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dancinonwater
11-17-10, 06:54 PM
Haha i just thought the tital fit. anyway: here's my story:

i am 13 (8th grade) and i was recently diagnosed with adhd. i have always had it but, as my therapist and other people have told me, it was litterally "hidden" behind my iq. I am very bright (im getting my iq tested soon, but we know it will be at least very supirior to genious level), but adhd is ruining my life! ugggg i forget homework and i dont mean to, but i cant help it!

the thing that bothers me most is when a teacher tells me that i wasnt focusing or need to focus. the other day in art class we had to bring in a drawing we had done at home and she had said it very nonchalontly and i hadnt been paying attention. when i told her i didnt know it existed she said to me, "_______, i honestly dont think you where paying attention.". just like that. i wanted to cry! i was on the brink of tears because no matter how much i try, i cant always pay attention like the other kids! i just wish someone would understand that! and i also am amazing at math (i take high school level math and science courses), but i just cant seem to finish the tests, not for lack of understanding, but because i get so distracted that i waste too much time. my math teacher wrote on one of my papers, "not practicing at home, working too slowly". i was practicing at home and i got every other question on the test correct, exept for the three i didnt finish. why should i get an 85% when i achieved 100% on the questions i had time to finish. i want to tell them (although my math teacher is litterally 70 years old and wouldnt care), but im afraid.

i just needed to vent and i figured some of you understand and have gone though very similar things. thats why i joined the forum.

another thing thats bothering me: my mom. she has always expected so much of me and when i forget something or get distracted she yells at me and acts like i can help it. i feel like she doesnt mean to do anything wrong, but only someone with adhd really understands that no matter how hard you try, you just cant do certain things. i was crying to my therapist the other day because people tell me i need to try, my dance teacher is always telling me to try harder to focus, but its not a matter of how hard i try. i told her that it isnt, but noone understands.... and when i was talking out of turn in dance class she told me to stop and i opologized. i then did it again (i was especially hiper that day) and she went on about how if you say sorry more than once, you dont really mean it and i said i did mean it and i couldnt help it, but again she just didnt understand.....

dancinonwater
11-17-10, 07:48 PM
Anyone else wanting to vent, i have aclaimed this as the venting thread!

Please feel free to share your stories, experiences, opinions, emotions, and ideas about ADD/HD!

itsanADHDthing
11-17-10, 09:00 PM
Hyper*

No one without experiencing it first hand can't understand the troubles of adhd.

Sorry is worn out. Don't use it. Say it was my fault Ill do ____ to fix and I will try to not remake that mistake.

Try and get an IEP (EIP?). It gives you extra time, extra help, and less chance of getting in trouble. I don't know if you can have honor classes with it.

ClaireBerri
11-28-10, 08:24 AM
I know exactly how you feel! A few months ago I was dignoised with ADD, but my parents thought it was ADD for a few years. I feel like I try harder then the other kids just to sit down and focus on getting my homework done, just to forget it >:/

Right now I'm on a 504 Plan, which is like a less extreme version of a IEP.
The plan gives me extra time on tests, 50% extra time on homework assinments, and a few more things.
I was extremly opposed to it at first becasuse I didn't think I needed it, and I was worried that colleges would see I was "stupid'' enough to be on a plan.(colleges won't see it:)

It's helped me so much! I'm in 9th grade and I don't think I'd be getting A's and B's without it. My teachers understand that it's really hard for me to pay attention and stay focused which is really nice :) I usally stay up really late getting all my homework finsihed, then the next day i'll just forget it. It's nice not paincing all day and worrying if the teacher will take it a day late for full credit :)

I still have those days though when my parents don't understand. My dad will ask me if all my homeworks done in the morning, and I'm afarid to say it's not becuase he'll get really disapointed and he'll start asking me why I coudn't get a page of math done when I could facebook..He dosn't get it's near impossible for me to sit down and do my homework :(
Before I was on my 504 plan i'd zone out and my teachers would get angrey and tell me I was just not trying to pay attention, and when I'd forget my homework I always felt like crying because the'd make me feel stupid for turning it in late. Then I'd come home and be frustrated with myself becuase no matter how hard I tryed I coudn't get my homework done..

