I'm ####ing mad..:mad:

So I call the house to talk to the "husband" to see if he could help me bring in my luggage because I was almost home (15 Mins). No answer.. No biggie.. I walk through the breezeway and into the living room and guess what? The place is TRASHED!!! Not just a-little bit. The x-mas tree (I) put up all by myself is tipped over. All the ornaments, BROKE.. Including the 3 ornaments my great grandparents gave me and the star that my grandma gave me.. Shower running.. Sofa beds pulled out, mattress on the floor.. I'm like WTF? So, Im yelling for him trying to find out where the F he we.. He was in our bedroom closet PASSED OUT with an empty bottle of Rumplemintz in his hand.. Needless to say, Im out the door again..

Just an update for thise who dont already know, He got sent to jail about 6-7 months ago for aggravated assault, evading a police officer, Drunk driving (that got dropped). He got out x-mas eve but I was not going to stick around with him and his family at our house Prasing him for getting out of jail when he was a dumb ###k for going to jail in the first place. I will not condone that behavior so I left to go to Compton , Ca and see my Hood Girls. Hoppd on the plane about 3 hours before his release..

Xx

Oh Michelle, I'm sorry your place was trashed, and about your ornaments. I have some old ornaments from my Grannie, I'd be heartbroken to find them broken. Take care of yourself hun! Keep us posted.

Drinking can do some bad stuff to people and their loved ones - I am sorry you had such an unpleasant surprise when you got home. . . . I would have been mad too

hugs Michelle...

Thanks to much Red, Mead, Boots... It means a-lot

After crying myself to sleep last night (haven't done that in a long time) I realized the reason I stayed in this relationship for 10 years was more self obligation than mutual dedication. IM just glad I have lots of good friends in Wisconsin and here (addforums.com) Time for a new life..:(:):(:)

I'm going 2 go hiking in the woods now.. Haven't done that IN a long time either, I know that makes me happy.. I love getting lost and trying to find my way back home..

Michelle,

In my life, I've rarely understood at the time, why things have "happened for a reason."

Later on, I've occasionably been able to see how the pain and the change that followed were in my best interest.

So, I hope things work out well for you.

You bring a lot of positive energy to the Forum and I wish you well.

tc

mctavish23

(Robert)

Sorry to hear that.

Hope things turn around for you quickly. :)

Please be supportive. If you have a personal issue with another member, please address it off the forums.

Please be supportive. If you have a personal issue with another member, please address it off the forums.

Who are you talking to? Did I miss something?:confused:

Who are you talking to? Did I miss something?:confused:


A member of the forum made some disparaging remarks towards you: the moderators removed the posts.

Do you know his/her name? I could take a guess...

Winner Chicken Dinner (http://www.addforums.com/forums/member.php?u=22877)!!!:mad:

Do you know his/her name? I could take a guess...

Winner Chicken Dinner (http://www.addforums.com/forums/member.php?u=22877)!!!:mad:





You guessed correctly.

Michelle,

I'm so sorry you had your special things from your grandparents broken. Keep your chin up. (((hugs)))

Wow, I'm sorry you've had such a crappy time!!! (hugs to you))

I hope you feel better soon, please PM me if you'd like to chat!

xx

Well, I'm new here, but it's always sad to hear of a relationship mixed with abuse of any kind.

I do hope you can make a change for the better.
My family has a history of the women getting into some pretty bad relationships and not getting out soon enough.

One experience with a person who couldn't control his drinking and violence resulted in a sister of mine being murdered by her son-in-law.
From your short description, I would say anyone who's been violent to a partner whether or not the violator ever went to jail for it, and who abuses substances, is someone not to be trusted.
They need help, but they have to make the effort to get it and make it work.

For your part, I would say you should take a critical look at why you picked that particular person to be with, why you stayed, and how you can assure yourself you will not make this a pattern.

I only say this because from my family experiences, and from seeing others as I worked in the medical field throughout my adult life, too many people don't seem to recognize the same destructive patterns they live their lives by, and/or they can't seem to find the resolve necessary to end the pattern and make better choices for themselves.

It does sound as though you are ready to move on... and I wish you well!

All the best things in my life have started with a dire circumstance that forced me to re-evaluate what I was doing with myself. After that brutally honest moment of introspection, everything came into focus, and only then did I truly change.

I hope that during the course of things you find yourself in a position where you get the respect you deserve. Your obligation to yourself is to care for your self! I'm happy for your growing, changing, and moving on. The only thing that I know for sure in this life is that you will get where you need to be, it's just a matter of how long it takes. From your posts, you seem like such a kind and warm person -- and strong, too. I wish that for every part crying you get nine parts smiling, and I hope that your trails are clear and the weather stays warm! Take care of yourself!

For your part, I would say you should take a critical look at why you picked that particular person to be with, why you stayed, and how you can assure yourself you will not make this a pattern.

I only say this because from my family experiences, and from seeing others as I worked in the medical field throughout my adult life, too many people don't seem to recognize the same destructive patterns they live their lives by, and/or they can't seem to find the resolve necessary to end the pattern and make better choices for themselves.

Very well said, especially the last paragraph. Wish more people did this.

Sorry Warden!! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1RxJYCffY6w)

I’m sorry I’m bad, I’m sorry you’re blue
I’m sorry about all the things I said to you
And I know I can’t take it back
I love how you kiss, I love all your sounds
And baby the way you make my world go ’round
And I just wanted to say I’m sorry

PLEASE ANSWER MY PHONE CALLS!!