View Full Version : Preparation for seeing doctor...anxious


Ganzy
10-16-08, 11:19 AM
Can anyone give me any advice regarding how to prepare to see my doctor? I haven't seen him in 10 years or more and so much has happened in my life (or not!) during that time that I am am anxious about going to see him. I have so much to say, don't know how to say it, and will be deflated having taken my mask off only to be told there's nothing wrong when I know damn well there is. He is nice man though, and I may just be projecting my anxieties onto this whole situation... I don't know.

A few weeks ago I was blown away by what I had learned about ADD and the parrallels to my life, only in the last few weeks have I even addmitted to myself, and actually started to use the word in relation to myself while disscusing this with my wife of 20 years. Only last night I dared to even contemplate taking medication for it.

I decided that if that what was needed to help drag my *** out of this hole I've been sitting in since forever, then that is what I must do.

Well.. after 3 hours of surfin and readin and deliberating and smokin and drinkin tea add infinitum, getting myself all worked up basically, I decided to run to the phone straight away and make an appointment with my doctor..... ring ring, ring ring,....huh!!... Great, F***in answering machine... "Sorry but the surgey is now closed blah blah blah.. Huh?! At 13.50pm on a thursday? What kind of hours do doctors keep? I must be in the wrong game..

Sorry for blasting off.

Back to my point:

Is there any evidence I should gather together other than my wifes and my own shared life story. I have a brother and a sister who are both twins. They are both heroin addicts and are struggling badly. My sister especially. she told me recently that she was in the process of being diagnosed with bipolar. It took a slangin match between us for this one to come out, but we're well used to conflicts in my family. I told her then, that I was 100% sure that I have ADD inattentive type and asked her to mention it to her psychologist when she see's her next. I have a strong suspicion that the bipolar has been passed down to my sister through my mum. Her mother, my nan had suffered with deppression in her life and commited suicide when my mum was 15, mum found her dead. Mum also has 2 younger sisters who are twins.

Thankfully I don't believe I inherited the depression, not fully anyway. I have days where I am down for no good reason, but I have learnt to watch these mini depressive episodes pass, I know when I wake up tommorrow I will feel different. I can live with that. I also understand how some non-biological sort of depression can come as a result of having ADD ie a sense of failure at not moving forward, not getting organised, not finishing any of my multiple projects, and not being able to hold a job down for very long before I jack it in. Not because I am not good at what I do but because the lateness starts kicking in 2 weeks in to a new job, which causes anxiety in me regarding being accepted into the team. Then the conflict with peers start, especially management, being rebellious, I just will not be saddled..

Anyway, before I got off on my tangent... I think my sister has inherited the bipolar through my mum, which leaves poor dad to take the blame for the ADD lol, and boy do I think he has it. Having learned what I have about ADD over the last month, growing up in a house that was like a building site (read: unfinished projects) all my young life. The rowing between mum and dad, the drinking, dads fighting, police at the door, sunday dinners getting slammed at the kitchen wall, doors shattering in splinters as a huge sausage-fingered-nicotine-stained fist came flying through it... & on & on...

But he's a great guy, and I wanna help him and the rest of my family find the peace they individually, secretley know exists, but can't find, because they are looking for it in the wrong place, out there in the world, when all the time it was sitting right there in their/our own nuggets!

Jesus, i'm tired now.. I feel like i've done a days work.

If anyone can help me with this doc thing, I'll buy you pint if I ever meet you.

I'll leave you with this strangely comforting song many of you may know...

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=4zP1IjgSO_E&NR=1

Thank you.

And Peace wherever you may find it..

ArtfulDodger
10-18-08, 08:19 PM
Your GP is unlikely to know very much about ADD or its treatment, especially in adults (it's not yet as widely known in the UK as it could be), so he won't be qualified to diagnose it and won't need to hear your life story and about your family history etc - you can save that for the psych. I would suggest taking along some info about ADD and explaining how you came across it and the reasons you think it applies to you, and that you'd like to be referred to a specialist to check it out. He should be happy to do so.

You will find a list of those who work with adult ADD in one of the stickys in this forum, you may also want to take that information so your doctor has an idea of who to refer you to.

Good luck with everything. :)

Bluerose
10-19-08, 10:17 AM
Maybe writing down what you want to cover would help. And your family history should really be a major telling point for the doctor, surely he won't ignore that. The thing is to stay calm and work to get across everything that you think is relevant. Good luck. I wish you all the very best. Come back and let us know how it went.

