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Tara
06-10-04, 11:42 PM
I'm curious as to what people's understanding of ADD Coaching is.

paulbf
06-11-04, 12:18 PM
For me the guilt trip doesn't work. It is very reassuring to get help making descisions, prioritizing and sorting out that overwhelming jumble of possibilities and procrastinated tasks that we all know so well. The other component is back patting which is OK but seems a little phony to me though sometimes I don't even realize when I've done well so the recognition is useful then. I got into it for a while then even though I was organized and had a sensible list, I wasn't able to motivate... so it's not a magic bullet but part of the solution. If the reminding/guilt works for you (I think it does for some) then it doesn't need to be anyone with real special skills, just anybody to call & touch base with. I think it's COvey who describes training ADD coaches from just about any retired person or whoever real easy & inexpensive. I personally want someone who is closer to a therapist and is able to listen to me babble out all my myriad thoughts and help put them in order... that's more like a professional organizer. The ADD specialist qualities are someone who really understands what the ADD difficulties are, as some people have reported their coaches giving up on them thinking they just weren't trying... not being patient enough.

Tara
06-11-04, 12:32 PM
I have feeling that the coaches who give on up ADD clients were not trained specfically in ADD Coaching. There are a lot coaches who are highly trained in life coaching but not in ADD Coaching itself. For the most part people with ADD do not respond well the basic life coaching. The pressure and structure used by a regular life coach can be very harmful for a person with ADD.

I think ADD Coaching is more of a process than regular life coaching. I think then idea if general life coaching is for people to reach a goal. ADD Coaching is more of a process where people learn about their own ADD and focus on their strengths and talent. Then through this process it becomes easier for clients to reach goals.

paulbf
06-11-04, 12:36 PM
Yes that sounds correct. The thing I like is just being able to spill out all the things I've got going in my head (too many). My wife let me do that sometimes but says it's very tiring and I can believe it is. Lots of times I'll talk to a salesman or someone and absolutely burn them out with all my questions and too many possibilities that they just get exhausted and want to get away from me. It's nice to have someone with a clear enough head that they can help me work through that & come out of it with some sense of having made a descision. But yes, they also need to understand that it can't be too simple of an answer and not try to push me into a normal sort of linear solution.

Tara
06-11-04, 12:44 PM
I think a lot of people confuse ADD Coaches with consultants too. An ADD coach doesn't (or shouldn't) just give their clients answers. The coach and the client word together and come up with solutions.

It can be tough since many of us ADDers want the instant gratification and want answer. Yet, if we go to somebody for answers that person is put in a higher positions and people look at them as authorities figures. An ADD Coaching relationship should be a partnership where the client feels empowered.

paulbf
06-11-04, 12:53 PM
That's why my wife hates doing this for me because I don't listen to her advice. I like hearing opinions but then I need to come up with my own solution. It's really hard to do alone though and very helpful to have someone to bounce the ideas off of. Since I'm paying them, I don't need to agree with their advice and can feel to be as difficult as I like.

Jetta
06-25-04, 05:15 PM
I've never had a professional coach, but my idea of a coach would be someone who asks me what I want to accomplish and then helps me, possibly through baby steps, to reach the goals which I have chosen for myself. I would imagine they would help me reach those goals by making suggestions of how to get there, and then they and I would hopefully reach an agreement of the steps I will take to reach each goal. I would then have to do my best to fullfill those steps (after all, I agreed to them), and then I would meet again with my coach (I assume these meetings would occur at regular intervals). If I was able to meet my agreed upon challenges during the period between meetings, great, time to talk about any other goals I may want to reach. If I wasn't able to take the agreed upon steps to reach a goal for some reason, then we would discuss what got in the way and if there are 1.) any ways to get around the challenge that prevented me from meeting my goal and 2.) if there are alternative routes in which to meet the goal that we have not explored yet.


Does this idea sound about right? Like I said I come from a place of no experiance whatsoever.