men, that have no idea how to show love. Many men are quite damaged in that way, so women marry them or date them and aren't really getting what they want/deserve.

So, a girl reaches her upper teens, maybe even mid teens, and they want a child. They want it for the love that it gives. However, many times they don't really know what it entails, raising a child. They may also not even have a loving man in their life to show them and the resulting child love, or may have never really been shown love as a child themselves. If you really want to start a family, then start a family, don't just "have a baby".

Unfortunately, I've even seen women that I knew want to get pregnant and have a baby to "save their marriage" or because their husbands were jerks and they just wanted something to show them love. That is so sad. First, having a baby adds to stress, financially, lack of sleep, daily responsibility 24/7, so how in the world would that save a bad marriage? Second, babies don't just show love, they take love too. If you don't have enough of it in your own life, you may not have enough to give, and unfortunately there are some horrible mothers out there, just as there are fathers.

So ladies, how far off am I? Do women just crave babies, or is it often that they want someone to love, and to love them in return because they aren't getting it somewhere else? In my experience, it just often points to a desire for love, moreso than a desire for the experience of raising a child.

first, Lizbeth, bandie never said in her original post that she wanted a baby because she wanted someone to make her feel love. My take on it was she just couldn't figure out why, at her age and stage in life (ie. no boyfriend, starting college), she was experiencing such desire to have a baby. It's totally normal and NO she does NOT need a psych.

Madd: you're not off base at all. Lots of women have children for the wrong reasons and i'd guess a lot do it because they feel a baby simply HAS to love them. unfortunately that only works short term.

I do not feel women "crave" babies , at least not like we "crave" chocolate (which I don't btw). Women were designed to have babies. Period. Therefore in order to maintain the human race, we need to HAVE babies. So it's in our makeup to want them. Otherwise we sure as hell wouldn't after spending a day or so with someone elses.

Granted, not all women want them, even tho they carry the necessary plumbing to do so. Some women do want them, however, for one reason or another chose not to.

Then there are the wingnuts that want them because hubby is a jerk. Or mommy didn't hug her enough as a kid, or daddy. Or worse, the teenager that thinks it's cool that four of her classmates had one.

but yes, many women do and will continue to have children because they feel a baby equals an unending feeling of love and will fill a need. WRONG.
After one week with a newborn, that feeling usually turns to something much different.

I get where Bandie is though, you see cute babies in public, they're generally not screaming or spewing puke and the mom is not ripping her hair out. It appears to be a good idea.

Even after two kids, I still see a baby and start to feel maternal again and can feel my ovaries revving up. However, in roughly five minutes, one or both of my kids will inevitably do something that makes me want commit a felony and that cute baby just ain't so cute anymore.

mADD MIKE, this is what I was saying, women do it to get certain love.

You GO Delores!!! I wanted to get pregnant at 14 but was at least smart enough to realize non of the losers I was sleeping with fit the profile of a good daddy.

Seriously honey, Get a puppy. My puppy helped me a LOT during those years... When I was 21 I had a REALLY bad break up and decided to just find a fantastic man that just wanted children. We have two now. Thank GOD he is so supportive. I'm a pre-law student and I can't imagine staying in school and having to support myself and children. Hell, I can't imagine supporting myself alone and out of school! lol Finish your education first! It is SO hard to get any school work done with kids, not to even mention all while being ADD. I end up distracted watching Sponge Bob with my daughters... Do yourself a favor. Be rational and get an IUD. That way, you don't have to worry about hormones affecting your judgement, which BTW is way worse after kids.

I love my daughters, I really do, I just wish I could enjoy them more, but instead, I have to prepare a deposition for my Tort Law class, study for midterms, and write an essay in Spanish.

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mADD MIKE, this is what I was saying, women do it to get certain love.

I really wanted to just let this one go but not ALL women do this. And there are some men that do this too. Unless you're a woman there's nothing anyone can say to really explain the feeling that we sometimes get. It's just a normal thing for a woman to want a baby. As with everything there are exceptions and extremes.

there's a whole lot of lost children in this world.
.......that need someone's time.

