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Tara
04-14-03, 07:23 PM
I thought we could designate this thread for WOMEN with AD/HD to share some organizing tips and suggestions. There is also a similar thread in the MEN with AD/HD section. It may be interesting to see how similar and/or differently male and female ADDers organize.

Lafnalot
04-14-03, 08:55 PM
If you havent used it in two months, throw it out. If it's too big, too small or too ugly, give it away. If it can be scanned, put it on disk and chuck it.The less you have, the less disorganization you have.Schedule time each night to reveiw your next day and gather together what you are going to need, from lunch to tolls. I use the same bag every day for what i take to work, meetings etc. and it lives by the front door, somedays it hangs on the door handle. Paper plates, cup and bowls are the working womans friends. Plan weekly meals, or at least five of them before you go shopping. Crock pots and timers are lovely as well as alarm clocks and schedules. I like to do my ironing and laundry put away on Sunday so I can have everything ready to go for the week.

I had about seventy five bath gels and soaps along with about forty ******* bottls of shampoo. I asked everyone which shampoo and conditioner they liked the most and why. That left us with three different shampoos and conditioners along with the lil ones stuff (tearless soap and shampoo) Each person got a basket. In it I put their shampoo, conditoner, deoderant, powder, lotions etc in their basket. They all have two towels in their color (liz is pink, sammie light blue etc) and hooks in their room for them to hang up. I informed them that any time they left their bath timer, towels, or anything else in the bathroom it was in the trash.
When I leave the car I take at least one or two things in or trash to throw out.

Having AD/HD is the REASON we are disorganized, but it is not our Excuse to complain then continue the same way. If you enjoy how you live _yeaaaaaa go for it. If you want something different, yeaaaa go for it. But self honesty will tell us if we want it or if we want to complain about it.

misclee
04-14-03, 10:46 PM
Wow, very good suggestions. I will definitely try them out! Thanks:)

misclee
04-14-03, 10:46 PM
The only thing is...how to you actually get yourself to tackle those things?

Lafnalot
04-14-03, 10:50 PM
You dont tackle em, or at least I dont. I walk by it and say oh wow thats ugly, Im putting it in the give away box. then I go on about my life. I dont do anything full blast any more :) it does t work

misclee
04-14-03, 11:01 PM
Okay, but when I've done that I end up with a HUGE pile of stuff that needs to be dealt with. I really appreciate your help!

Lafnalot
04-15-03, 12:04 AM
No problem I have give away, throw away and give back boxes. The give away is obvious, the throw away a box for junk that isnt garbage like food etc and the give back is for things people left at my house ( grrrr) And I say like oh hey next week I am going to town i will drop the stuff at the goodwill box . I put it in the trunk and write a reminder on my pda with an alarm.

jaimegerise
07-20-03, 02:49 AM
One thing I am starting to learn and learn fast in regards to clutter and having happy surroundings (at home at least) is to keep only what you reallllllllly love. Once you look at it that way, you realize that there is too much junk around!

boy...this philosophy made my makeup bag shrink!

Jaime

Barbette
07-20-03, 06:41 PM
"But self honesty will tell us if we want it or if we want to complain about it."

This quote packs such a wallop ! Crissy is a true philospher !

cobweb
07-20-03, 08:58 PM
To help myself organize I use every tool available to me on the comp.

I use yahoo and works calendars to keep up with appts and special days.

My drug store has a prescription reminder service, they will send me an e-mail.

I use MS Money program to help me keep up with my bills and checking account and on line banking to download my transactions to the money program. I do the same with my credit card acct so I always know how much I owe on it.

It takes time to set up but has been worth it for me. The bank charges a fee for the online banking but it's a lot less than a bounced check :)

Garry
07-20-03, 09:15 PM
I had a yard sale on the weekend. If someone looked at something and seemed a little bit interested, I waited to see if they wanted to buy it, when I was sure they weren't going to buy it I walked over and talked to them for a bit then I gave it to them.

If I didn't sell it or give it away it meant I had to restore it again.

When the sale was over I had $2085.00 in my pocket and only 4 small boxes of stuff to give to the Salvation Army.

Grin I also sold my motorcycle for $1800.00 so I made 285 $ at the sale.

