I am not one to bite my tounge at all...When I got mad on the Job...EVERYONE knew it....got me into trouble A LOT.... I know \ADHD Adults are impulsive and act w/o thinking sometimes,....and Some can bite their tounges and some cant....But Me I can not fight it...Something in me can not keep quiet and I have to be heard.....Is that an ADHD thing or Just Something else??

I dunno...but I just know I could not get along with any boss or co workers cause of my attitude....I am not sorry for it....Shame on me If I just let anyone reguardless of Boss or not just walk all over me.

I don't know if it's an ADD thing or not.....

I'm one of those who can bit their tongue. But it's not always a good thing, it eats at my stomach.

Holding my tongue with family, friends and strangers is another story all together :rolleyes:

It's an ADD trait to blurt without thinking. I have done this one too many times myself... :(

My thing is that many times I need to "hold the send button."

Although I'll usually speak up, if something irks me, I'll take a brief moment (1-2 hours) :) to carefully craft an email stating my position and why I think so.

This has gotten my wrist slapped a few times, but overall I think that using email forces me to think a bit harder about the issue. It also allows me to collect more "ammunition" to back up my position.

Like I said though, it isn't always a good thing, but then again, why can't the people just see it MY way and deal with it?! ;)

Brent

Like I said though, it isn't always a good thing, but then again, why can't the people just see it MY way and deal with it?! ;)

Brent

Funny I think that way all the time :D

I used to say what i felt after getting in trouble one too many times I actually went to far the other way and never said what i should have.

Why bite your tounge...it hurts the tounge and burns the stomach

I have found that finding someone I know I can trust that is a non - ADD person really helps me. But trust is the issue.............you have to make sure you can trust that person. And when you find someone you can trust, they can help you see it in a non-ADD way of thinking which may help you to calm down. I also get upset with office poltics and crap that goes on. I try my best to stay clear of the gossip and away from the water cooler. It helps me stay out of trouble and prevents me from getting upset. I mind my p's and q's so to speak.

I have also received emails that totally upset me. I will actually type the email out saying exactly what I feel, but I DON't PRESS THE SNED BUTTON. I then call over my office mate, who is someone I trust who will help calm the situation and help me to rephrase everything much better. It works out great.

I got into trouble for blurting out - usually to my supervisors (sergeant, lieutenant, etc).

Bunny....I had to do that the other day, not press the send button, when I had Job evaluation and was told my goals are not realistic.....BOY was I burned...So when I came home I vented to on line friends..Except today...The Evaluation test was about how fast we can use our hands and assemble...everytime I screwed up I would curse without even noticing I cursed....That'sa no good..:eek:

Thank God this is just an Evaluation cause My Real Bosses from other Jobs Hated me cause I followed my own way and not theirs and I told them why I did it and remarked that it was faster and easier than theirs... I still have not changed my ways of following directions...when having to color code chips.....she said one at a time without holding more than one chip in hand...I just could not do it...Had to have at least two and samething goes with the other project to...and I did dispute her saying.."I may not have done it your way, but I got it done faster and accuratly." I dont remember her saying anythign but just marking things on her page....Non Conformist at heart :D

I for one cannot bite my toung I have always just said what is on my mind and that has gotten my in trouble so many times

TY Bobby.....Dats What the PPl in The Job Assesment Program is learnign about me too LOL.....I think I just might not be qualified to work hehe

I can bite my tongue and re-access a situation most times but I do work with a lazy, good for mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmm m mmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmm! Who does not only sleep on the job, refuse to answer call lights but has other caused me physical injury not once, not twice but more times then I can count on one hand. Now J is a different story I tell her what I think and don't pull any punches.

Is the most irritating ones the ppl we can not hold our toungues too...other ones we just take deep breath and think of rammin their head into a urinal?

Nah, I understand those kind of people...it's the one's who put themselves above others, who are arrogant, negative thinkers and put co-workers at risk.

Negative thinkers???? :(

Nucking_Futs you hit the nail on the head there I really cant stand them type of people at all its like they just get under my skin and know just what button to pust to get me going

Oh yeah the ones who think we should be working for them and they think they are ther shnizzle?

Negative thinkers???? :(

I'm talking about the ones who go around moaning for hours how we're short staffed again. When if they would just buckle down and pick up the pace things would go a lot smoother. So, we're short staffed beats working alone (which I have done) and it only last for eight hours. People like this can make an already hard shift into a nightmare.

Ohhh For a minute I thought I was drivin ya nuts......ack i am so paranoid.

It's impossible to drive me nuts I'm already there...the worst you could do would be to drive me sane.

Hell, I Don't even have a road map to saneville...not sure I want it either:D

Ok, I've got one for ya. Try working at a Christian university...you learn REALLY fast how to control your anger and bite your tongue. I always felt like someone (the BIG MAN upstairs) was watching me (and no, not "Big"... although...is he watching right now? lol...I think I'm gonna get smacked) So I learned to bite my tongue and ummmm...dig fingernails into my palm and ummmmm...run scenarios on how you'd love to just shock the snot out of them and tell them exactly what you are thinking...oh and you even learn how to pray but somehow that didn't always work for me. I guess if I'm not genuflecting I don't feel like I'm doing much.