If I were you, I'd become a "big sister" or baby sit.
.......this is a real life, you are going to have to drop your life for.

Please make real good and sure you understand that responsibility is HUGE.

Mike, about that theory.
...I never wanted a baby, but, I always want love.

I really wanted to just let this one go but not ALL women do this. And there are some men that do this too. Unless you're a woman there's nothing anyone can say to really explain the feeling that we sometimes get. It's just a normal thing for a woman to want a baby. As with everything there are exceptions and extremes.

Of course not all, that would be silly.

In agreement with SuzzanneX, there a millions of lost children in the world. Some need parents and others simply need a kind, loving person to influence their lives. Volunteering for a childrens' home in your area could be a great way to give something special to a child that needs it. There are also Big Brother/Big Sister organizations all over the place where you can volunteer to mentor a child.
But I know this isn't what you're saying you want.
It's biological for a woman to "want" to have a baby and while for some, it may be to get love, fix a marriage etc, it is still very biological. Your body was made to have babies and your hormones were designed to ensure that happens. However....I feel very strongly deep deep down that 19 is too young to even consider having a child. I had some maternal twinges when I was a teenager but they quickly went away. After the initial maternal twinge, I honestly didn't want to EVER have kids. I did get pregnant at 22 but couldn't bring myself to have an abortion. I had my daughter and love her tremendously. I wouldn't change it for the world only because if I had waited until I was older I wouldn't have her but I feel that 22 (23 when I actually had her) was too young. There is so much life to be lived before bringing a baby into your life. You can still do things, sure, but they definitely put a damper on socializing, traveling and overall enjoying your youth.
Babies are demanding and require 24/7 attention and care.
My advice is to experience the life YOU want before handing it over to a being that is only concerned about THEIR needs.
I love being a mom and nothing can replace the feeling. Just take your time and make sure you are completely ready to sacrifice the things you will have to in order to be a good mom.

Of course not all, that would be silly.. . . or crowded. :D

Of course not all, that would be silly.

if only i could spend time IN your brain instead of trying to decipher it via text. lol GADS! :p

Conversation inside the mind of many a mom of babies, the very same ones who are happily walking (or at least seemingly so) down the street -- esp. one with ADD:

Working mom, for example, walking early in the morning:

Do I need to shave under my arms this morning? Because I need to wear that shirt with no sleeves today since I didn't wash that other pair of pants that would go with the only other clean thing I have left. Am I going to need to wear a jacket -- is it going to be this cold all day? Do I have a jacket that's not covered with cat hair -- I don't have a roller left. Did I get more deodorant?

Oh, no -- the baby just made a horrible gassy sound. Did she poop? She's not crying yet. Is she going to start crying? Do I have wipes in case she pooped? I could walk back to the house early but I need my walk so I don't spaz out at work. Did I get wipes when I put her bag together? Why is the only time I have for this at 5:45 a. m.? Why won't my husband take care of her while I get one stinking half hour walk? He's going to be ticked off that we didn't get busy last night -- again. Doesn't the jerk understand that I'm too tired to lift my head up, much less have sex?

(Looks at baby) She is so cute -- but when am I going to get one decent night's sleep? Am I going to remember to do all that paperwork tomorrow? Am I going to have time? But I have to pick her up from day care by 5 because hubby can't do it because he has a late meeting. Did I buy anything for dinner tonight? Do I have anything in the fridge? Crud, her diaper must be chock full of poop by now. (Rustles through diaper bag). Crap, I didn't bring wipes. Do I have tissue in my purse? (Rustles through purse). No, no tissue -- nothing but a napkin. Will a napkin be enough? Should I bring her home? Is it too cold to try to change her out here?

