What are/were your fears and/or concerns about being a mother with ADD?

I'm new here and just diagnosed at age 32.

My DH and I don't have kids, but we are trying to conceive, and I keep having all of these crazy thoughts about how forgetful I am and how easily I misplace things. I just see myself setting the baby carrier somewhere and totally forgetting about it. You hear stories of parents leaving their babies in the back of cars. I even heard one where a father pulled out of his driveway and had just driven off when he realized he'd left his baby on the roof! (Fortunately, the carrier didn't fall and the baby was unhurt).

And once our kid can walk...OMG...

I know logically that I'm being ridiculous, but these thoughts keep running through my head. I sometimes have trouble remember if my dogs have eaten and/or had their medicine. Not such a benign thing when it's a human being. lol.

Did or does anyone have similar worries about becoming a mother?

S

I got Dx'ed after leaving my baby girl in the car while shopping. Luckily I only made it to the door of the store before I realized it. It was enough to scare the heck out of me and get tested and then medicated.

I manage fine on my meds. I babysit two plus I have 2 of my own all under the age of 4. But, I need to follow a routine or I get flustered. But, you can not be on your meds while pregnant. I beleive my ADHD got worse with my pregnancies. I think there is a group of moms to be here. I bet they could tell you alot.

A guy here just ran over his kid. OMG. terrible news story.

I currently have a 3 month old baby and the safest place I have found to leave him is in the middle of my King Size bed, on top of the bed. He can't roll off or go crawling yet.

I have OFTEN WONDERED if SOME of the 'left the baby in the car' stories were ADDers.

Thanks for confirming my suspicions.

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My own biggest fear is of not being able to support my child. My ADD makes it impossible for me to graduate my 4 year nursing degree. (Can't pass the Statistics.) If something happens to my SO (doctor working p/t), we are _fugged_.

It is hard but it is possible. The best thing and hardest thing I ever did as a mom was set myself a schedule. Structure structure structure. I cannot say that enough....having a dry erase board with my daily schedule written out has made my life tremendously easier.
As far as forgetting to feed the baby...let me tell you! They won't let you forget!!!
Raising a child is hard no matter how "normal" you or they may be. We ADDers just have some extra trials to face when it comes to parenting!

Hi,
I had my son long before I knew about ADD; the hardest part isn't the baby and actually I felt more focused, calm and strong during most of the pregnancy (of course every pregnancy is different). the hard part is all the STUFF that comes with the baby and that you have to bring it with you always and for several years. (my poor son all bundled up to go outside, sitting in the stroller while I looked for the keys)! The good part is: loving to spend time with your kid; I mean toddlers are distracted by cool things (leaves, cats, trains, etc). It's so much fun! It's hard to raise a child but at the same time, it gives you a lot of strength.