My wife and I estimate that it would cost about $3000.00 to replace everything that we got rid of.

But you should see my new computer room !!!!!

Its empty, Nada, nothing in it, zilch, clean and ready to remodel.

On girl came in looking at some computer stuff I had.
I asked her "What she was looking for".
She said "A video card".
I said "You seem to know your computer parts."
She said "I fix old Computers"
I said "Back your car up and open your trunk, Have I got a deal for you".

She left 10 minuets later with her trunk and back seat full of various computer parts and paraphernalia snd she thought she was in Heaven.

As she turned the corner as she drove away I smiled from ear to ear. I got rid of all that junk and I diddn't even have to pay to throw it in the dump.

It was a Good Day

PS: I also have a Kenmore built in oven and a Kenmore Built in Counter top range left over if anybody wants them Come and get them!!!

Flyfisher
07-22-03, 05:51 PM
I empty or load the dishwasher while I am on the phone with my husband or friends. It goes by quickly and easily. Otherwise, it is like pure boring torture!

Lafnalot, along the lines of your thinking, I read that if you use the phrase, "I MIGHT use this SOMEDAY", it's time to ditch it.

Gary, congrats on your successful sale and clean up!

Cait
07-24-03, 12:14 AM
lol - flyfisher - I just got rid of 5 boxes of old math worksheets, about 30 wire clothes hangers that were jumbled together in a closet, left from the previous teacher in the classroom - 3 years ago!) - all from my classroom.

Another teacher/friend of mine was helping me clean up after school on Monday and (brave soul, she) volunteered to empty out one of my boxes of "junk to sort through LATER". She sorted through, recycled lots of junk catalogs, flyers, things I don't ever need.....

Got rid of a metal shelf that was barely standing up by itself.
Took down to the custodian's office - an overhead projector that didn't work (I had an additional working one already in my room), and 2 stereos that didn't work.

Tossed lots of old school workbooks (used), notebooks, old homework from 2 & 3 years ago. I don't know WHY I've saved it. What could I ever possibly want or need it for???? I'm much better off having gotten rid of it. :)

so, as I've been cleaning my classroom, I've tried to think to myself....If I haven't used it in the 3 years since I moved in....toss it! ;)

I even collected the classroom library books that were inappropriate for the age level in the class. I plan to take them to my local used book store this summer & trade them in for store credit. Then I can use the credit to buy used children's books that are more appropriate for my students. :)

So, with all that stuff I got rid off, I have lots more space now! It's great! :)

I'm really on a "cleansing/shedding" roll - I can't wait to go back & see what else I can get rid off. :)

Keppig
08-18-03, 12:37 AM
I'm very proud of myself, I threw away an entire 30 gallon trash bag full of "Maybe-I'll-use-it"s :D

smooch
08-18-03, 11:44 AM
Kassie! You totally INSPIRE me!!! That's probably at least half of the chaos in my office. If you can do it, I can do it!

You GO, girl! :)

fasttalkingmom
08-19-03, 02:40 PM
Originally posted by Keppig
I'm very proud of myself, I threw away an entire 30 gallon trash bag full of "Maybe-I'll-use-it"s :D


Very,very good !!!!

......pat pat pat...... :D

Flyfisher
08-19-03, 07:14 PM
Congrats Kassie!!!!

Here's another pitfall that used to get me everytime! Run out of socks and undies, we must not have enough!!! Go buy more, wear more, wash more, add to huge pile of clean laundry, drawer still empty , lol, go buy more. Wear, wash, repeat.

Sometimes less is more for me. The less I have to maintain, the better I do. I FORCE myself to keep up on the laundry and never by more unless we are on the last few holey pairs, lol!

:D

joanrdtobe
08-19-03, 07:27 PM
Originally posted by Flyfisher
Congrats Kassie!!!!

Here's another pitfall that used to get me everytime! Run out of socks and undies, we must not have enough!!! Go buy more, wear more, wash more, add to huge pile of clean laundry, drawer still empty , lol, go buy more. Wear, wash, repeat.