(Baby starts crying). Man, just what I need. Sorry baby, sorry hon. Does my car have gas? Will I have time to get gas? Maybe I just won't floss my teeth, that'll buy me a few minutes. Or maybe I won't put on makeup. No, I have to have my makeup . . . "

Etc. Babies are a ton, ton, ton, ton of work. They don't love you unconditionally -- they need you unconditionally, a need that sometimes feels like a giant boa constrictor wrapped around you, squeezing the air out of you. You will love your baby, and sometimes want to run far away and never come back. Does this mean don't ever have a baby? NO! But try to have one when all the other variables -- money, time, support -- aren't in short supply.

PS. Isn't it funny that no one says, "Awwww, I want a three year old?" LOL.

PS. Isn't it funny that no one says, "Awwww, I want a three year old?" LOL.Actually, three is one of my favorite ages. :D

I do think this is normal. I have never felt very "motherly" at all... wasn't really a huge fan of kids or anything until recently (I'm 19 as well). I notice I suddenly see the cuteness that everyone else does and a part of me wants one. I'm obviously not going to have one yet though, but I've noticed the desire.

BUT I talked to my guy friend about it (he is 21) and he says he feels the same way recently! I think it is just our age group, boys and girls alike.

Yes I think it's normal for someone your age, even younger, to want to have a baby. And it's probably not worth a psychiatrist visit, since they only deal with abnormal thoughts. :p And yes, horomones/stress/social pressures all of these things and more could be contributing to your want for a baby.

It's interesting that you wrote about you wanting a baby. When you're ready to be a parent, it's about baby's needs not yours.

You being in school is the 'training' ground to becoming a parent. The maturity and growth that you do between now and graduation is what you will have to share with your future child. Rushing it will only cause unecessary pain.

Yes, it's normal and it's fine as long as you don't do something irrational (like go out and get pregnant when you know the timing is bad). Our bodies are ready to have a baby by 19, and in most places and times you would be socially/economically ready to. In our society, there's a lot of good reasons to wait, so your brain may just have to be at odds with your body for a few years.

Look at it this way -- you can lay the groundwork now to be the best mom you can be. Putting off having your children will be one of the first sacrifices you make for them -- you may want one now, but you know that it's wiser to wait.

Finish college. Yes, you can be a great mom at a young age and without a degree, but why not give yourself the best opportunities? I can promise you that going back to school after you have kids is way, way harder than finishing it when you are single and childless. Take care of yourself financially -- avoid any unnecessary debt, and as soon as you've graduated start working on paying off loans and saving money as much as possible. Trust me, I had unpaid maternity leave with my son and I dearly wished I'd had enough money for more than just 8 weeks with him. :( I was 32, and I realized I'd had all those years in my 20s that I knew I'd want to be a stay-at-home mom someday, but I never took the steps necessary to make it happen.

The other reason I say to get a degree first and save some money is just for your own sanity. If you can, find a career you can both like and make decent money at, and learn to live well below your means (make use of automatic deposits and such to put money into savings). You will be giving your future self an irreplacable gift -- the gift of vastly reduced stress. It sucks to be overwhelmed by money troubles at the same time you're overwhelmed by lack of sleep as well as all the other stresses of being a new mom.

My son is now 3 and my daughter is 18 months -- I did manage to get my act together after DS was born and train for a new job working from home, and did that so I was able to stay home (working from home) with DD for a year after she was born, and it was wonderful. I did it in true ADD fashion, not getting around to taking care of all that until just past the last minute -- already lost out on what I wanted with my son -- and it was way harder to get there than if I'd planned better when I was younger.

