View Full Version : Advice needed

02-08-10, 02:56 PM
My daughter is 5 years old. She has started Kindergarten but I am afraid she is not going to pass. She is a very indipendant child and can do a lot of things on her own but when it comes to school she just can't concentrate. When we ask her questions on the alphabet her eyes roll to the top of her head and then she does a random guess that she know is wrong. Or sometimes she will figit and say I don't know. I try to sit her down and show her and if she lists her alphabet from memory she does fine but when I show individual letters she doesnt. I see her struggle and I don't know what to do.

The reason I am coming here is because all her symptoms seem to me to be ADD however the first time I brought it up to her doctor they said she had to have a year in school before they would look into it. If I don't act fast I am afraid that she will not pass and its my fault. Should I get her a new doctor. Do you think there is anything that can be given to a 5 year old that can help with the concentration like they have for adults.

I struggled through school too at her age. Was unconfident in myself and was sure I would fail Kindergarten. I have all add symptoms as well so would not doubt she has it. What should I do how to I get these simple things to stick with her and her to participate in school?

Lady Lark
02-08-10, 07:18 PM
The one thing I will suggest is don't jump top conclusions. It seemed so perfectly clear that my son was ADHD, and turns out he is, but he also has Asperger's. I often wonder if we would have discovered that sooner if I hadn't been convinced it was just ADHD.

02-08-10, 07:21 PM
Take a deep breath :) Repeating kindergarten is not a big deal and might be the best thing for her (I say this generally, for all kids). I don't even remember kindergarten and find it surprising that you say you felt unconfident and sure you would fail. It seems to me you are putting far too much significance on "failing", which really isn't what's happening at 5 years old. And it certainly isn't your fault!

Since your pediatrician was unhelpful, ask them for a referral to a specialist - either a psychiatrist or neurologist. Insist on it.

What is the school doing to help your daughter? Ask them for testing - cognitive, visual perceptual, early reading & math, etc.

02-08-10, 08:52 PM
Have you had your daughter's eyes checked?

My younger son's kindergarden teacher thought he was ADHD. He wasn't paying attention and had difficulty identifying his letters and numbers. He would also roll his eyes upwards as if he was trying to hear the sounds. We found out later in 1st grade that he has amblyopia which makes his eyesight in one eye change constantly.

The schools didn't check eyesight until 1st or 2nd grade so none of us knew he was having trouble seeing letters (including him). A pediatric optometrist has a way of check sight before they recognize letters.

02-08-10, 10:17 PM

If I were in your position, I would probably explore natural adhd treatments and diets that won't put outside chemicals in your daughter's body. She's 5, so it could be a lot of things. Besides diet, doctors I've spoken to have all said that exercise in any instance increases focus, so make sure she gets lots of exercise. Other than that, musclemama pretty much said what i was thinking.