:D

Oh my GOD, the secret is out....:)

waywardclam
08-20-03, 02:46 AM
LOL been there done that :D :D :D

Margreet
09-01-03, 06:53 PM
I'm good at doing my clothes for the work week, but I'm lucky to be in a nontraditional job where I can get away with jeans and a polo shirt in the summer, jeans and a mocktee in the winter (I can't stand the feel of real turtlenecks and yes, all my tags are cut out of my shirts ;o). All my shirts are the same except for color, and all my socks are the same so they always match. I work mainly with guys and they really don't much care, God love 'em.

We have no kids, but I'd probably work out something similar for them if I had any, until they were old enough to gripe about my boring lack of fashion.

On weekends I do two loads of laundry: underwear and shirts in one, jeans and dark socks in the other. DH can do his own laundry, unless I'm feeling generous. I leave the shirts hanging on the line in the basement by our shower, so when I've finished taking a shower in the morning, I grab what I need off the line.

Towels are near the shower too. That's one of the helpful things I learned in one of Julie Morganstern's books: store the item close to where you actually use it! So dishes are mostly right above the dishwasher, and silverware is in the drawer right next to it. We load it as we go, so they don't usually pile up (much) in the sink. Unloading takes less than five minutes, max. And I let DH take care of that stuff. He likes to make machines do things, and the dishwasher luckily falls under that heading.

I really need help with menu-planning and cooking, dang it! Even if I plan a menu for the week, my energy level is pretty low, so I can't count on being able to follow through on my plans!

FWIW,
Margreet.

Christine7777
12-02-03, 01:12 PM
I'm new to this forum, but am smiling as I reflect on how much we do to try to make our homes look like "normal". I've raised four kids and the garage sale every year is what saved me. It truly makes you weed through the "stuff".

FlakeyGirl
12-02-03, 08:14 PM
I'm new here also, so if youv'e talked this one to death, forgive me please. If you have trouble cleaning, organizing, decluttering, etc. do yourself a huge favor and check out http://www.FlyLady.net

mandjr
12-03-03, 04:24 PM
Saturday I took my first Ritalin. I cleared out my first floor bathroom. I threw out about forty people/cosmo/instyle magazines (I kept 2), I threw out hundreds of bottles of stuff. I don't know even what it all was, just stuff. stuff that made various bubbles and other stuff that had various pretty smells. I'm a sucker for beauty products. The room appears almost empty now, and I love it. I have the rest of this place to do, one room at a time....I'm excited! And I LOVE how I feel on my meds. I've never had such a quiet brain in my life....

ej35401
12-17-03, 02:24 PM
We've lived in the same apartment for 3.5 years. Piling it up and collecting junk, unused clothing and other misc. items is not an option. I often (every 3-4 months) go threw a large portion of our items to make room for new stuff. We have no space for being disorganized and our home can quickly become very uncomfortable if it's not kept under control. The breadmaker my mother-in-law so lovingly gifted us is on it's way out the next time around. It is one of thoes things you could keep to put out when she visits, but we haven't touched it in at least a year. I just do not have the space.

The goal next year is to empty the warehouse completely.. my reasonly is that the value of the junk in there isn't worth the $50/month I"m paying to keep it all. I've been talking about doing this for 6 months.. it'll be a big deal once it finally get's done.



Doing finances on the computer is a big help. Most of my bills are set of for automatic payment cause I forget to pay them often. Other's send me e-mail reminders. Being able to look at my statements online is wounderful not having to keep up with all the paperwork. Keeps the filing neatter. If I cared to keep records I'd do it all electronic.. either save files or print and scan what can't be saved.. just save in file folders by year/month.
you could even do that with reciepts to keep for tax records and such.. .. it'd make going back threw records much easier..

FlakeyGirl
12-18-03, 05:59 AM
The idea of scanning paperwork has always intrigued me, but I always think I'll need the hard copy if something happens, so to what avail? I've wanted to do this with all my kids' artwork, too, but the originals are SOOOOOO valuable to me, I couldn't bear to part with them.

FlakeyGirl
12-18-03, 06:56 AM
Here's one for the "I've figured out what to give away, now what the heck do I do with it?" people.

Most charities will gladly come pick up all your castoffs for free. You can call them to come get a big load, or if you want they will put you on their calling list for thier monthly pickup. They call the night before and give you a reminder, either voice to voice or leave a message, telling you that they will be in your area.