Whenever I tryed to explain how difficult it was for me to do my homework my parents and friends woudn't understand and my friends would think I was just making up excuses, and my parents would tell me I needed to try harder. It's really frustrating when my parents tell me to sit down and do my homework becuase they don't understand I just can't. It's gotten easyer as I've gotten older though. But even now the worst thing is when I haven't done my homework and my parents askk me if its done. Becuase then I feel like I have to lie and say it is, and eventually all the lieing builds up and I haven't turned in half my homework for the semester..

Woahh...sorry for the long message but it feels good telling this to people who understand : )
By the way I've been thinking about getting a theripist for a while, and I was wondering what it's like? and is it completly confidential?

Lunacie
11-28-10, 11:31 AM
Thank you. I have to show this thread to my daughter. She decided not to inform the schools that my granddaughter has ADHD or ask for any accomodations like getting credit for homework that's late. That could be affecting her grades.

Like you, she's very smart or bright, and we couldn't get the teachers to agree that she was even struggling until she was in 5th grade and it was just impossible not to notice. She's in 7th grade and I don't often see posts by kids her age, so again I say Thank you!

stef
11-28-10, 12:03 PM
I agree with the post above; and you're struggling now but imagine, you just keep going along like this through college & adulthood, no one, not even yourself, knows what is wrong; it is great you are seeing a therapist now and not at age 39!

have you tried talking to a favorite teacher about this?

dancinonwater
11-28-10, 02:44 PM
it's good to know that there are other people struggling with the same thing that i am!
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ClaireBerri- It's great to hear your story! it sounds so much like me, i'd think you where me in the near future! hahaha its so great that you got the help you needed and it really inspires me to do the same! i didnt know that you could still get credit for homework that is late on a 504 plan, because i would soooo need that! and i know how you feel about how noone seems to understand.... i know that people around me try to be supportive, but they dont really know how i feel. thats why this forum is so great so i can connect with people who have similar struggles to what i go through!

oh and yeah you should see a therapist! it is completely confidential, they can't even tell your parents what you say! (unless it's illegal or something! lol) its another really good way to cope with all the stress that comes with the ADHD! i also sometimes have a session with my mom and it has been helping alot to have her understand more about my ADHD. and sometimes it's easier to work with a psychologist on meds and school plans and stuff. i would recommend that you atleast see one once and see what you think!

also: i'd love to talk to you sometime since it seems like we have alot in common! i'm in 8th grade, but i take 9th grade classes and am mature for my age, so i'm not too much of a little kid. hahaha ill PM you.

Lunaci- tell your sister that she is wrong. although many kids with ADHD dont want people to know about it, having the school be able to help is soooo worth people knowing about her disorder! trust me, it's worth it! and if she doesnt, some day her daughter will be very upset with her because she couldnt recieve the best possible education, so didnt get good enough grades to get into a good college etc, etc.

and stef- you are right.... i was mad enough that i had to wait until 13, so i should get to work so that i can do what i can now!
and not yet..... i'm a little worried that i'll start crying because i get emotional talking about my ADHD struggles. but i'll try when i work up the nerve!

dancinonwater
11-28-10, 04:20 PM
i'm sorry, i tried to post a longer thing, but i dont think it worked... ill try and post what i can of it again!

Aspie101
11-29-10, 03:47 PM
Uh what kind of question is that...of course we all have! Teachers, psychologists, doctors dont understand the disorder anymore.

Jester
12-12-10, 01:09 AM
You're either a genius or you lie about being 13, that text is really well written. Clap clap. ^.^

You should talk to your mom about seeing a psychiatrist, not a therapist. Therapy is for criminals, drug abusers, sex offenders, crazy people, terminal cancer patients waiting to die soon etc. so according to me it's an insult that your parents send you to therapy and a proof that they have no clue what's going on.

Trying won't improve anything because it's a physical barrier, like driving with no wheels, you won't be able to drive, not because you don't try hard enough but because the damn car has no wheels! Get ADD medicine and lay off the therapist ^.^

It's nice that you did your own research, really good.

