I must address an issue that I feel is quite important, your opinion counts, so please be open.

I joined this forum and found answers, understanding, acceptence, and friendships. I felt I could be me, without wearing a mask, or playing a role, but as of late......

We are constantly critisizing one another...

The post is too long...ok...move on...
The puncuation is wrong...
There are no breaks in paragraph....
I don't like your writing style....
Your grammar lacks skill...
You are abstract....

C'mon, guys...what is going on!?

We post when we are ulnerable, we post when we are emotional, and upset. We post because we need to vent and express ourselves...this is why we are here.

So, why all the public humiliation? I know, I am being such a "MOM", right now, but remember, we all come from different backgrounds...different educations..differnet countries! Do we really need to be so harsh, publicly? Can this be done in a PM? A little note stating you would love to reply but have difficulty understanding, would be so kind!

I know, a lot of people have had their feelings hurt, and it makes me sad...Can we attempt to not publicly humiliate writing styles.

Remember, we have ADD, so we tend to over express, over indulge, and get caught up in our writing. That is why we are here!

I APOLOGIZE AHEAD IF THIS ANGERS YOU! I APOLOGIZE IF I HAVE OVERSTEPPED MY BOUNDARIES...BUT WHEN A FRIEND GETS THEIR FEELINGS HURT, FROM PEOPLE THEY THOUGHT WERE OPEN...THAT'S A LITTLE TOO MUCH!

Can we return to the kindness....the Thanks, and the points we all love to get...
I dedicate this to anyone who has shed a tear of embarrassment..or felt shunned after a cry for help.
We are good people...we want to hear from you...SO SHOUT FROM THE ROOFTOPS!

Thanks...for listening....

X

Errr, I don't like your pink lettering. Please change that ASAP.

;)

BOY! I am telling you right now....PINK IS MY SIGNATURE COLOR!
DEAL WITH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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PINK is <3

PINK is <3



Holla, back at YA!
PINK IS IT!
THANKS!

Well said X! I agree with you 100%! Thank you for this thread Thank you also for bringing a RAY of truth with compassion to us today. May this ray be everlasting! We are adders! addr68

BTW Keep the pink font! I like it! :)

I totally agree too! I'm not into pink, but it suits you! Thanks for getting that out there for everyone.

I haven't really noticed this going on. It seems people criticize themselves here more than anything ("sorry for the long post" or other unnecessary apologies).

I dunno... if it is going on a lot, that sucks. Maybe I just overlook that kind of uselessness. Or maybe I just missed the threads in question.

About the paragraph breaks though... I won't criticize anyone for it but I just can't read a big block of text. We did suggest someone add some paragraph breaks a while back but that was just because they seemed to really have something important to discuss but it was unreadable so we couldn't find out what it was exactly. Once we could read it, we had a good helpful thread.

But like I say, I'm not gonna bash anyone for anything. I just skip it. That's the great thing about reading a message board... you don't hafta read anything you don't feel like reading. People should just move on and play nice. :)

I know, in my sections, I will break up posts by adding paragraph breaks if there aren't any. Since the bottom of the post shows there's been an edit, I explain why. I do that so the OP knows what happened, and doesn't think there's been anything removed.

I'm not and adder, but an NT, and even I have a hard time following a log post that is just one paragraph. So many people here have wonderful things to say, and I don't want that to get lost because no one reads the post because it's too difficult.

The other major edit I recently made was to the faces to go with names thread in the Introduction section. All the chit chat posts there take a lot away from the pictures. it's hard to find someone (if you're wondering what they look like) when you have to read through 100 posts that are little more then, "Wow, you look so great!"

It's also hard on the server, and hard on those members who have a slower internet connection when member A posts a picture, and member B, C, and D quote the post, causing the original picture to be posted several times.

Anything else I do, as a mod, is just in keeping with the Forum Guidelines.


Now, maybe what I did wasn't the issue, but I felt it best to explain anyway. :)

I haven't seen a lot of criticizing going on, (except for what meriellyn mentioned), and I know that insulting, flaming, etc are not tolerated here. I'm sorry if you feel that it is, or it's going on without the Staff being aware. Maybe if you PM'ed an Admin, or a Mod we can be made aware of a problem that we might be missing.

Xray lady ! your a RAY of light, !!!!! love whitestripes x