My son has recently shown signs of extreme anger. About a month ago he was visiting with his dad for the weekend and when he came home, I was told he had "choked" his brother. Neither child wanted to say what happen, and they didn't even know what had transpired. I got that out when he came home.

Anyway, that brings me to now. Now he has expressed that he has gotten so angry with me that he has had thoughts of "I want to kill her", and even thought about how.

Has anyone else had a child go through this?? I feel so alone, scared and totally lost. He is a good kid, and the trouble he has been in has all been small stuff (just a lot of it, of course). Most of the time he is a very loving child... hates it when people make fun of someone (be it himself or a fellow student or teacher, etc.). One of his teachers had a miscarriage earlier this year. He immediately wanted to get her flowers. How can this same child have such bad thoughts go through his head? He said it scares him when he has had them.

perhaps professional help would be something i would seek asap. family psychologist, 911, etc. it may be quick for me to think 911, but better safe than sorry.

wish you well, maybe someone here can relate to that.

i 'll pray for you though.

Paul

and btw the way welcome to the group.
you can learn a lot and this group is very encouraging! :)

I forgot to say that he is going to counseling. He's been going for over a year... this summer will be two years. He's only JUST started talking... by that I mean, opening up about what is going on in his head. And by Just, I mean the last two sessions, only. It's been like pulling teeth to get him to talk.

Ohh and thank you.

Get ahold of your counslour .... let him know what is going on .. stuff like that is very important .. he will give you some options about it ... and if you wanted too you could put him in a special hospital that will watch his behavior and also he will get alot of counsling

Has anything changed in his life recently? Could there be something different at school or at home that has set him off? How's his relationship with his dad? These are all questions you might think about. I agree that this is something that needs to be taken seriously. I'm glad you have him in counseling, but it sounds like there's some serious resistance there too. ;) How does he get along with the counselor? Do you think it's a good match between them, or might he do better with a new one?

Good luck. I second the advice to talk to the counselor about it, and see whether he/she can give you any good ideas. Aside from that, all I have to suggest is asking more questions....

prayer and counseling. two of my favorite solutions. :)
PAul

We have discussed changing counselors, but he says he doesn't want to. He says he likes his counselor, and perhaps that is what has brought him around to opening up some (finally). There is definiately issues with his dad, but I'm not sure yet how deep they go. There's lots of factors surrounding this. His dad is remarried and has 3 more boys. He doesn't get my son every other weekend like he should, so there is that, too. And then there is the fact that there is definitely a problem with the step mom. She shows a lot of favoritizm and I've understood it that she will get on to my son very quickly about "nothing", but of course be completely different with her sons.

As for anything happening resently, the only thing I know of was the last weekend he was at his dad's (about a month ago, now). That's when he choked his brother. And since then there have been problems at school and at home. Different attitude and such. I can't help but think something then brought all this on, but we can't seem to get him to tell us.

Believe me... I pray alot about this. Being a single mother, I don't think I could get through this at all, if it wasn't for God.

Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. As you probably know, sometimes just being able to tell someone, helps a lot. Right now, I've not told his dad, nor any other family member, except my mother. I don't trust how his father will react to hearing this, or especially his step-mother.

thought with ya. :)

My thoughts are with you!! I am no expert,but I think the advice others have given you is very good.
Jim

I'm pretty sure one of hallmarks of effectve counseling is an emothional upheival as you described. I think that means it is working. It is like popping a zit; it gets all nasty and irritated before it can get better. If your son likes his counsellor, do not change. You can't replace that kind of trust and rapport between a child and a non-family adult.

I feel for you, keep your head up