RedHairedWitch
12-12-10, 01:16 AM
I'd be careful about giving minors opinionated information about their treatment. There are many forms of therapy that are helpful for ADHDers.

Jester
12-12-10, 01:28 AM
I'd be careful about giving minors opinionated information about their treatment. There are many forms of therapy that are helpful for ADHDers.

The girl said it herself, it's useless. If she says it's useless who am I to argue. The therapist is probably dumber then her and only does damage by delaying chemical treatment such as daily administration of Ritalin. Therapy is applied when literally NOTHING else works. Like cancer patient, nothing can be done to save the patient, all that's left is group therapy the help him become in peace with himself and accept his faith. Let's be serious. Like, if even the idea of sending my child to therapy ever crossed my mind, I would be the one to go to therapy instead to see wtf is wrong with me.

dancinonwater
12-12-10, 02:49 AM
well.... i dont mean to brag, but i am really 13 and i do have a very high iq, so it fits! hahaha, and i'm mature enough to make my own opinions, so dont worry about that. I really love my psychologist, and she is really smart and helpful, and i know i'm lucky that she isnt crazy! but i think therapy is important to me because i havent been able to control myself, and meds arent miracle workers, i'll still need help with things, and she can be of help with getting a 504 plan, etc. I am going to see a psychiatrist in early January (it was the soonest appointment we could get because we had to choose my psychiatrist carefully) for a meds only appoinment, so i'm hoping for the best. My mother is a psychologist and is very tight in the pyschotherapy comunity, so she was very careful in choosing a good psychologist, as i know that that can be a very difficult thing! And no, therapy isnt only for people who are about to die, or in some other depressive mental state, it is also for people like me who need help doing things others do easily, and i know it will be very helpful to have a liscensed profecionel when i need to work anything out with my school, especially because we will need real documents and everything when talking to my doctors, as i do very well in school, so they will have a difficult time believing my ADHD. And yet, we are all intitaled to our opinions.

Lunacie
12-12-10, 03:13 AM
You're either a genius or you lie about being 13, that text is really well written. Clap clap. ^.^

You should talk to your mom about seeing a psychiatrist, not a therapist. Therapy is for criminals, drug abusers, sex offenders, crazy people, terminal cancer patients waiting to die soon etc. so according to me it's an insult that your parents send you to therapy and a proof that they have no clue what's going on.

Trying won't improve anything because it's a physical barrier, like driving with no wheels, you won't be able to drive, not because you don't try hard enough but because the damn car has no wheels! Get ADD medicine and lay off the therapist ^.^

It's nice that you did your own research, really good.

I'd like to see some information that confirms that therapists only help "criminals, drug abusers, sex offenders, crazy people, terminal cancer patients waiting to die soon ...".

My family attended weekly therapy sessions with a terrific therapist for nearly two years, he was very helpful. Now my grandchildren are going for individual therapy sessions and I would never insult any of these therapists by saying they aren't as good as a psychiatrist.

The best doctors will tell you that a combination of "pills and skills" is the most helpful treatment - at least until something better gets invented. Pills give us the clarity to learn skills, and sometimes the skills are good enough that the pills aren't needed anymore.


The girl said it herself, it's useless. If she says it's useless who am I to argue. The therapist is probably dumber then her and only does damage by delaying chemical treatment such as daily administration of Ritalin. Therapy is applied when literally NOTHING else works. Like cancer patient, nothing can be done to save the patient, all that's left is group therapy the help him become in peace with himself and accept his faith. Let's be serious. Like, if even the idea of sending my child to therapy ever crossed my mind, I would be the one to go to therapy instead to see wtf is wrong with me.

Excuse me, what thread are you reading? The OP didn't write that anything is "useless", nor did she complain about her therapist. Again, please share some research that shows that therapists do not ever provide any help at all for ADHD or any mental disorder.

Jester
12-12-10, 10:56 AM
I'd like to see some information that confirms that therapists only help "criminals, drug abusers, sex offenders, crazy people, terminal cancer patients waiting to die soon ...".

My family attended weekly therapy sessions with a terrific therapist for nearly two years, he was very helpful. Now my grandchildren are going for individual therapy sessions and I would never insult any of these therapists by saying they aren't as good as a psychiatrist.

