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Bottomimpulse
12-24-10, 11:11 AM
Having a driver's license for 8 years now, I have the experience of driving 15 miles. :)
I don't dare to drive. :eek:

While driving... my mind wanders. I am thinking about everything except about the brakes and the wheel, the driving.
This frightens me.

I don't want to be responsible for causing an accident, so I don't drive.

ADHDTigger
12-24-10, 11:33 AM
When my husband was alive, he drove everywhere. I was quite happy to be the passenger. I took that over around a month or so before he died.

I'm the only driver in my house now. That said, I have to admit that I have given thought to teaching my calico cat how to drive. Problem is, she'd need to take frequent nap breaks.

BouCoupDinkyDau
12-24-10, 11:41 AM
I am the driver and my wife is the navigator. My driving is good, but knowing where to go and how to get there is another thing entirely!

While driving... my mind wanders. I am thinking about everything except about the brakes and the wheel, the driving.
This frightens me.

I don't want to be responsible for causing an accident, so I don't drive.

That's extremely responsible of you. Thank you for watching out for the health and safety of others. I wish everyone on this planet was that responsible and selfless.

I'm the only driver in my house now. That said, I have to admit that I have given thought to teaching my calico cat how to drive. Problem is, she'd need to take frequent nap breaks.

Too funny! LOL

AnnaCate007
12-24-10, 01:20 PM
I HATE driving. I'm a daydreamer to the max. I frequently make it to my destination with 0 recollection of how i got there. Scares the living daylights outta me.

If someone else is capable of driving i always let them. I think my boyfriend and my brother have driven my car more miles than I have!

notsoplainJane
12-24-10, 03:09 PM
I drive and am almost the only one in my family who will drive in severe snowstorms and in rush-hour traffic in large metropolitan areas. Oddly enough, this is where my ADD doesn't really affect me, or maybe it affects me positively, I don't know.

Sometimes I get a little impatient with slower drivers, but I'm not really a speedster. I wish more people -- who are uncomfortable with driving -- would not drive.

Lunacie
12-24-10, 04:15 PM
I have driven in snow - and ice. Not my favorite thing to do, but am pretty safe. Have also driven safely in fog. The main thing is to just slow down.

Heavy traffic - no thanks. I do my best to avoid it.

I took driver's ed the year I was 14, but didn't go and get my license until I was 18. That's over 40 years ago. There have been a few tickets over the years and few crashes. Perhaps if I'd been more attentive or less impulsive I could have avoided them; in a couple the other driver was speeding and in one the driver was stopped with no brake lights showing.

I find I don't zone out and wake up when I get to the destination as often these days as in the past, I attribute that the supplements I take now, mostly to the fish oil.

mizunosport
12-24-10, 04:24 PM
Yes, I love driving. However, my driving record shows that I drive too fast and that I probably could focus more on the dude in front of me :)

mADD mike
12-24-10, 04:48 PM
I've been driving since I was 16, and I'm 33 now. I've driven more than most people for my businesses, at times hundreds of miles per day, and I've never had an accident nor have I had but one ticket, and that was when I was 17. I'm an excellent driver, and I love driving (aside from those I have to drive around).

I think the difference in outcomes could be the difference in our types of ADD. I'm overfocused, so when I drive I have a heightened sense of what I'm doing, what others around me are doing, where everyone is, etc. I usually know where all of the other cars around me are in relation to me so that if I need to, I can make a move. I've narrowly escaped MANY wrecks that were almost caused by others not paying attention while trying to drive and apply makeup, talk on the phone, text (grrrrrr......:mad:), etc.

Oh, and I'm a rather aggressive driver as well. I don't wait around for others to make my decisions for me or to let me merge on the highway, etc. I see where I want/need to be and I make the needed adjustments to get there, typically thinking one or two steps ahead.

AbsentMindProf
12-24-10, 08:47 PM
In terms of safety, I seem to do ok driving. However...

You know how, when you were a kid riding with your parents on the highway and you were always laughing at some middle aged guy in the car in front of you because his turn signal had been on for the last 30 miles?

I'm that guy. :o

Lunacie
12-24-10, 09:09 PM
In terms of safety, I seem to do ok driving. However...