If you are like me, you scramble around that night, putting out as much as the front porch will hold. It's nice because, while it is a deadline :( , it is a forgiving one. Whatever you don't get out, you can always put out next month.:)

ej35401
12-18-03, 11:20 AM
I don't have kids yet, .. .. or course you can all the art work in a big box stored away, just pick out a couple of your favorite pieces to frame each year. Hang them in a bathroom, the kitchen, playroom, their bedrooms, your study, guest room... .. or you could take tv trays or a small play table and paint on the art work with a clear coat, using a a few coats of a quality paint will give it a really nice glossy finish... Consult the paint department at your local hardware store.. I will not claim to be the expert.

Is it really necessary to keep a hard copies of your monthly gas bill?.. back up your computer files by burning them onto a cd or whatever.. just every couple of months.. I do keep all my paperwork for my investments and clean it out about once a year.
.. like pile it up for a year, then keep your year end statement and dump the rest..

FlakeyGirl
12-18-03, 11:30 AM
5 kiddos=lots of artwork. I like your idea about keeping my *favorites* and displaying them. I do keep everything in a big, big box. Thats the problem really, only 3 kids have made contributions to it and I see it getting pretty unmanageabel shortly. I think I will scan most to CD and then keep a few of my favorites in hard copy.

Also, I like the concept of every few months for the boring paper. I may set aside a quarterly weekend for that and plan something fun for when I'm done.

ej35401
12-18-03, 11:54 AM
I haven't even gotten started and you have 5! you aren't that much older than me.. I may be 32 before I have my first... what a handfull.. I bet you just love it. So you don't have time for projects like the painting one I suggested. If you'll have several framed items I'd suggest a simple black frame and keep it consistant with all the artwork.. it could get messy looking really fast if you pick various frames. .. and remember, they don't all have to be hanging on the wall at the same time. You can switch them out. Especially as seasons come and go.

Ace
12-18-03, 12:05 PM
I am just starting my reformation. I have to go slow, or I'll morph into rebellion mode (more on that in a minute).
Here's a first modest idea I started yesterday:
Don't give in to tasks or errands you think you'll forget if you don't do it now:
As I was going from room to room filling my big black trash bag for pickup yesterday, I kept running into distractions." Example: "Look at that poor plant! It's dying! Better water it right NOW."

Instead of responding to the impulse, I took a little notebook and wrote each intrusive thought down and went on collecting stuff for curbside pickup.

AFTERWARDS, I did the short list of things I had jotted down. I'd made the trash deadline, and I created a list I can schedule into a routine so I don't forget over the week.
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Lafnalot, your plan seem to be working for you, but I got a headache going through your impressive list. (Remember, I'm just starting to reform.) If I threw away all the "maybe I'll use it" things, I would have fewer things. But I just can't do that yet. Maybe I should. Maybe I'll will have to, but I just don't want to. I derive some sense of self, some personal pride, some value in being THE one who has the vital implements or materials that others have thrown away. I am stunned at the waste this country generates. You'd be amazed at what I can create and how quickly I can do it while others in my circle of activists are still adding up the [high] cost and making a shopping list. It is just too darned expensive to throw things away that stilll have utility and value, even if they aren't as attractive or as "now-useful" as thought when they were acquired, IMHO. As a born cheapskate, I'm the one to say "no" at the point of purchase. I'd rather do that than discard stuff I should not have bought in the first place.
Fellow packrats, arise! Organize, appraise, put away, and make do!

FlakeyGirl
12-18-03, 12:29 PM
I have just the spot for my gallery!:D

thesnurse
01-21-05, 03:02 PM
Oh my GOD, the secret is out....:)
So many odd things that I have done routinely all my life (that I thought was just me) I hear on this forum and think aha!! Thanks for making feel somewhat normal--if there is a normal.

ffmickey
02-26-05, 02:00 PM
Well there are so many responses to read that It was hard to read them all. I get the idea though and maybe next time I come into the forums Iw ill read more. I have found myself since my boys are getting bigger and they need more space to play that I have been cleaning my basement for the last month. It has only been me doing it with a friend but I would have liked my husband to help but he is the pack rat of the house. We have been here for over 6 years and the basement when I started there was only a path to get to the laundry room to the steps. I said not anymore and boy does it feel good when I get rid of things to places that willc ome and pick them up. I keep trying to find more so they can take more away from my house. If I get any ideas about different things to organize will fill you in.

