boloney
07-28-04, 08:32 PM
I don't know where to begin....I'm 25, he's 27. We've been together for over 2 years now. It's obvious that he has ADD; he was diagnosed with it when he was younger. However, his family did not believe in the medication involved, maybe didn't believe in the disorder itself. So he has never been treated for his ADD. He's been abusing drugs for about 6 or 7 years; except for this last year was his first without drugs...yay! When I met him, he and all his friends partied, all the time. So I thought if I did them with him it wouldn't be so bad (at this point, I didn't know he had ADD). Well that didn't work. So after being together for 6 months, I broke up with him. We were broken up for 2 months when I started getting phone calls and emails from him; telling me that he missed me, that he'll stop the drugs, that he wants to be with me. I resisted at first, but we started hanging out again. Then before I knew what was going on, we were back together. 4 months go by and we're as happy as can be. Then come the phone calls, from his old "friends" wondering "what he was up to." I knew what was coming, binges that last from 3 days to 5 days. I wouldn't see or hear from him for a number of days. This happened at least once a month for almost 6 months. I threatened to leave (as I always did), but this time I was able to muster up enough strength to actually mean it. I truly did mean it, and I think he knew it too. Although he doesn't do the drugs anymore, he still has the ADD. I see all the symptoms from all the books and forums I've read. Now a person with ADD has enough problems, so a person with ADD and a drug addiction is probably 10 times worse. It was a year this month since he's used drugs and he finally recognizes the fact that he needs to get treatment for his ADD. His initial appointment is on August 2. My question now is what should I expect from all this? I know it's going to be a "whole new life" for the both of us. Is it going to be worth it? I really don't know what to think.