The best doctors will tell you that a combination of "pills and skills" is the most helpful treatment - at least until something better gets invented. Pills give us the clarity to learn skills, and sometimes the skills are good enough that the pills aren't needed anymore.

Excuse me, what thread are you reading? The OP didn't write that anything is "useless", nor did she complain about her therapist. Again, please share some research that shows that therapists do not ever provide any help at all for ADHD or any mental disorder.

I get your point. I don't want to get into emotional analysis because I'm not a very emotional person myself (engineer). To me things are simple:

1) Child is in pain.
2) Therapy ain't cutting it. (weather it's good or bad)
3) Child needs proper treatment.

ADD cases are simple. You run a PET scan, normal lobes are bright, the front lobes of a kid with ADD are not so it's a stimulation problem that requires chemical treatment. It's like a flat tire, if you talk to the flat tire and send it to a therapist it won't inflate itself or become a normal tire. You need the muscle treatment and a pump.

It's very good that you express your opinion, that's what this forum is for, like that the OP can have several points of view.

Lunacie
12-12-10, 12:11 PM
I get your point. I don't want to get into emotional analysis because I'm not a very emotional person myself (engineer). To me things are simple:

1) Child is in pain.
2) Therapy ain't cutting it. (weather it's good or bad)
3) Child needs proper treatment.

ADD cases are simple. You run a PET scan, normal lobes are bright, the front lobes of a kid with ADD are not so it's a stimulation problem that requires chemical treatment. It's like a flat tire, if you talk to the flat tire and send it to a therapist it won't inflate itself or become a normal tire. You need the muscle treatment and a pump.

It's very good that you express your opinion, that's what this forum is for, like that the OP can have several points of view.

Insurance doesn't cover PET scans to check for ADHD in the frontal lobes.

Meds help correct the chemical imbalance.

But the kid still knows she's different, still struggles with social stuff, may have parents who don't understand and fight with each other and blame her.

Therapy CAN help the child.
Therapy CAN help the whole family.

Proper treatment recognizes that the child is more than just a chemical imbalance, she's a whole person with feelings and everything.

Jester
12-13-10, 12:00 AM
Insurance doesn't cover PET scans to check for ADHD in the frontal lobes.

Meds help correct the chemical imbalance.

But the kid still knows she's different, still struggles with social stuff, may have parents who don't understand and fight with each other and blame her.

Therapy CAN help the child.
Therapy CAN help the whole family.

Proper treatment recognizes that the child is more than just a chemical imbalance, she's a whole person with feelings and everything.

I may be terribly wrong you know, therapy may be a wonderful thing but let's hear my story first:

My name is Dan or Mr. D and after 2 years of college people didn't know if I was called Mr. D because my name was Dan or because I had Ds in a line. After 2 years, I had 11 D marks, 3x D+ marks and 6 Cs. I was a specialist in passing a class with a D.

So I went to therapy and I met a nice lady there, in her 40s. I don't know if she was specialized in public relations, public service, sociology, religion, astrology, any of those would have made sense after talking to her for an hour.

After a few weeks she started to talk about structure during our meetings. How I should be organized. She said I should have an agenda and write every event during the next week and consult it regularly. I said ok, I'm sorry to burst your bubble but you want someone like me, who is too lazy to write his doctor's appointment on a sheet of paper, to build a bullet proof agenda?
She said:

''That attitude will take you nowhere''.

She probably took that phrase from one of her public service books that she ''studied'' during her easy program in which she probably entered with a math average of 25%. Anyways, I told her:

''What will take me nowhere is the unrealistic goals that you are trying to implement. Giving 10 tasks to accomplish to a person who can barely accomplish 3 is wrong. Right would be to remove 1 or 2 tasks...''

After a few sessions of talking she mentioned that I should study more often. I was straight with her, I didn't lie. I told her I would rather throw myself from the 11th floor then sitting a full day and study. She was like:

''Well, we can perhaps start small, like 15 minutes of study per day, and add 15 minutes every following day''

I said, Well yeah, so then the window option will start to look more and more tempting as days go by. She was like:

Therapist: ''I can't work with you anymore, I don't think anyone can do anything to fix you, I am done here so...''