You know how, when you were a kid riding with your parents on the highway and you were always laughing at some middle aged guy in the car in front of you because his turn signal had been on for the last 30 miles?

I'm that guy. :o

Me too. The last two cars I've driven had a chime that sounded when the turn signal didn't get turned off - of course it didn't switch on till at least a couple miles down the road. I really don't know how long I've driven before I realized that strange sound wasn't part of the song I was listening to on the radio. :rolleyes:

tipoo
12-24-10, 11:14 PM
I've been of legal driving age for nearly 4 years now, but I've just never gotten around to getting my beginners/even opening the driving book :o


My friend keep asking me when I'll get my license, but hey, buses and bikes save the planet, right?

danelady
12-25-10, 12:38 AM
I've taught myself to turn the radio off and get superfocused when I get in a congested area and I'm behind the wheel. But today I realized I was gonna get to go visiting and my mind wandered and before I knew it I blew past my exit and wound up having to take the scenic route through Ventura CA in an 18 wheeler...not fun.

Imnapl
12-25-10, 02:32 AM
My husband is visually impaired and married me because I could drive anywhere and in any road conditions. I drove many years without medication and now know it's a lot easier with medication. I have never been in an accident and have had only two speeding tickets.

On the other hand, I wasn't in a hurry to get my driver's license and didn't take my test until I was seventeen. I didn't drive much until my mid twenties because I lived in an urban area with public transit. Having to take a baby to daycare on the way to work changed all that. It was a treat when my kids were old enough to drive and I could be a passenger instead.

My idea of a good time is a VW Jetta Turbo Diesel, a stick shift, and driving though the mountains.

StoicNate
12-25-10, 03:34 AM
I love driving my car.
It's relaxing for me, especially when I play songs that I'm in the mood for.

I'm a very good driver and have a clean driving record.

nova1111
12-25-10, 05:45 AM
Ive gotten in a few very close calls where I was not paying attention and looked back to see brake lights. Once I slammed on my brakes got my car sideways so I was perpendicular to the lanes of traffic and stopped within inches of the car in front of me. I could have reached out my window and touched the back of their car.. I got better over the years though but Ive had a total of 9 tickets in CA and 6 in TX. Some times I was speeding because I wanted to get somewhere sometime I just didnt realize how fast I was going because I wasnt paying attention to my speed. Never been in any accidents though. My radio stopped working recently and I noticed that my attention is wandering more often now. I scan back and forth between signs and people and other cars and the road all the time.

tudorose
12-25-10, 08:20 AM
I much prefer to ride my bike as people don't take enough care or drive with the value of life in mind.

peripatetic
12-25-10, 08:33 AM
nope. not anymore and likely never again. wise move to recognize in yourself a need for boundaries and i commend you for adhering to them.

425runner
12-25-10, 10:02 AM
I live in CA and yes, I drive the car. You would have to if you lived here. That being said, I've had my share of tickets....I get very distracted when driving on the freeways so I take the back roads to work, and avoid any driving when possible.

Lunacie
12-25-10, 11:02 AM
Same thing in Kansas. When I lived in the small town I grew up in, I could easily ride my bicycle anywhere, the whole town was about a mile square. But eventually I wanted to be able to go other places, and by the time I had my baby I needed to be able to drive. We had moved to a bigger town, about three square miles, but I still put the baby in the stroller and walked most places unless the snow and ice made it too difficult.

Over the years the damage I did to my knee at age 19 has gotten more incapicating and I would be nearly housebound if not for driving the car.

K-Funk
12-27-10, 12:55 AM
I'm a horrible driver. Or rather, I was a horrible driver but having to drive a minimum of 80 miles a day (much more on the weekends) for the last 12 years or so has made me into a moderately not so horrible driver. I speed, I have road rage, I don't pay attention and I used to have panic attacks in unfamiliar or congested traffic, I get lost and turned around all the time. I also struggle with staying awake while I drive.

I completely totalled my car twice when I was in my early 20s and had my share of speeding tickets. Having to commute in rush hour 40 miles each way twice a day has definately definately improved my driving skills but it took a LONG time to make that improvement. All my friends used to tell me that was how I was gonna die (in a car wreck) and everyone in my family jokes about my poor driving.

