I am new to this forum, but am glad that I have found a way to direct my feelings and thoughts about ADD. I have yet to be diagnosed with ADD. The research that I have done on my own has given me hope that i am not going crazy. The feeling of not feeling like I am not in reality and that the fog keeps me depressed. I keep asking myself ,why can i not connect like other people? Always feeling like a sub-standard human. All dressed up and no where to go. The feeling of being mentally stuck. It affect my relationship with my wife ,because i never know when the ADD will jump in and have an outburst. One last thing is that I am glad that I found somewhere where I fit

Hi there, and welcome :D

fogleghorn welcome to the forums.
Cheers! Ian.

Welcome, Fogleghorn :)

Yes, I think you'll find kindred spirits here at the forums. Have questions? Ask away. You might also want to look around that the forums, as lots of folks have posted similar stories as yours.

Welcome home!

Welcome to the ADD forums!!
Jim

Fogleghorn,

My first post....so here goes...Having ADD shouldn't necessarily be looked at as a handicap of some sort. The brain is just wired a little differently than the rest. Folks with this condition are among some of the most intelligent people in history. Creativity, and the ability to master very complicated concepts for instance come very easliy to ADD people. Everything from classical music composition to computer wizardry might come so naturally to us, where the "others" may struggle and wonder how the heck we do it with such ease.

Yes, the grandpa moments will kick in, but that's where you've got to learn how to get a grip. Example.... I like to keep my keys in the same place everytime when I walk in the front door. If I see something out, I put it back where it goes, not later but now! That way when you are literally walking in the fog, there's the a lesser chance of being lost. If each day has a plan, you'll feel better if you did what you set out to do, even if it's just a simple couple of chores on that old 'to do list'.

Changes come from within yourself, and they start when we actually begin to like ourselves. Look for you strong points, and don't forget them.;)

When I was first diagnosed with ADHD the psychiatrist asked me whether I felt that my life has been a struggle. That surprised me because I thought everyone felt life was a struggle. Such as illustrated in the Greek myth of Sysiphus (condemned by the Gods to roll a boulder up and down Mt.Olympus for eternity). But he said it wasn't as difficult for "normal" people. It hasn't qiute worked out as I hoped but that was my expectation.

If you have not read it yet find "Driven to Distraction" By Edward M. Hallowell,M.D. and John J. Ratey,M.D.. I have read many books and articles on ADHD and this should be included on everyones reading list.

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Hey, welcome to the forums :) If you have questions just ask, and I am sure you will feel at home here, I just got here today and already I feel at home.