Does anyone else have problems with friends not understanding that they need to stick to the schedule they've set up for themselves?

I've never really been able to keep to any sort of schedule, because when I lived at home my parents basically ignored it and expected me to just drop it all if they decided that they wanted me to do something.

But now I'm living on my own and for the first time I have to deal with taking care of household stuff, and an internship, which means working more independantly than I am used to.

So I'm trying really hard to MAKE myself get stuff done--because I know I need to.

But this morning, my friend wanted to go see the funeral departure for Reagan. And she's like, oh come on, it's only an hour. And I explained that I had stuff to do and she was just like, do it later, be spontaneous.

And I'm like--you don't get it! This IS later. I have two unopened bills around here...somewhere...I don't even know when they are due, but they've been here for two weeks and I haven't looked at my bank balance in a month and my house is a giant mess, my clothes are all dirty, and I have a doctors appt this afternoon, plus picking up my FREE Kenny Chesney tickets (WOO!) and going to volunteer at the FD....which is an hour away....

I won't just 'do it later'. Because the longer I put it off the more intimidating it is and next thing you know, my phone and TV will be turned off and my house a mess and I"ll be sitting there crying as my parents tell me they knew I couldn't live on my own.

I also have work I am supposed to do from home today (because of road closings for Reagan's funeral I didn't go in) and she's like, whatever, you don't have to do it. And I can't reconcile with that...I may not always do stuff, because I forget or I don't know how, or I misplace it, but I've NEVER purposefully just not done work cause 'no one would know if I really did or not'.

Does anyone else have this problem, making friends and family understand that 'do it later' just doesn't work for me? That if I break one part of my schedule, I can't really figure out how to reorganize and I just end up saying screw the whole thing, I'm gonna watch TV? That there ARE times when I can be spontaneous, but there are also times when I CAN'T.

Be sure to make your schedule something that is obtainable. Another words don't give yourself 50 things to do in a day. I alway's give myself a little time off in the morning, afternoon and evening just in case someone drops by or needs help with something and if no one comes by well it's ME time.

And yes I do have friends who just don't understand how important a schedule is and am often ridiculed for freaking out if I forget my schedule at home. But, they sure do appreciate it when they are apart of my schedule such as babysitting their kids, taking them to the doctor or helping them get ready for a party. Perhaps, your friend would be more understanding if you reminded her that you make room for her in your life and she needs to make room in her for you and your schedule.

I'm blunt I know but I can't help but get upset when people try so hard to accomplish a great thing and someone else comes by and drags them down.

Good luck your gonna need it.

Hugs

*sighs* Yeah, I had more wiggle room in my schedule, cause I do try, but I had insomnia last night and didn't fall asleep until like 3, so I slept until 9 instead of waking up at 7 like I had planned, so already I am two hours behind....