Still I am the primary driver and I think I've gotten to the point where I'm "ok" and can handle myself decently on the road...

Fortune
12-27-10, 02:06 AM
I don't drive and I've never had a license.

meadd823
12-27-10, 06:05 AM
I love driving my car.
It's relaxing for me, especially when I play songs that I'm in the mood for.

I'm a very good driver and have a clean driving record.

Ditto - I am not a perfect driver I have been pulled over for going to fast a couple of times. I have simply been fortunate enough to get tickets just far enough a part enough to be able to get the tickets dismissed - twice by defensive driving once the city let me do some thing call referred adjudication for $100.00 extra plus the cost of the ticket but it was a lot better than having my insurance go up for the next year or two


Yes I drive the car - I have been driving my mom and Gary all over San Antonio sense Friday afternoon and I get to drive back home tomorrow - There is no such thing as public transportation in BFE Texas so one learns to drive or it is shoe leather express - with the nearest grocery store being 12 miles {19 Km} away.

sarek
12-27-10, 06:14 AM
I do a lot of driving around and I rather like it. Of course, all the typical ADD quirks are part of my driving style. I am liberal with the rules, tend to drive way too fast. Had a few accidents too, but the majority of those mostly due to the other side messing up.

Despite my need for speed I do actually drive extremely defensively. Situational awareness is my creed. I leave very large gaps between me and the car in front. I always match my speed to the surrounding and if (like in a city) the number of impulses coming at me increases I slow down a lot. I never speed in cities or other busy areas.
I drive in all sorts of conditions including snow and fog. If you drive around in my country you have to be ready for that kind of thing.

danelady
12-27-10, 07:22 AM
I'm a horrible driver. Or rather, I was a horrible driver but having to drive a minimum of 80 miles a day (much more on the weekends) for the last 12 years or so has made me into a moderately not so horrible driver. I speed, I have road rage, I don't pay attention and I used to have panic attacks in unfamiliar or congested traffic, I get lost and turned around all the time. I also struggle with staying awake while I drive.


Thanks for the warning!:D

danelady
12-27-10, 07:24 AM
Yes I drive the car - I have been driving my mom and Gary all over San Antonio sense Friday afternoon and I get to drive back home tomorrow - There is no such thing as public transportation in BFE Texas so one learns to drive or it is shoe leather express - with the nearest grocery store being 12 miles {19 Km} away.

Ahh..another Texan!

Pamplemousse
12-27-10, 09:13 AM
Yep, I drive. Have a license and a car. Mainly because I have a job and need a way to get there on time. :p

But also I have a good 20 minute drive to my school every morning (since I go to a school outside my district)

But I do catch myself drifting off sometimes. I try and force myself to focus while driving because I'm scared of getting into an accident. My mom's cousin died in a car accident.

But another reason I needed to make myself learn to drive is that I'm going to college in August. Depending on where I go it's a 2.5 - 3.5 hour drive. I don't want to make my parents drive me there and come get me every time I want to come home or go back again. Also, I would need the car to go fetch groceries and what not.

K-Funk
12-27-10, 10:21 AM
Thanks for the warning!:D

lol, but for all of that I actually think I do OK! The way I drive is a little risky during rush hour (I want to go my speed and don't like slow cars getting in my way) but I haven't had a crash in years. I think my skill has improved enough to catch up with my impulsivity when driving somewhat. I "think" really really quickly when driving, which helps when I'm trying to squeeze in between a couple of semi-trucks to get to a clear lane on the far side of a four lane highway while planning to pass the pick up truck 3 cars ahead on the left to get back in the fast lane. Some of the maneuvers I make can leave my heart pounding though. On the other hand, I can miss exits from not paying attention.