Also, just a consideration -- can't tell from your post if you have ADD or not, but if you do that's another reason to take into consideration what your stress/coping levels are. All the more reasons to try to take care of your schooling and financial situation before you have kids, rather than after. All the things that can stress out any new mom can be that much harder with ADD. Sleep deprivation for example -- and that's not just a short-term thing. My son was past 2.5 before he started reliably sleeping through the night -- that's 2.5 years, not months. Or laundry for another example -- when I wash their clothes I have to inspect each item as I put it into the washer, and stain-treat as necessary, or I wind up with a bunch of set-in stains and a couple of shabby-looking kids. :) Or speaking of clothes, just the nightmare of keeping them in current wardrobes. Right now DD is wearing size 12 month in some clothes, 18 month in others, and 2T in a few. And we are transitioning from summer to winter clothes. So I'm trying to separate outgrown things for giveaway, and going through hand-me-downs she's growing into, trying to decide what fits now and what might fit by spring, and what I'm still short of that I need to get out and buy. DS likewise is in 3T or 4T tops, and 2T or 3T bottoms, and going through the same wardrobe transitions. I have clothes everywhere LOL. Meanwhile I'm dressing myself ridiculously badly because my brain is stretched as far as it can go just trying to keep my kids presentable.

Anyway the list goes on from there. I love it all but it's an enormous challenge and only the ADD diagnosis and subsequent wonderful discovery of Adderall has helped me cope to a reasonable degree. Make it easy on yourself -- try to think & plan before you jump in.

Also Whenever I have a period I feel guilty. I feel like I'm denying a possible child the right to a life. I know its just an egg, not a baby, but I can't help thinking that it could've been a child. Just this year I started getting baby fixations when ever I see parents with babies, I get this burning feeling (I think its a feeling of love which I have never felt before) in my heart when ever I see a mother with a baby.

Bandie,

You didn't have a miscarriage or an abortion or something did you? It almost sounds like you're in grief. Sometimes women who lose babies have the same sorts of feelings that you're having, so if I'm off, that's why -- it just reminded me of that -- feeling guilty about getting a period and all.

Bandie,

You didn't have a miscarriage or an abortion or something did you? It almost sounds like you're in grief. Sometimes women who lose babies have the same sorts of feelings that you're having, so if I'm off, that's why -- it just reminded me of that -- feeling guilty about getting a period and all.

No I have never had a baby before. I still have my virginity.

My mum had me at 19 and in those times that age was considered normal. Some woman just really, really want to be mums. You're just feeling what you do, don't be hard on yourself. I hope one day you have a whole bunch of rug bunnies! And if you can do it sooner rather than later, go for it. Life is too short and out of all the things we can experience in life, i'm sure having a family is the best one. :)

I get this burning feeling (I think its a feeling of love which I have never felt before) in my heart when ever I see a mother with a baby.

It is biological - not spiritual or emotional.

If it weren't for these feelings we would be extinct = no one would have more than one kid. . .

Over fixation may be a sign of {cats knocking crap off my desk} oops no it may be a sign of some thing else that needs to be dealt with by a professional.


At least baby sit an infant or a toddler or both before embarking upon having one your self.

is there anything else you want BESIDES a baby?

....you can't have it.

no staying out all night with someone you're in love with, to lay under the stars.

.....you need a baby sitter.

AND, it's a fact, it's hard to find young men who will have a GF with a baby.
....don't you want to have a baby with the right person?
babies NEED parents, or they become neurotics, and delinquents.


no spontaneous concerts, or extra money for clothes.
......It is so hard to raise a child in this world... you could be a candy striper in a hospital and hold babies all night, that desperately need to be held.


and to make a nest before
you hatch an egg.

hey i'd take a girlfriend with a baby any time!






if she provides income

so could hormones be causing me to feel like this? Should I see a psychiatrist about this?


I'm not sure what was said in previous replies to this post, but I would like OP to know that I get that way before my period. I get this whole "nesting" thing going on where I really want to be a guy, get married... have a baby and just settle down. Once my period is over I'm like OMG what was I thinking because I have way too much fun and if I had a kid I wouldn't be able to do those things - it would be all work all the time.

As I'm reading over my post the next day... I realize that I said I wanted to be a guy... and that's not how I meant it LOL

I really meant to say I want to be WITH a guy

You can all laugh at me now, but it would not let me edit it and I had to clarity.

We can get back on topic now.

I really want to be a guy, get married... have a baby and just settle down.