Hi I am new to this forum. I'll get right down to it. I always suspected my boyfriend who became my husband and is now my ex-husband (divorced in Oct of 2003) has ADD. His sister even mentioned it once but tried to do so in a joking manner. When I tried to bring it up before we divorced, he thought I was crazy. He admits to being extremely forgetful, he has so many of the characteristics and I was the one who had to organize everything because he couldn't be relied on due to his forgetfullness and lack of organization. Our 4 year old son was diagnosed at 2 1/2 years old w/autism and now I suspect he has adhd on top of it. His therapist agrees and I am having him tested shortly. I am recently considering meds for my son but I have been so opposed to it that it breaks my heart. In anycase, my son spends some wknds w/his dad and I am usually afraid something might happen to my son. How could I gently ask him to get tested for ADD? Any advice?

Wow that is a tough one especially since he is your ex. Depending on your relationship you asking him could also make him less likely to get an evaluation.

Is there somebody else you could have speak to him about it?

Maybe you could send him a book about adult AD/HD or links to some websites.