This is a trait that gets me into quite a bit of trouble. My little bro's wife is also a **** disturber and also has ADHD. Just wondering if this is an ADHD trait?

Generally, no not a peace disturber. Mostly I run into trouble by being blind sided, rather I don't realize there was a miscommunication or don't realize my inattentiveness and hyperactivity are sending signals of hostility or disinterest or uncooperativeness. I don't seek out an argument, I don't seek to stir ****e up. My understanding is that Is more characteristic of bipolar disorder.

No, just prone to thinking others are malicious.

Not intentionally.
But my over-reactions to others perceived attacks can cause trouble.

No....

I'm sensitive enough as it is to my own inner conflict. I don't need it on the outside too.

I don't however avoid resolving things but this is entirely different to me.

I don't believe I can answer this question in a manner that satisfies me.

Yes, peace causes problems. Some people think better when everything is peacefull.. I think no better no matter what. Peace gives people oppertunity to do things they would not be able without others acceptance. Havoc is good stress when everyone is experiancing the same havoc :) I like it fair...

Do I even hae to answer this one? :)

I think its both an ADHD and Bipolar trait.

Yes, peace causes problems. Some people think better when everything is peacefull.. I think no better no matter what. Peace gives people oppertunity to do things they would not be able without others acceptance. Havoc is good stress when everyone is experiancing the same havoc :) I like it fair...

So you're saying havoc is better than peace because it's an equalizer? :p

Sorry I'm just confused, hehe.

As I understand it (and I probably don't), one of the symptoms (which doesn't mean everyone has it) is that we tend to long for strife because our brains desperately crave the stimulation, which is true for me.

If I think a situation is a little too perfect or if I think that others expect me to mold into the status quo, I have a deep-seated desire to stir the pot.

Sometimes that can be good. And sometimes it just feels like I'm an antagonist. I sincerely do not want to provoke others, but sometimes I just feel I have no choice and it leaves me feeling both helpless and guilty.

There's good strife and bad strife.

As I understand it (and I probably don't), one of the symptoms (which doesn't mean everyone has it) is that we tend to long for strife because our brains desperately crave the stimulation, which is true for me.

If I think a situation is a little too perfect or if I think that others expect me to mold into the status quo, I have a deep-seated desire to stir the pot.

Sometimes that can be good. And sometimes it just feels like I'm an antagonist. I sincerely do not want to provoke others, but sometimes I just feel I have no choice and it leaves me feeling both helpless and guilty.
Thank u for such a succinct observation about yourself. I couldn't have described this condition any better. I am all about stirring things up to stir my mind

i said yes, but i don't know that i'm so much a disturber of the peace as a questioner of authority and the status quo. i will never forget the first time a teacher, when asked why i had to do something, said "because i said so." pretty much from that moment on i've had nothing but contempt for unwarranted authority and i can demonstrate remarkably little concern for self preservation if i thin i'm fighting the good fight.

plus, i think dogma is the enemy of truth and justice, so, yeah...i guess i like to stir up the ****e.

i said yes, but i don't know that i'm so much a disturber of the peace as a questioner of authority and the status quo. i will never forget the first time a teacher, when asked why i had to do something, said "because i said so." pretty much from that moment on i've had nothing but contempt for unwarranted authority and i can demonstrate remarkably little concern for self preservation if i thin i'm fighting the good fight.

plus, i think dogma is the enemy of truth and justice, so, yeah...i guess i like to stir up the ****e.

This is not precisely what I wanted to say earlier, but it is not very far off from it.

it's all about what day you catch me, and what time of day....

I have never felt anything was too perfect, and then desired a conflict.

I tend to stir the pot when someone else is bugging me. I will stuff my frustrations for long periods of time. I know my tendency to react badly, so I stuff problems as long as I can. I hope it will go away, before I explode. I don't think that has ever worked.