She didn't finish the sentence, I told her off, left the office and never saw her again.


Three months later I went to see a psychiatrist. She gave me daily 15mg extended release Dexedrine. When I took the pill for the first time, something incredible happened. It was like when Jesus Christ walked by the blind man, picked up a handful of soil, spit in it and rubbed it on the blind man's eyes and the blind man could see!

It was like being in a high speed elevator so instead of only seeing the Stop sign in front of me in the street, I was able to see the whole town. As I looked down I could see my past life, as clear as in my palm. I knew what I had to do, what I hadn't done and what was needed to be done and knew exactly how to do it. I went from a gpa of 2.1 the second year, to a gpa of 8.7 the 3rd year, which was harder than the second.

I am not saying that therapy is bad, I just wanted to share my story.

Mr.D

ginniebean
12-13-10, 12:10 AM
Jester,

You had a therapist who was clearly uninformed about adhd and that's pretty sad and unfortunately all too common. This 'therapist' blamed you for her lack of knowledge and had something of a god complex in thinking she could 'fix' anyone.


Don't make the mistake that generalizing your experience to someone who does understand adhd and actually does care to assist the person to come to workable solutions. There are people out there who do care, are knowledgable and do a great deal of good.

I'm sorry you had such a crappy experience.

Jester
12-13-10, 12:27 AM
Jester,

You had a therapist who was clearly uninformed about adhd and that's pretty sad and unfortunately all too common. This 'therapist' blamed you for her lack of knowledge and had something of a god complex in thinking she could 'fix' anyone.


Don't make the mistake that generalizing your experience to someone who does understand adhd and actually does care to assist the person to come to workable solutions. There are people out there who do care, are knowledgable and do a great deal of good.

I'm sorry you had such a crappy experience.

Ya I probably met someone really bad lol, well that's my luck! :D

Lunacie
12-13-10, 09:58 AM
Jester, thanks for sharing your experience, and I'm sorry it was so sucky. There are good therapists and there are bad therapists. The same is true of psychiatrists, both good ones and bad ones. I've heard stories about both kinds since joining this forum. So I agree with Ginnie, it's a mistake to lump them all together and assume that all therapists are as sucky as the one you met first.

dancinonwater
12-18-10, 05:30 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your bad experience with a psycholohost, but studies have proven that meds along with therapy is much more effective than just meds alone. Once kids with ADHD can control their behavior, therapy is very. helpful for better understanding what behaviors are appropriate and for developong organizational skills. I'm lucky that i have such a good therapist!

dancinonwater
12-20-10, 12:07 AM
I know exactly how you feel! A few months ago I was dignoised with ADD, but my parents thought it was ADD for a few years. I feel like I try harder then the other kids just to sit down and focus on getting my homework done, just to forget it >:/

Right now I'm on a 504 Plan, which is like a less extreme version of a IEP.
The plan gives me extra time on tests, 50% extra time on homework assinments, and a few more things.
I was extremly opposed to it at first becasuse I didn't think I needed it, and I was worried that colleges would see I was "stupid'' enough to be on a plan.(colleges won't see it:)

It's helped me so much! I'm in 9th grade and I don't think I'd be getting A's and B's without it. My teachers understand that it's really hard for me to pay attention and stay focused which is really nice :) I usally stay up really late getting all my homework finsihed, then the next day i'll just forget it. It's nice not paincing all day and worrying if the teacher will take it a day late for full credit :)

I still have those days though when my parents don't understand. My dad will ask me if all my homeworks done in the morning, and I'm afarid to say it's not becuase he'll get really disapointed and he'll start asking me why I coudn't get a page of math done when I could facebook..He dosn't get it's near impossible for me to sit down and do my homework :(
Before I was on my 504 plan i'd zone out and my teachers would get angrey and tell me I was just not trying to pay attention, and when I'd forget my homework I always felt like crying because the'd make me feel stupid for turning it in late. Then I'd come home and be frustrated with myself becuase no matter how hard I tryed I coudn't get my homework done..