It's kind of a weird mix of impulsivity, extreme attention coupled with inattention. As far as falling asleep, I've struggled with it, but never ACTUALLY fallen asleep. :o

And believe it or not...I ENJOY driving!! As long as I have a GPS or someone to navigate I actually like being behind the wheel. I like being on the move, getting from one place to another and listening to music. I don't know...it's hard to explain, but I think I'm both a crappy driver and a good driver at the same time :p

bof00
12-27-10, 11:32 AM
I drive a lot. It's like I'm on autopilot though, daydream and drive. I don't cause accidents but I do miss a lot of turns - now I've got a GPS so it tells me. A couple times I zoned out so much I didn't hear or notice the GPS telling me to turn, but it usually works.

zannie
12-27-10, 11:48 AM
I don't drive and I never got beyond a learner's permit. :)

stef
12-27-10, 01:15 PM
yikes - average driver when focused (in heavy traffic, etc); otherwise I tend to daydream way too much.
I haven't driven since 1990! forgot to renew my license when i expired.

FluffyBeast
12-27-10, 01:25 PM
I don't drive a car, and hope I don't have to in the foreseable future. Could be okay if it was on a nearly deserted road somwhere. But in trafic I'd either crash or go crazy.

I prefer walking or cycling, that way I can do it the way I want in the speed I want, without it ending in disaster.

bof00
12-27-10, 01:46 PM
I'm definitely better with a lot of traffic than with little traffic. With a lot of traffic I'm alert and quick and with little traffic my mind wanders all over and am much slower to respond. Anyone else that way?

K-Funk
12-27-10, 01:59 PM
I'm definitely better with a lot of traffic than with little traffic. With a lot of traffic I'm alert and quick and with little traffic my mind wanders all over and am much slower to respond. Anyone else that way?

Yes, I'm totally this way! Except I do tend to get "road rage" in traffic...

lunaslobo
12-27-10, 02:23 PM
I have to drive those big white vans for our special needs adults at work. I have probably the most vender benders of all of us at work and all except for the one that was not my faullt happened when i was backing up. now i really and carefull when backing and make sure that nothing is behind me or where i am backing to.

buddy
12-27-10, 02:34 PM
I have had my license for many years now but I haven't driven the car for over 5yrs.
I get too nervous & get too easily distracted so I gave up driving the car.,
buddy

Vinda-lou
02-23-11, 09:02 AM
I have driving issues too. I am so impatient in or out of traffic. I can't drive slowly and get angry when people follow the speed limit. I try my best not to tailgate, and even when I force myself not to, I weave all around highways and other roads.

My wife and I are both teachers, and my two children drive on the highway with us to school. I am at the point where my wife drives both there and back every time we drive together as I just get too uptight driving. And even still, as the passenger, I get so angry when my wife drives normally. I bite my tongue to not tell her to switch lanes, or pass that jerk in front of us!

I'm like Mr. T on the A Team - I need to be knocked out to go in a car, not an airplane. I also hate long car rides - I have no patience for them. I mostly stay home than even going out for errands - that's how much I get uptight about driving. I can't even go up the street for milk.

buggie
02-23-11, 12:00 PM
I don't drive much because I live in the city, but when I go somewhere on a driving trip I always prefer to be the driver. I get too bored as a passenger, and I get a little car sick if I'm not driving!

The thing is, everyone's mind wanders when driving, even people without ADD. After you do it a lot it becomes more like muscle memory.

buggie
02-23-11, 12:03 PM
I have driving issues too. I am so impatient in or out of traffic. I can't drive slowly and get angry when people follow the speed limit. I try my best not to tailgate, and even when I force myself not to, I weave all around highways and other roads.


I usually feel the same way, which is why I've chosen to never live in autocentric areas! Living someone where you can walk or bike or even take public transportation is sooo much less frustrating. Everyone always says I drive too close to the car in front of me, but I usually can't help it! Lately I think I've been driving too slowly because I'm afraid of getting speeding ticket.

SB_UK
02-23-11, 12:23 PM
Don't drive any more - exactly the same as described by many people above - daydream/zone out too much of the time.

Twiggy
02-23-11, 12:41 PM
I drive my car all the time and never had any accidents or tickets.
I've been driving for about 4.5 years already.
I love driving and feel safe when I drive.

Surly Dave
02-23-11, 01:34 PM
My driving a car used to be scary for all involved: Passengers, pedestrians, bicyclists, other motorist... I was aggressive, obnoxious, raging and vengeful. Much to my shame, there are a couple people out there who hit the ditch because of me.