I will stir the pot if I think I am being ignored. If a problem is bad enough for me to muster the courage to say something, it's probably a good idea to address it quickly.

Don't every presume to know how I will feel, react or what I will do. If I find out, I will dig my heels in just for the sake of proving you wrong.

I am working on it though. I did ask some coworkers to visit a little more quietly last week. They initially got defensive, but I think they are respecting the boundary....

i said yes, but i don't know that i'm so much a disturber of the peace as a questioner of authority and the status quo. i will never forget the first time a teacher, when asked why i had to do something, said "because i said so." pretty much from that moment on i've had nothing but contempt for unwarranted authority and i can demonstrate remarkably little concern for self preservation if i thin i'm fighting the good fight.

plus, i think dogma is the enemy of truth and justice, so, yeah...i guess i like to stir up the ****e.

I said no earlier...but this feels true for me too. I don't like blindly accepting authority as right without questioning. Never could listen to teachers well as a kid and it got me into a lot of trouble. :o
I have issues with any type of authority that uses their "important duty" as an excuse to be a jerk. That really irks me. Maybe I won't do anything on the outside but I'll have my firm stance on the truth of the moment.

I don't enjoy picking fights....but I am very much a rebel. Kind of a weird contradiction but there it is.

I remember feeling shocked by someone at work who was agreeing with the manager about someone else; I thought, "you people will just side with the most powerful person in the room; you don't even have to think about it!"

I remember feeling shocked by someone at work who was agreeing with the manager about someone else; I thought, "you people will just side with the most powerful person in the room; you don't even have to think about it!"

In general, people identify with power and don't really sympathize with those who lack it.

Before anyone says anything, obviously specifics vary.

I think the ADHD tendency of stimulation-seeking, particularly in the combined and hyperactive/impulsive types, often manifests any way it can: whether in challenging authority, stirring the pot, instigating, nitpicking, starting largely pointless arguments, etc. I think inattentive types would be less likely to be guilty of this behavior.

As Dr. Hallowell put it, ADHDers also tend to be "mavericks," likely as a result of the condition itself as well as the experiences we've been through that leave us rather isolated, with the impression that we're "fending for ourselves." In children, that tendency might manifest as ODD or its more severe cousin, CD. I definitely had elements of ODD as a kid, if not the disorder itself. It's quite common.

If challenging authority is a disorder, so much the better for disorders.

I guess i am but not intentionally. I speak after replaying it 200 times in my head but still say something that i immediately regret. And when i have no time to think, like an exam for example, i'm often amazed at how dumb i can be. Why do i even talk? And once i start, i just can't stop, unless people stop listening to me(oh sometimes i still keep talking). Luckily/or unluckily, i have friends who are very loud and just cut me in between and start with their own stuff. That's why i prefer writing on the internet. Ok, i should stop now.

As I understand it (and I probably don't), one of the symptoms (which doesn't mean everyone has it) is that we tend to long for strife because our brains desperately crave the stimulation, which is true for me.

If I think a situation is a little too perfect or if I think that others expect me to mold into the status quo, I have a deep-seated desire to stir the pot.

Sometimes that can be good. And sometimes it just feels like I'm an antagonist. I sincerely do not want to provoke others, but sometimes I just feel I have no choice and it leaves me feeling both helpless and guilty.

Same here. I don't think I do it intentionally, though lately I've been catching myself as I'm about to rock the boat and stop myself. Then the rest of the day can be boring for all, not just me.:)

not all the way sure what you mean...but when im bored and around my family i make fun of them a lot or look for a reaction out of them. but we all kind of do it..and we all have some addish traits. you should hear our dinner table conversations. we are a christian family and all but we break out some pretty funny poop jokes at the table...when guests come over they are usually pretty amused...

not all the way sure what you mean...but when im bored and around my family i make fun of them a lot or look for a reaction out of them. but we all kind of do it..and we all have some addish traits. you should hear our dinner table conversations. we are a christian family and all but we break out some pretty funny poop jokes at the table...when guests come over they are usually pretty amused...