Whenever I tryed to explain how difficult it was for me to do my homework my parents and friends woudn't understand and my friends would think I was just making up excuses, and my parents would tell me I needed to try harder. It's really frustrating when my parents tell me to sit down and do my homework becuase they don't understand I just can't. It's gotten easyer as I've gotten older though. But even now the worst thing is when I haven't done my homework and my parents askk me if its done. Becuase then I feel like I have to lie and say it is, and eventually all the lieing builds up and I haven't turned in half my homework for the semester..

Woahh...sorry for the long message but it feels good telling this to people who understand : )
By the way I've been thinking about getting a theripist for a while, and I was wondering what it's like? and is it completly confidential?

I never really got to respond to this, but i wanted to say that this post was really kind of inspiring to me! i'm working on getting meds now, and then i'm going to work on a 504 plan, yours really seems alot like what i'd need!
and i just hate it when people tell me to try harder! i just wish they knew how hard i try every day!

oh and about the therapist thing, i would really recommend it, because meds and such can only do so much, but with therapy they are shown to be way more effective! are you on any meds? and yeah, its completely confidential, they can't even tell your parents anything you say. it's really great to like talk about your problems, and they can also help you stay organized and give you advice and strategies to help you manage your ADHD. mine is really, really nice and shes cool and smart. she's been really helpful to stay organized, and for me she's been great because she is helping me get my parents to better understand my ADHD. She also pulled some strings to get me an appointment with a psychiatrist she works with who's like a really good one, and not too crazy like alot are! hahaha

Lunacie
12-20-10, 10:54 AM
I never really got to respond to this, but i wanted to say that this post was really kind of inspiring to me! i'm working on getting meds now, and then i'm going to work on a 504 plan, yours really seems alot like what i'd need!
and i just hate it when people tell me to try harder! i just wish they knew how hard i try every day!

oh and about the therapist thing, i would really recommend it, because meds and such can only do so much, but with therapy they are shown to be way more effective! are you on any meds? and yeah, its completely confidential, they can't even tell your parents anything you say. it's really great to like talk about your problems, and they can also help you stay organized and give you advice and strategies to help you manage your ADHD. mine is really, really nice and shes cool and smart. she's been really helpful to stay organized, and for me she's been great because she is helping me get my parents to better understand my ADHD. She also pulled some strings to get me an appointment with a psychiatrist she works with who's like a really good one, and not too crazy like alot are! hahaha

Sorry I got so distracted by the debate about the helpfulness of therapy.

For some really good information about getting a 504 Plan, go to www.wrightslaw.com (http://www.wrightslaw.com).

dancinonwater
12-31-10, 03:02 AM
Sorry I got so distracted by the debate about the helpfulness of therapy.

For some really good information about getting a 504 Plan, go to www.wrightslaw.com (http://www.wrightslaw.com).

haha that's fine. it is a good debate, but i think one side is an obvious winner! hahahaha obviously my side! jk.... anyway, thanks for the link! my mom worked with a 504 plan for my twin brother becouse he had chronic headaches for 3 years, so i think shes well sourced with that... i just havent really had much of a chat with her about that yet.

anonymouslyadd
12-31-10, 03:33 AM
Thank you. I have to show this thread to my daughter. She decided not to inform the schools that my granddaughter has ADHD or ask for any accomodations like getting credit for homework that's late. That could be affecting her grades.

Lun is that possible for getting credit for late homeowork? I've never heard of that before.

dancinonwater
12-31-10, 03:42 AM
Lun is that possible for getting credit for late homeowork? I've never heard of that before.

yes, if she sets up a 504 plan for her daughter one of the accomidations can be credit for late work!

Killface1981
12-31-10, 05:02 AM
I've corrected teachers on their spellings, proven professors wrong, and done everything you're not supposed to do. Since I was little, and all through college... I'd play the kiss up game with the right teachers, but there were some whose throat I felt needed to be ripped out. It'd drive me crazy... and they'd say I was lazy, didn't care, and I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD til college. My grades, IQ, test scores covered it up... when you're older you can choose professors in college, and that's a very powerful thing. Just don't sign up for your classes too late or you'll get every jabronie there is. Jabronie is a word that Mac used on It's Always Sunny, and I've been wanting to use it more often.