It has also helped me out. I watch a show on TLC called clean sweep and it gives me ideas of things to do.

auntchris
03-08-05, 01:50 AM
FlakeyGirl,

I love www.flylady.net (http://www.flylady.net) website. The other day I was at the bookstore and saw her book. I have to go back and get it. I love wicker baskets for storing things in. I like the look since I live in a small apartment it has to be functional and good looking. Organisation has always been strong suit of mine until recently.

I do get alot of idea from my sister. She has 3 very active teens and she works out of her home. She has to be very organised with there schedule and hers. One of her ideas she has going for her is in the mudroom she has brass hooks on a piece of crownmolding attached to the wall at differnent levels. One for the children at their level when they were small they were able to reach it easily and independently. Another at the top of the wall for the older people like us and for longer coats. This now serves as the closet since they made the closet into a pantry for the kids snacks and their can goods. Well there are few ideas. I love the basket for mittens and hats and you can make a scave rack to hang on the wall. Another of my sister bright ideas. auntchris

herekittykitty
03-08-05, 04:11 PM
I just bought a whiteboard to write down those 'oops, gotta do that too!' thoughts that tend to derail me when I'm working on something else.

Right now I'm trying to arrange clothes into 1) winter stuff, 2) summer stuff 3) stuff I will never wear again and 4) stuff that's too big thanks to my Ritalin habit, but which I might grow back into if I change meds (g).

My HUGE problem is getting started on something at say, 11 at night, then staying up all nite till it's done. So now I'm forcing myself to just look at it as a long term project, and leave the huge mess out, because SLEEP IS SO IMPORTANT! It isn't easy, since I live in a teeny tiny studio apt, and can't find the floor because of all the stuff, but at least this way I'm both making progress on the clothes thingy and getting sleep at nite.

It all comes down to: which sucks less? :D

witsend
03-22-05, 02:00 PM
OMG!! when i moved i had so much stuff!! I resolved to give away as much as poss. when I finish going through my stuff, my garage was 2/3 full of things going to good will!!! This included a stroller, baby bottles, toddler toys (mind you my son is 8!), things-I-might-use-someday, when-I-lose-weight clothes etc...It was really freeing!!!!

adhdxyz
03-27-05, 10:57 PM
I am so glad I found this ADD forum. It helps to know that I am not alone in the clutter.

I grew up having a kitchen table full of papers that we had to push aside in order to eat meals. This is how my kitchen table looked too for several years. It is definitely hereditary. Kids bring home so many papers from school. The worst part is when one of the kids would spill a glass of something and all the papers that shouldn't have been piled on the table got wet.

My friend had a solution for keeping/storing her kids school work. At the end of every school year, she would take the child's bookbag and store their favorite papers, stories, best grades, certificates, report cards, etc... in the bookbag and label it with the kids name and grade. She has done this for years and said that as her kids get older, they enjoy looking back at their older bookbags and papers. (I haven't taken the time to do this, but it's a good idea.)

One thing that we do is that if one of the kids has a favorite picture that they did, we give it as a gift to a single aunt/uncle/family friend or grandparents that do not have kids. They really appreciate it and display it proudly.

Another suggestion to help get rid of clutter, is to locate the nearest drop box for clothes/shoes/linens. We happen to have one in our church parking lot. I find it alot easier to put the clothes etc that we do not wear anymore into a trash bag and immediately take it to the drop box. This works for me better than calling a place to pick it up or dropping it off at a donation place during their opening hours. If it's a drop box, I can go whenever I want. Anytime. Just get it out of the house. It is very rewarding when I am able to move something out-the quicker the better.