I'm not sure what being Christian has to do with poop jokes.


There I go, stirring the pot... :p

not all the way sure what you mean...but when im bored and around my family i make fun of them a lot or look for a reaction out of them. but we all kind of do it..and we all have some addish traits. you should hear our dinner table conversations. we are a christian family and all but we break out some pretty funny poop jokes at the table...when guests come over they are usually pretty amused...

no relation or anything to religion. But we do it too. Its always me(and sometimes a cousin) cracking the poop jokes and everyone else is always laughing or my dad asking me to "stop it already", as if he doesn't enjoy them. Huh. My late grandpa used to tell me that its like I have a mouth full of ****, nothing else comes out of it. I'm sure they miss me at family gatherings when I'm not home, because no one else lights up the atmosphere like I do(i hope it doesn't sound like i'm boasting). And also for the other reason, i'm the one who is always involved in a fight or mood spoiling thing. So I guess I really am the peace disturber.
And i make fun of them all the time. And get in a lot of trouble for it too.

no relation or anything to religion. But we do it too. Its always me(and sometimes a cousin) cracking the poop jokes and everyone else is always laughing or my dad asking me to "stop it already", as if he doesn't enjoy them. Huh. My late grandpa used to tell me that its like I have a mouth full of ****, nothing else comes out of it. I'm sure they miss me at family gatherings when I'm not home, because no one else lights up the atmosphere like I do(i hope it doesn't sound like i'm boasting). And also for the other reason, i'm the one who is always involved in a fight or mood spoiling thing. So I guess I really am the peace disturber.
And i make fun of them all the time. And get in a lot of trouble for it too.

Are you really from India? I know they often teach English there, but you really come across like a native American (not an American Indian, either).

I watch a lot of American serials and movies. That could be a reason? Or maybe because i think in English? And you should look at me in real life. I never talk in English ,ever. Even when someone's talking to me in English i reply in Hindi. And when I do, its nothing like what I write. I fumble a lot. I'm at lack of proper words all the time. The only time i spoke very fluent english was once when i was drunk and high. But I've always been good at writing in English though. It was the most scoring subject for me in school.

I watch a lot of American serials and movies. That could be a reason? Or maybe because i think in English? And you should look at me in real life. I never talk in English ,ever. Even when someone's talking to me in English i reply in Hindi. And when I do, its nothing like what I write. I fumble a lot. I'm at lack of proper words all the time. The only time i spoke very fluent english was once when i was drunk and high. But I've always been good at writing in English though. It was the most scoring subject for me in school.

It's quite impressive. I can only wish I were that fluent in another language.

It's quite impressive. I can only wish I were that fluent in another language.

if only I could speak like that as well!

[quote=cantakeitnemore;983169]The only time i spoke very fluent english was once when i was drunk and high.quote]

i think one time i spoke hindi when i was drunk and high...just kidding but thats something ive thought of with ppl who are bilingual.

they can speak different languages, but what language do they think in...or do they think in more than one language.

ive taken language classes before and i dont think i could handle speaking and thinking in more than one language...

[quote=cantakeitnemore;983169]The only time i spoke very fluent english was once when i was drunk and high.quote]

i think one time i spoke hindi when i was drunk and high...just kidding but thats something ive thought of with ppl who are bilingual.

they can speak different languages, but what language do they think in...or do they think in more than one language.

ive taken language classes before and i dont think i could handle speaking and thinking in more than one language...

English is the official language of India.(we were under the British rule for 200years). If someone doesn't know how to speak in english(at all), they're usually illiterate(i'm not generalizing). So its not really a new language to me, i've learnt it ever since I started school, that's when I was 3.

It depends. Usually I am quiet as a mouse, completely absorbed in something and paying little attention to anyone. Other times I can be a bit loud and often say/do the wrong thing.