Driving motorcycles was totally different. I was much more defensive, respectful and careful, though give me a long, flat stretch of highway or winding mountain roads free of traffic and I couldn't resist the urge to, "blow out the carbon".

A few years ago, I had a job that had me driving all over the Minneapolis/St. Paul metro area and I had to learn to relax. Otherwise I was going to blow a blood vessel or end up in jail. My driving improved significantly, as did my peace of mind.

Since starting meds a few months ago, I've noticed an even more marked improvement. This last week my family and I drove to Lincoln, Nebraska, about 440 miles (880 round trip) and my wife constantly remarked on how well I handled traffic, bad roads, bad drivers, and the sheer boredom that is known as Iowa. (Seriously boring: I dislocated my jaw yawning my way through there a few years ago.) Just another reason why I'm happy with Adderall.

I'm looking forward to getting on the motorcycle this spring. The last few years the ADD effected me to the point where I didn't even have the motivation to pull it out of the garage, but I think things will be different this year.

HighFunctioning
02-23-11, 09:32 PM
I have yet to crash into any other cars or human pedestrians. I've had quite a few encounters with the local wildlife, however. The assortment includes 6 deer (I will admit though, one of these deer hit me, not the other way around), 2 turkeys, and 3 road closed signs. I also have this mysterious attraction to ditches in the winter, though only 1 of these cases was serious.

My driving record is fairly clean, with 1 moving violation and 1 single car accident. Given the amount of driving that I do, 300 (usually) - 900 (rarely) miles per week, I don't think this is too bad. I've had countless close calls, however.

cuddlezarro
02-23-11, 09:49 PM
I dont drive (which sucks where I live since theres no public transportation where I live) but thats because im too scared to drive...and every time I try to force myself to read the drivers manual so i can learn I get distracted =/

Triptych
02-23-11, 10:12 PM
I drive. I feel safer as the driver than as the passenger, but then I've been in two serious accidents as the passenger.

I hyperfocus and drive defensively. Downtown, everybody is travelling in their own cloud of happy oblivion. At least eight times tonight, my hyperfocusing saved some idiot from an accident. People who don't believe in checking their blind spots or signalling, who swerve out in front of me, speed along a busy street and then SLAM on the brakes in the middle of an intersection for no reason... that's my city. Highways are just boring, but downtown, everybody is invulnerable.

Last summer I ended up in court after rear-ending an idiot who slammed on the brakes in the middle of the highway. I don't normally think of people as idiots, but I'm still recovering from the cortisol spike after tonight's trip through the industrial sector and the city core. And this was on medication. I was calm.

I cringe when a pedestrian or an animal crosses the street in front of me, because I know the guy behind me is talking on the phone and he doesn't see the pedestrian, the same way he isn't paying attention to me. So when I slow down, he'll miss me by two inches and start hitting the horn furiously.

On the other hand, driving is fun when nobody else is around.

ReedtheStrange
02-23-11, 10:34 PM
You can still drive. Just be cautious and keep your distance from everyone on the road.

HighFunctioning
02-23-11, 11:15 PM
In Soviet Russia, the car drives you!

Sorry, I couldn't resist. :-)

ReedtheStrange
02-23-11, 11:25 PM
I drive a damn near tank.

anotherday
02-24-11, 01:07 AM
In Soviet Russia, the car drives you!

Sorry, I couldn't resist. :-)
sounds bad.

hoolio
02-24-11, 04:47 AM
I drive all the time. I hate being a passenger! I get too bored just sitting there with nothing to do.

I am a fairly good driver but admit I do have a lead foot. I do find tho that when I speed I am much more focused on my driving. If I am just putting along my mind tends to wander. Since speeding tickets get expensive I have found that music helps. I blare the stereo and that seems to help keep my mind on the road.

If I am upset/scattered/overwhelmed I find going for a drive with tunes blasting forces me to focus and can actually really help me to calm down and think straight. Of course sometimes I am "too upset" to drive and in that case won't do it!

Flutterbudget
02-24-11, 05:59 PM
I was late getting my license...didn't learn to drive til 18, mostly because being taught by my ADHD dad was a frightening experience :D but once I started driving I loved it.