whitestripesfan
10-19-08, 11:49 AM
hi there GANZY, Im at exactly the same point as you, feel sure i have inattentive add, which i assume that is what you describe, but not certain whether my thoughts on this will be taken seriously. i agree with BLUE ROSE, I did just that made a list of everything that had been plaguing me,with not being able to concentrate, nd my frustrations about not being able to move forward , just list all these things that are making your life so difficult, i did nt know how my doctor would react cause like yourself i have been treated for depression for the last 20 years, and thought he would just pass it over on to that,but he ws very kind, and has made an appointment for me to see a mental health team, howeveri must warn you that i was a little disillusioned to find out that he had not heard of adult add before and certainly not the inattentive type. so im not sure what shall happen from here, but i have recently heard there is three main centres in england that deal with adult adhd, which considering it is nt formally recognised here in england surprised me. im going to try searching for them on the internet, as soon as i find it i shall send you a post with the link, your doctor then maybe able to refer you straight there. sorry if this makes little sense my concentration is typically shot to pieces right now, but i hope it helps, be in touch as soon as i find that link. WHITESTRIPES :)

whitestripesfan
10-19-08, 12:10 PM
HI AGAIN GANZY, THIS IS WHAT IVE FOUND, there is two main centres one in CAMBRIDGE at Addenbrooks hospital, the email address is jenny.hall@cambsmh.nhs.uk or BRISTOL ; bristoladhdadults@googlemail.com i found the the info at www.aadd.org.uk/diagnosed you can get referals straight from your g.p so it might be good to show him these centres as he may not be aware of them cause i don't think my doctor is. hopefully ive gotten all the info above correct, contact me if you have any problems and ill do my best to help. warmest wishes and good luck WHITESTRIPESFAN :)

Ganzy
10-22-08, 07:44 PM
ArtfulDodger, Bluerose, whitestripesfan

Thank you very much for finding the time to post back, it is much appreciated!!

I hadn't forgotten about my post here, but finding it quiet on this little international backwater section of the site, I went in search elswhere.

Well what a week or two it has been.. where to start... lol
I feel like I have been sand blasted with diamond grit.

So much has changed in my mind, paradigm shifts and new perspectives, and a new understanding of what AD/HD is..... And I've just been disturbed mid-flow ackkk!! by my amazing wife. But instead of snapping in frustration, I broke off and talked for 5....

So back to the topic at hand..

Artful:

Your GP is unlikely to know very much about ADD or its treatment, especially in adults (it's not yet as widely known in the UK as it could be), so he won't be qualified to diagnose it and won't need to hear your life story and about your family history etc - you can save that for the psych. I would suggest taking along some info about ADD and explaining how you came across it and the reasons you think it applies to you, and that you'd like to be referred to a specialist to check it out. He should be happy to do so.

You will find a list of those who work with adult ADD in one of the stickys in this forum, you may also want to take that information so your doctor has an idea of who to refer you to.

Iv'e quickly come to realize this and, although perturbed by it, I also realize I can't let this stand in the way of change. Armed with what I know now, I will fight, if needs be, to get this dealt with.
The good advice I have recieved, from yourself Bluerose, and whitestripesfan and various others I have been in contact with recently, will be my armour. I won't go into this with an offensive attitude, but neither will I be submissive or self-effacing. Which I've come to realise, can be a tendency for people with AD/HD, I've always exhibited that trait in my day to day relationships (which are few now), but never knew why, until I started digging. Although the question had occured to me on many ocassions past.

Good luck with everything. :)

Thanks again to you, take care, and look after yourself :)

Bluerose,

Thank you x

Maybe writing down what you want to cover would help. And your family history should really be a major telling point for the doctor, surely he won't ignore that. The thing is to stay calm and work to get across everything that you think is relevant. Good luck. I wish you all the very best. Come back and let us know how it went.

I've made a start on this and feel a lot more confident & peaceful on the whole matter thanks to people like you :)
I promise to let you know how it all goes...

Look after yourself xx



whitestripesfan,

"I've been thinkin about ma doorbell, I'm glad you rung it, I'm glad you rung it!" ROFL :D

Your a star! thanks for those links you posted. Much appreciated. I managed to find my way to http://aadduk.proboards85.com/ before I came back to your post. My nick over there is 'Craig' and if you ever want to call in there and be a part of the forums, be my guest/s, if your not already hangin out there. It's become a new home for me over the last week. The people there are massively supportive and empowering, as I'm sure they are on this board. It's just that, for me, I needed to find a place closer to home. I know AD/HD is a global affair, but this is an american forum in it's origin I think, is it? and although, even in the states I think it is thought to be under recognised amongst people who have to live and deal with it. I think here in good ol' blighty it is even less so, and that needs to change, bigtime. So I'm taking a kind of 'shop local' approach on this :)
No offense to my brothers and sisters stateside, or around the planet for that matter!

I have taken in to consideration the 3 of you's kind advice, and have, and am, mentally preparing myself for my humble voyage to the gates of 'the machine' lol

sorry if this makes little sense my concentration is typically shot to pieces right now

Mate, you are coming through loud and clear. If anyone can make sense of someone with AD/HD, it's someone with AD/HD right? :D

warmest wishes and good luck WHITESTRIPESFAN :)

Warmest wishes to you, whitestripesfan.

I hope to meet you some day. That goes for yout too Artful, Bluerose :)

I hope your fractal minds finds it's way back to my response to you all!

Kindest regards

Craig (Ganzy) ;)