My fear is that way down the road when my parents are gone, we will have to tackle my Mom's collection of everything from scoop to nuts. When my grandma passed away over 20 years ago, my Mom had to coordinate the sale of her house. Everything my grandma collected was brought to my parents basement/extra bedroom and there it sat. 20 years and counting. Mostly papers that my Mom eventually wants to go through but hasn't had the time. This is one task that I will dread. We joke that we will have to just demolish the whole house like in the Gilbert Grape movie because it will be an impossible task for all of us ADHD family members.

witsend
03-28-05, 01:16 AM
I grew up having a kitchen table full of papers that we had to push aside in order to eat meals. The worst part is when one of the kids would spill a glass of something ...

I can so relate to this!!!! I hate it but it seems no matter how hard I try IT WON'T GO AWAY!!!!

In my new house my dining room table does't fit so we have a breakfast bar, we never eat there because IT is always filled with crap!!! I get rid of it & in the next day or two it back again!!!

witsend
03-28-05, 01:17 AM
I dont know what happened that is your quote, adhdxyz!!

adhdxyz
03-28-05, 07:58 AM
One day I was talking to a girl at work in the hallway in regard to our cluttered houses and in particular, our terribly messy kitchen tables and counters.

By the time we were done chatting, we had atleast 7 of us standing in the hall laughing and carrying on about our messy houses. We were all working fulltime, most of us with kids, some of us were going to college at night (and we didn't even mention any mental disabilities issues going on.)

And one thing we all had in common, were our cluttered Mothers. I guess if I am fortunate enough to have inherited many of her wonderful traits, I also have to have some of her less favored traits. It's a trade off.

And I just love the earlier statement about being able to clean it all up when the kids are grown and out of the house. It sounds like a plan to me. (I wonder why my Mom has not done it yet though?)

VickiS
03-28-05, 10:27 AM
[Quote]Don't give in to tasks or errands you think you'll forget if you don't do it now:[/b]
As I was going from room to room filling my big black trash bag for pickup yesterday, I kept running into distractions." Example: "Look at that poor plant! It's dying! Better water it right NOW."

Instead of responding to the impulse, I took a little notebook and wrote each intrusive thought down and went on collecting stuff for curbside pickup.

Excellent Point! That sense of urgency will derail even the best intentions! It is like a bell goes off and you MUST respond. I tried the notebook idea but I never had it with me when I needed it. Recently I bought several little dry erase boards that have a little hanger on them that I hang from various doors around the house and in my car. If I write something on it, it comes along with me and the theory is at some point a blank one gets put back (if I can manage to keep the pens attached) don't get me wrong, it is not like I actually do everything I write down, but at least I can finish brushing my teeth in peace without rushing downstairs to add cat food to my grocery list!

witsend
03-28-05, 12:10 PM
And one thing we all had in common, were our cluttered Mothers. I guess if I am fortunate enough to have inherited many of her wonderful traits, I also have to have some of her less favored traits. It's a trade off.

My mom's a stickler for a clean house!!! I don't know how she did it w/ 3 kids in the house& all the crap we'd bring home!! It is definately one her traiats I didn't inherit!:)

miss_danielle
04-06-05, 09:40 PM
this sounds kind of dorky, but i have a big white board i bought for a few bucks in my room, and i write EVERYTHING i have to organise that day. I mean down to the littlest mundane things that i am going to forget. Then at the end of the day I can wipe all the things off and get a feeling of accomplishment.

Gourmet
04-07-05, 02:44 AM
Uh Oh. Does this mean I have to get rid of the broken china under my sink- dream destiny: mosaic birdbath. How about my size 5 clothes that might come back in style when I lose 10 pounds. And does this mean I can't go to the thrift shop anymore???

My point is...don't bring it home, and don't bring it in the house no matter what! My mother in law aka "the hoarder" gives me her musty junk every time she goes on a cleaning spree. I have learned to politely toss it in the trash bin as soon as she leaves. She'd die!!! I've opened my mouth now...time to practice what I preach!

