Well I had a social event on Thursday night and used to time to ask the various single ladies in my group about what ladies like nowadays when it come to meeting new people. One of them said she is hooked when guys act like they don't care.--buy her a drink and act like it is no big deal--I guess that shows confidence.

Well I tried it tonight. I went to a bar tonight that had karaoke night. I sat at the bar for about 45 minutes just checking everything out and taking in the sights. I saw this very hot young lady (described as exactly what I would be interested in--she hit all my buttons--blonde, blue eyes, athletic, etc. ) and I decided to buy her a drink. I had the bartender take it to her and then just tipped my beer to her and let it be. Wouldn't you know it, within 30 seconds she came over to me to thank me for the drink and then we struck up a conversation and talked for a while. She had to get back to her friends as it was a birthday party. Before I left I went up to her, told her bye and such. Of course throughout the course of the conversation(s) that I held with her and because of my shock that she was talking to me coupled with the wonderful ADD, I forgot her name. What an ***, lol. Of course I also forgot to give her my number (I was just gonna put the ball in her court and tell her that I would like to hear from her agian, but if I didn't that was OK).

Oh well, maybe I will be just fine.

Nothing like a confidence boost.

Well, think of this experience as practice! And next time, you'll do supperb! heh

Even though Im happily married Im jelous as that is the most fun of it all and that is meeting many new ladies

Oh to young again and not Old Fat and Ugly

Good for you! :)

I met my wife over the BC radio while cruising.
We stopped at a drive in to meet and chat.
We hit it off right away, but she had go get home. (we were teenagers)
I gave her a hug at her truck, said goodbye, and start walking away.

Her friend yelled out to me, "Don't you want to get her number?!?"

Yikes!, that would have been my biggest ADD moment of my life, so I fully understand the phone number thing. lol.

Just a small point - get her number, don't just give her yours 'cus most women will never call! They have no practice at it, since in this society, it's the males who do that stuff, so it's super awkward. Ask 10 women you know if they've ever called a man they just met to ask for a date, and I'd be surprised if even one said they had.
And this could just be my experience but if you ask a woman for her number and she asks for yours instead, she's really saying "no" - she just doesn't want to do so directly (just like a man when he says "I'll call you").
Greg

I HATE THAT.....this may be the ADD talking, but I woul much rather have the direct "NO, you're not my type"...my ego is not that fragile...my self respect is more damaged when someone says stuff like "ooh, yeah, thanks, I'll call you" (yeah right..oh, and women do it too!) and then dont...I hate being lied to to protect my feelings...people have done it all my life! anyway, congrats on the buying a girl a drink....I cant do that anymore...cant afford it right now!

WEll you know my hubby is 13 years older then me so I had to intoxicate him and take advantage of his drunken state. He woke up with my phone number on his forehead in permanant marker.

I hope you wrote it backwards so he could see it in the mirror. lol

Had a great night tonight. Went to the same place I did last Friday and just happened to see the little Hottie I met last week. I almost left without getting her number again. Couldn't let that happen again. I waited till I saw her again and got her number AND name. I was about to leave when she invited me back to the table with her and her friends. We spent the next 2 hours talking and getting to know one another.

I will probably give her a call sometime next week. Think I saw somewhere that calling withing 24-48 hrs shows desperation. Don't want to do that. I have finals anyway.

Ok, just had to "gloat". I feel so vindicated. LOL.

88sp,
Glad to here your moving forward. It was just a matter of time. I would go with your gut. Of course as you know I am far from an expert on relationships. I would not try to guess when the right time is. But then again I would not have though the buying a drink thing would work either. So I do not how sound my advice in todays dating scene is. Any way glad to see your confidense coming back!