someone told you NOT to take your medicine because it will be funny to see you hyper?

I told someone this a while back, and he got offended. I don't understand why though. People have been asking me this for years, and I never gotten offended.

Um, I don't know really...because NOT taking my medicine doesn't make me hyper...just bonkers in da head. I mean...I'm not the hyperactive type.

But, I guess I could see where someone would feel like they were being made fun of for having ADHD and all....who knows...

My boyfriend told me that he missed my "hyper" side, I don't always take my medication, sometimes I skip my days off or the weekends. I have to admit I do like being hyper, its fun.

But its not fun messing everything up all the time cause I am too distracted!

So I guess my answer is that I would not be offended cause being hyper is kinda part of my personality, and one of the reasons I have a lot of fun.

Yes I would be VERY Offended if someone told me that....I don't have ADHD For people's Amusement.....and I Know I can be just as funny without Meds! TYVM

Personally, I don't think anyone's illness should be taken lightly or made fun of.

I think how it was said could offend someone. It could be taken as someone wanting to laugh at another person for the way they are. I am not the hyper type so I do not think there would be much to see if I was off my meds other than me forgetting everything.
Jim

HA! Tell him you didn't take it then FORGOT to call his rude *****!

Originally posted by melanie_cartner
Yes I would be VERY Offended if someone told me that....I don't have ADHD For people's Amusement.....and I Know I can be just as funny without Meds! TYVM

i agree *totally*!
the nerve of some people...
:nono: :mad:

No - it isn't funny.

Try this on for size. Imagine having the responsibility of counting the number of railroad cars containing hazardous materials and identifying the materials they contain (can be done if you're sharp enough) as the cars pass over a major highway in town. The only problem is that the train is moving at 60 MPH and will not slow as it passes across the road. There is no room for mistakes and you do not get another chance to double check your work.

Now, as you are trying to do this, imagine your peers laughing at you because they think its funny.

This example falls miserably short of coming close to explaining what having ADD is like. The mere idea of asking someone not to take their meds because YOU think it would be funny is true cruelty. Do you like kicking puppies too?

David

I think it's very situational (is that a real word?). AD/HD affects people differently it's not a one size fits all conditon. I think somebody who is really suffering would probably be quite offended.

We must also remember that most people do not understand AD/HD. Even many who have it themselves don't understand it.

I think my response would depend on the situation too. If someone said they missed the wackiness from my nonmedicated days, that would be different from saying that they thought it would be fun to laugh at me as I frantically tried to find my car keys. I would assume they meant the latter, since I'm not that hyper unmedicated, just forgetful, spacy, and anxious. (And I'm still pretty silly, even on meds.)

Anyway, psychiatric meds are a touchy subject for many. Not something I would want to joke about unless I was very sure the other person would be amused!

I wouldn't be offended as long as they held their breath for 30 minutes so I could get a good laugh too.

No. honestly if it were me I would just laugh it off; because, my friends and I usually tease each other anyways. If it were said in a cruel manner I would be highly offended and please refer to the first paragraph for my response. lol

reading this got me very angry would these people think downs people are comical because of their features(i have a downs niece and if ever anybody looks at her strange while i am around it will be there last time) my son has adhd and when he doesnt take his medication he is a nightmare to family and people who love him he is not there for warped minds who like to see him hyper they obvious;ly have a mental problem if that is amusing to them.

Taking things other people say, too personally, is often not a good idea. I would feel best about such a situation if I knew how to handle it, how to respond honestly, how to respond with respect, how to keep my composure and assertiveness and social skills together in such a situation. If I do that, no matter what the other person has said, I have let myself off the hook of having negative feelings from the interraction, possibly pointed out to the other person how I feel about such requests or how I feel about not being on my medication, and made a better friend because I did not crush them in the interraction, but protected my own self esteem.

this brings up a similar dilemma which might shed some light. It is considered proper not to stare at someone who has a physical disability. However, it takes an effort on my part to not look at someone who has a missing limb, and when I follow the unwritten code we were taught as children, I force myself not to look and think to myself how terrible it must be to have everyone look away. I had a temporary facial disability and for a few months I had the experience of visusally looking disabled, people tried not to look at me, and that was very painful for me. I would have rather had people looking at me and acknowledging what they saw rather than look away. Thus, it is human nature to want to look at an anomoly, anything that is different, we are curious creatures by nature. Out curiosity can certainly travel into our rude nature if we don't apply some harness to it. However, the harness we apply is often as cruel as our own nature, for to be not looked at is even crueler than to be looked at and acknowledged.

If someone is curious and brave enough to ask for a demonstration of one's ADHD symptoms, this is not automatically a shameful request. It is an honest person, acknowledging our condition or our being, as real as we are, and not another soul who wants us to hide and shield them from ourselves. It may be a compliment, or it may simply be an honest soul. Yes, it may be someone who is cruel and just wants to make fun of us, but making this request does not indicate that a person is in the cruel catagory or that the request was made with cruel intentions.

If we respond improperly to such a request, made by an innocent soul, who has more curiousity, less inhibition and less tendency to follow societal norms, we might be crushing a sensitive soul. We all make social "fopas" and none of us want to be crushed and dismantled for it. Treat others in the same way, and give them a break for being human. If it becomes obvious that someone is trying to be cruel, it has nothing to do with the request, it has more to do with who they are as a person. In that situation, maintain dignity, stand your ground, do so gently at first and firmly as needed, and make it clear it has nothing to do with the request, and everything to do with the person requesting, that you might consider the request for someone whose heart was pure. But for most situations, crushing someone in this way would totally inappropriate and would be unkind and cruel.

Jon

I think this kind of equates to someone asking an epileptic not to take anti-seizure meds because they fancied seeing someone having a fit because they didn't know what that looked like :mad:

I can understand it if people comment that they thought you were "fun" when you were not medicated (more active, funny etc.) but asking someone to skip their meds because they fancy finding out what "hyper" behaviour looks like is a bit tasteless.

Hmm ...

How I would feel (and react) would also depend on whether I was actually on my meds at that moment......

Ken