I'm 45 year old and have had several good jobs along the way, but have never felt like I socially fit in at work. I know the business I'm in fits me because I really like it.

I'm friendly to all, do my job well, and am a hard worker. But I'm always at the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to clicking socially. I try, I really do, but people give me looks that tell me I'm "out there" somewhere. I don't want to be out there.

When I was in high school, a boyfriend told me, "You're the kind of person everyone likes but doesn't pay any attention to". I guess that sums it up.

Thanks for reading, I'm just feeling sorry for myself today.

I am 45 years old and I quit caring long ago about "clicks" up until now I always thought it was my age Apparently I am wrong maybe it has more to do with my indifferent out look on life in general

Trying to hard to fit in makes one appear desperate and normally all that attracts is users and losers. Personally I would rather be alone than attract those sorts. My life is challenging enough.

I do not have tons of friends but every once in a while I find an good person willing to invest the time and energy to get to know the real me - When I do make a freind they are worth thier weight in gold. I prefer the rare gem to the dust of the earth so I don't mind having several acquaintances and only one or two close friends. I get along with most well enough to communicate and function at work which is close enough for me.

As far as society at large - most people are not worth the effort. All to often people turn out to be fair weather friends any way.

I let strangeness do for me what my attention span can't, weed out the wheat from the weeds so to speak.


Many here would give an appendage to have a good job and a field they felt like they belonged in - sounds like you must be doing a few things right.

"You're the kind of person everyone likes but doesn't pay any attention to". I guess that sums it up.

Thanks for reading, I'm just feeling sorry for myself today.

Anyone else notice that? In conversations - even when you are polite and wait your turn etc, it seems that people are quite rude back and dont bother to listen to or acknowledge you?

I think the worst part of ADHD is the hate....

self hate, and hate that comes from everyone else..... seems like every other disorder might get some sympathy

but in adhd there is none and if you are feeling sorry for yourself chances are instead of sympathy you will get a lecture on why its all your fault and you deserve it and what is wrong with you, and end up feeling an even bigger f-ck up after that than you did before...

I've never really fit in at work either, but so long as they aren't trying to backstab me, I'm happy...

Best wishes.

I'm 45 year old and have had several good jobs along the way, but have never felt like I socially fit in at work. I know the business I'm in fits me because I really like it.

I'm friendly to all, do my job well, and am a hard worker. But I'm always at the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to clicking socially. I try, I really do, but people give me looks that tell me I'm "out there" somewhere. I don't want to be out there.

When I was in high school, a boyfriend told me, "You're the kind of person everyone likes but doesn't pay any attention to". I guess that sums it up.

Thanks for reading, I'm just feeling sorry for myself today.
I'm sorry. What's that?
I wasn't paying attention.