In fact, I often used to take loooooong drives out on country roads as a way of relaxing/focusing myself. Whenever I was overwhelmed by life, I'd hop in my car and just driiiiiiiiive....

I'm a pretty good driver. I was in a wreck when I was 21 but that was the one and only time (and yes, it was my fault -- I was driving way too fast on a curvy, slippery, dark road). I do drive way too fast, though. When I drive slow, my mind wanders more.

I try not to drive much these days, but that's more because of pollution, global warming and high gas prices. So I ride my bike instead and I totally hyperfocus on that now. I even dream about my bike at night....

hoolio
02-24-11, 06:39 PM
I was late getting my license...didn't learn to drive til 18, mostly because being taught by my ADHD dad was a frightening experience :D but once I started driving I loved it.

In fact, I often used to take loooooong drives out on country roads as a way of relaxing/focusing myself. Whenever I was overwhelmed by life, I'd hop in my car and just driiiiiiiiive....

I'm a pretty good driver. I was in a wreck when I was 21 but that was the one and only time (and yes, it was my fault -- I was driving way too fast on a curvy, slippery, dark road). I do drive way too fast, though. When I drive slow, my mind wanders more.

I try not to drive much these days, but that's more because of pollution, global warming and high gas prices. So I ride my bike instead and I totally hyperfocus on that now. I even dream about my bike at night....

Sounds exactly like me. I never thought anything of it until recently (I was only given the diagnosis of "high likelihood" of ADD about a month or so ago).

It is interesting to find so many things that others have in common.

buddy
02-24-11, 07:54 PM
I don't mind driving the car as long as I am driving the back roads near my home.Those roads are very rural & some are dirt roads.I will not drive into the larger towns as I get too nervous.

Triptych
02-25-11, 12:32 AM
You can still drive. Just be cautious and keep your distance from everyone on the road.

I thought this was directed at me, not at the guy who posted before me. I was gonna say...

pandapup
02-25-11, 12:56 AM
Unfortunately I cant drive. Im 19 and still trying to get my N which is equivalent to being able to drive alone where I live. I can't drive unless I am not nervous. I get overly stressed and nervous about everything. I failed my last road test about 10 sec after leaving the parking lot because I did an incredibly idiot thing because I wasn't thinking... I have given up on getting it for now :)

NorCalAndy8
02-25-11, 01:45 AM
yeah, I drive...sometimes I feel like I don't drive enough. I'm not sure if that makes any sense. Although, there have been instances where I just wanted keep my foot on the gas and keep on driving without any particular destination. I get so thrilled. But I can't afford to do that since gas prices just went up to 3.70 over here.

I'm thinking about getting a high-flow exhaust system for my car so I can hear the beautiful revving from my car.

For those of you that drive, how many of you would prefer to drive a car with a manual transmission?

I like driving cars with manual transmission. It makes me feel like I have more control of the car.

ReedtheStrange
02-26-11, 12:23 AM
Yes, I live miles away from everywhere that I need to be, so I have to.

hoolio
02-26-11, 05:33 AM
yeah, I drive...sometimes I feel like I don't drive enough. I'm not sure if that makes any sense. Although, there have been instances where I just wanted keep my foot on the gas and keep on driving without any particular destination. I get so thrilled. But I can't afford to do that since gas prices just went up to 3.70 over here.

I'm thinking about getting a high-flow exhaust system for my car so I can hear the beautiful revving from my car.

For those of you that drive, how many of you would prefer to drive a car with a manual transmission?

I like driving cars with manual transmission. It makes me feel like I have more control of the car.

My last vehicle was a manual transmission. I have an automatic again now and although sometimes it is nice in heavy traffic, I miss driving standard. Also found it helped keep me more focused driving as it gave me something to do constantly.

Offle
02-28-11, 10:42 PM
If I do drive I have to have a passenger with me telling me to do everything and to pay attention. For the most part my family won't let me drive because it's just easier for me to be the passenger. I hate driving anyway. Everybody is always so rude and in such a hurry, and I like watching the scenery pass by which I'm not supposed to do while driving.

Since I'm in college I don't need a car. Every where i need to go is within five miles of me. Not to mention the city has excellent public transportation, all of which is free to university students.