Lunacie
12-31-10, 11:10 AM
yes, if she sets up a 504 plan for her daughter one of the accomidations can be credit for late work!

Yes, I agree. A proper plan will allow the child to turn in homework at least one day late. It's been frustrating for all of us to see my granddaughter work so hard to get her homework done and then she loses track of it and it doesn't get turned in for credit. But her mother doesn't want to "advertise" the fact that she has ADHD or ask for accomodations. Arrgghhh, so frustrating.

Tarcin
02-02-11, 12:11 AM
Yeah I understand you. I never got diagnosed till 8th grade because apparently my conduct wasn't bad and my IQ was high. But I still got terrible grades because I couldn't study or turn in homework. I had a particularly nasty math teacher in 8th grade. He was a totally d-bag, he called me stupid and dumb to my face. I took his disses until the end of the year, and then I snapped and told him to lay off and to get a life. I shouldn't have done that because I didn't get the best recommendation from him :D but it all worked out. Middle and high school are joint in my school so sometimes he comes around and disses me but I just roll my eyes.

None of my teachers know I have ADHD so I can't play the ultimate guilt card, though I wouldn't do that anyways :P

I wish I could flick him off though.

dancinonwater
04-02-11, 12:14 AM
Sorry I haven't posted in a while, my life's been kinda crazy! Anway, I have a few things to add:
First of all, with the therapy thing, I think it can help most ADHDers with impulse control and even with staying on task and that kind of thing, but I also was diagnosed with mild Aspergers and we're working on some of my symptoms in therapy, so i think it's important for me, plus, I'm a teenage girl, so dealing with this kind of thing could be tough.
Also, I really loooove the idea of a 504 plan. I just hate my teachers yelling at me and asking why I keep forgetting my homework, considering I ace the tests and such, and they just don't seem to get it. Most of my teachers don't know i have ADHD, and I actually am starting to wish they did, but one of the two teachers that does know still does that! It's like they don't get what ADHD is or something! I think I'll talk to my mom about it after I try Strattera because that may help enough that I don't need my teachers to know (fingers crossed!).

Lunacie
04-02-11, 10:21 AM
Sorry I haven't posted in a while, my life's been kinda crazy! Anway, I have a few things to add:
First of all, with the therapy thing, I think it can help most ADHDers with impulse control and even with staying on task and that kind of thing, but I also was diagnosed with mild Aspergers and we're working on some of my symptoms in therapy, so i think it's important for me, plus, I'm a teenage girl, so dealing with this kind of thing could be tough.
Also, I really loooove the idea of a 504 plan. I just hate my teachers yelling at me and asking why I keep forgetting my homework, considering I ace the tests and such, and they just don't seem to get it. Most of my teachers don't know i have ADHD, and I actually am starting to wish they did, but one of the two teachers that does know still does that! It's like they don't get what ADHD is or something! I think I'll talk to my mom about it after I try Strattera because that may help enough that I don't need my teachers to know (fingers crossed!).

I think you're right. A lot of people, including teachers, don't know very much about ADHD. So far, my daughter hasn't wanted to inform the school that her daughter has ADHD. She's in 7th grade this year. I'm not sure I agree with her, but other than offering my advice I can't do anything about it. What I can do is talk to my granddaughter and ask if she's having any problems with her teachers like this, and then she can ask her mom if she wants to reveal it to the teachers. So far, she thinks she's okay. The thing that annoys her most is that some of the teachers keep calling her Caitlyn even when she keeps telling them that her name is KATlin. :rolleyes:

sighduck
04-03-11, 08:30 AM
oh yes... i really have wanted to do so much more than slap many a teacher, it's those teachers that think the only right answers are whats written on their memo, they cant tolerate it when a student has another answer that can be well argued, and they HATE students who think critically.... 40 years ago, that was normal, but in todays time with all the advancements in understanding of teaching and education it really shouldn't be the case. Heck even in my education course in varsity i still get tutors with that same attitude telling me that i must teach students to think critically while at the same time shutting every idea that she doesn't agree with right down....

*pant*

soz for the rant