I bite my tongue 'til it bleeds....but I do carry a journal around with me at all times and I "think out loud" in it through drawings and words. During staff meetings I can sit quietly and nod agreeably while at the same time I am writing and drawing the most splenetic responses imaginable...

Hmmm Tamarama I never thought of that....I just be hopin no one looks over my shoulder while I am writing what they can do with the job and what oraficise that can stick it up. LOL

I better Bite my tounge here too, cause ya Never know when BIG wants to be sneaky, Both Andi and I might get smacked.

Hell, I Don't even have a road map to saneville...not sure I want it either:D

What you mean there is one can someone please tell me where I can download a sample verision of it so I can see if I like it and so I can tell who is really normal me with ADHD or them the ones without it

Trust me I have seen people who have been there...They become dull and have no mind of their own.....If you see such a place where people are robots with posmatronic brains(Easy to recognize just look at the ones in politics)......RUN THE OTHER WAY!!!!!!!!!:D

LOL I know what you mean it just like someone else is controling them like they are puppets

I am picuturing those guys with their hands up the puppets butts...LOL

When I think Of it, that is why Bosses never liked me....I refused to be a puppet with a hand up my butt controling every move and every word I say!

LOL that a funny site when I think of it LOL

LOL kinds funnier when I think of my foot up theirs before I walk off the job *evil grin*

splenetic

[adj] very irritable; "bristly exchanges between the White House and the press"; "he became prickly and spiteful"; "witty and waspish about his colleagues"

Synonyms: bristly, ill-natured, prickly, waspish

aha but did his colleauges deserve it!

What you mean there is one can someone please tell me where I can download a sample verision of it so I can see if I like it and so I can tell who is really normal me with ADHD or them the ones without it


Directions to saneville: Go to intersection and turn right, go to next intersection and turn right, go to next intersection and turn right, repeat the process until you realize saneville is the last place you'll ever wanna be. Have a safe trip ;)

Well, I work in a Nursing home run by nuns...so when I am really mad at Jul. I tend to not say certain words but you subconsciously hear their prescence. Why you stupid no good mmmmmmm little mmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmm yep sadly I sound real intelligent. But, usually when I'm this mad she has just cause me or someone else bodily harm with her lazy work ethics.

Nucking_Futs thanks for the directions lol and you are better than me I couldnt work there I would be struck down before the first hour was over

Well, I did once try to see if I could hang myself with my gait belt from the exit sign...those signs get flimsier and flimsier everyday. lmbo

When I first read your post I had to laugh.
I have calluses on my tongue!
When someone really gets me going, I go to my cubical and write it down.
Also I have a co-worker who gets the same frustration as I do and
we exchange eye rolls... if you know what I mean. :D
That helps too.
Writing it down helps because you can see if its truely abuse you are getting or you putting negative thoughts to the mix making it worse.

Example: I was frustrated for I had to complete a project by the end of the day while receiving the markups that day at noon! I wrote it down and all the thoughts I was thinking. Half of them were "He's a jerk!", "I'm going to lose my job!" but some of it was fact "I was give 5 hours to finish project when I needed two days" and I rewrote what happened using just the facts. The next day the project manager asked how I was doing with the project and I was able to calmly tell him the facts. The engineer who I was frustated with was spoken to.

I wish it were that easy for us Kassie...the girl I work with is of a darker skin and has threatened the home she'd sue if she were to be fired.

But, I got my hands on my sisters cam corder and will be getting some visual aide's for the court room...she wants to sleep on the job while call lights are going off and residents need assistance then let her do it I say...for the next week anyways. *smiles*

I know what you mean. One of the Engineers who really really Frustrates me is marrying my Boss this October. When he's unreasonable there is no one to tell except my Boss. Think I'm going to say anything?! No way!!

Those are the times when you can roll your eyes with a co-worker.
Or talk to a safe person about it.
I remembering being quite surprised that I wasn't the only one going crazy.

Have you talked with the annoying individual? Did you write down what was said?
For it sounds like that woman would sue no matter what happens. Guard yourself.

I would have tape recorder hidden :D actual voice seems to be a tad bit more damning

I know what you mean. One of the Engineers who really really Frustrates me is marrying my Boss this October. When he's unreasonable there is no one to tell except my Boss. Think I'm going to say anything?! No way!!

Those are the times when you can roll your eyes with a co-worker.
Or talk to a safe person about it.
I remembering being quite surprised that I wasn't the only one going crazy.

Have you talked with the annoying individual? Did you write down what was said?
For it sounds like that woman would sue no matter what happens. Guard yourself.

I've talked to her. After an episode were she dropped an over 300 pnd woman on my wrist and laughed when I was trying to push her off myself...I talked oooo girl trust me I talked I said words I've never said before in my life and it felt GOOD! I've told her that her lazy no good worth ethics were going to get her eaten alive in the nursing field unless of course she goes into a hospital background *smiles slighly* everyone knows those nurse's will eat her heart and let her watch. Payback's a witch!! :D I've dealt nicely with this girl for two years I'm no longer dealing with her all that well but have no guilty feelings The good lord gave me 4 cheeks for a reason and I've done gone and run out.

Always remind me to stay on good side futs...hehe.Yikes! LOL!