These suggestions you've posted are great!

witsend
04-08-05, 01:17 AM
oh how I hate when my mom/ g-ma/ whoever gives me their crap!!! If you don't want it what makes you think that I do??? My house is small enough I definatly don't need more stuff....my mom constantly asks me if I want the same things over & over & over....I tell her if I want it I know where it is...:)

Gourmet
04-08-05, 03:39 PM
one more thing about the mother in law and I'll get back on topic. She was trying to give us some old ladder backed chairs that I kept politely turning down. (yucky) When my husband had his birthday a month later, SHE STUCK BOWS ON THEM AND BROUGHT THEM OVER AS GIFTS!!!! grrrrr

Now, my messy organizing tip. I tape football schedules, track, chorus,field trip information on the back door window. It is eye level so I can't miss them...and we don't need a curtain! Then I keep post its with me at all times and cover my steering wheel with to dos and errand reminders.Of course this not fit in with the housekeeping theme.
Oh, I know. I keep my silverware standing upright in a pretty sectioned basket and my everyday dishes in an iron plate holder...in the kitchen of course. That way I don't have open as many doors?
Does that qualify? :eyebrow:

VickiS
04-08-05, 04:20 PM
OK back off on the mother in law stuff! (I learned a good lesson)
Shift your view, ready set go!
What if: When your mother in law (or anybody) clips articles and sends then to you weekly, always makes sure to forward you the latest urban legend e-mail; or wants to give you her ugly T-necks she doesn't wear anymore, (oops I mean ugly chairs) or some godawful thing from your spouses childhood?
What if she just isn’t good with opening up? What if it was her way of trying to reach out and stay connected? Maybe she is trying in her own way to show she loves me? ME? Oops I mean you...
What if I sucked it up and said “thank you, how thoughtful of you”?
I did, and it was powerful!
Come on make that old ladies day! You can always “store” the chairs cause you can’t decide what color to reupholster them in…
Sorry if I offended anyone, but maybe like my mom-in law we are just missing the signals?

Nucking_Futs
04-08-05, 04:41 PM
My mother in law has taught me a lot about the kind of mother in law I DON'T want to be. lol

I have an attic full of her junk that I just don't have the heart to turn down. One of these days I hope to pass on these treasure's to my adoring daughter and son in laws lmbo

Gourmet
04-08-05, 05:17 PM
Didn't I say gracious? When I am a mom in law and reorganize my closets, I will probably end up doing the same thing! egad. I'd better watch out! That dog might come back and bite me. That is, if I ever get around to reorganizing anything :0
Annie :)

witsend
04-08-05, 09:04 PM
When my mom tries to give me things,out of season decorations are her fave to pass off, I always tell her if I want it when Christmas-Easter-Halloween.....whatever comes around I get it then. This usually works & buys me some time.:)

Gourmet
04-08-05, 10:02 PM
Hi ya'll. I believe I am guilty of throwing the thread off topic :rolleyes: If I can be a responsible young lady and contribute something of value to the organizing tips topic, maybe I can redeem myself :) Hmmmmm

I bought all of my boys those bins with the four drawers to store toys, personal items, little boy treasures, and high school kid stuff. You need to be sure to purchase the sturdy kind - like rubbermaid. Ours are black with see thru drawers and are attractive.

I can't stand to fold clothes!To help a little with the laundry ordeal , I bought some sturdy plastic hangers (like Joe Boxer brand)- a different color for each boy. The boys are responsible for bringing the empty hangers to the laundry room and hanging all of their own t-shirts. Growing up, we always folded ours, but hanging is so much easier. Since three of them are the same size and I can't remember whose shirt is whose, they identify their own as soon as I dump them out of the laundry basket. That's pretty cool.

happy organizing!
Annie

VickiS
04-08-05, 10:07 PM
I love to shop for oganizational stuff, does that count for anything?

Gourmet
04-08-05, 10:15 PM
Thank you Vicki ;)

It counts if you bring it home and use it! The shoe rack in my closet is pretty useless. We always have to call on "THE Great Finder" to retrieve the lost shoe from the "Black HoLe".

adhdxyz
04-08-05, 10:18 PM
Two things that have always helped me in hanging up my clothes so that they are visible and at an arm's length are my stationary exercise bike and my treadmill. Whoever thought of these two wonderful organizing pieces was a genius (add/adhd no doubt)

Gourmet
04-08-05, 10:23 PM
You are a HOOT!!! AMEN

witsend
04-09-05, 01:54 AM
I never fold socks---even though there are only 3 of us in my house. We go through them as fast as they're washed, I just leave them in the laundry basket.