pmcolby
08-13-04, 03:54 PM
Hi everyone!
I have been searching for a long time for a support forum for partners of people with ADD. There isn't much out there for us.... I don't want to whine or bash... I want to support!
Let me tell you a little about myself. I'm 45 years old, have 4 kids (all grown up!) two step kids (half time) and I'm soon to be a grandmother to a baby girl!
I believe that I have ADD...I believe I've had it since I was a child but no one ever heard of it so I was labled "lazy or a day dreamer." When I was 32 I got a job as a Special Ed Aide working with a third grader and moved up to seventh grade with her. I believe today that's where I learned how to cope with this. The very things that I was trying to teach my student...I was learning myself, four years of learning copeing skills has been such a gift! The last two jobs I've had were office jobs that demanded organizational skills so they were perfect for me. I have been lucky enough to have this summer off and boy can I tell you that my ADD is out of control!! Thank goodness I'm back to a teacher aide position on the 24th.
Here's my problem...my husband was diagnosed (after 2 yrs of counceling) with ADD about a year ago. He took Stratara for a while and I saw a HUGE change in him. I could tell you the day he went off of it. He was having sexual side effects from it so he stopped. I hold no resentment against him for that but the fact that he will not address the problem is driving me crazy. I am labled as the bi#$@, nag, control freak etc. I'm the one here,I'm the one that reads the books. He won't talk to me about it because he doesn't think that there's anything wrong. Other people think I'm crazy he's just "stressed" they say. I don't mind pulling up the slack around the house but it's the big things that get to me...him being aware...or talking to me ...or remembering that I asked for a "date." It would be so nice if I didn't have to remind him all the time. I know that he'll get a thought in his head about taking me somewhere or telling me something but it never makes it out of his brain.
I'm not sure how long I can hold on if he doesn't adress this with me. I am a loving,caring, understanding person that really wants to help this person that I love, but I can only help him not do it for him.
Thanks for letting me "vent" I know this was long!
Paula
I have been searching for a long time for a support forum for partners of people with ADD. There isn't much out there for us.... I don't want to whine or bash... I want to support!
Let me tell you a little about myself. I'm 45 years old, have 4 kids (all grown up!) two step kids (half time) and I'm soon to be a grandmother to a baby girl!
I believe that I have ADD...I believe I've had it since I was a child but no one ever heard of it so I was labled "lazy or a day dreamer." When I was 32 I got a job as a Special Ed Aide working with a third grader and moved up to seventh grade with her. I believe today that's where I learned how to cope with this. The very things that I was trying to teach my student...I was learning myself, four years of learning copeing skills has been such a gift! The last two jobs I've had were office jobs that demanded organizational skills so they were perfect for me. I have been lucky enough to have this summer off and boy can I tell you that my ADD is out of control!! Thank goodness I'm back to a teacher aide position on the 24th.
Here's my problem...my husband was diagnosed (after 2 yrs of counceling) with ADD about a year ago. He took Stratara for a while and I saw a HUGE change in him. I could tell you the day he went off of it. He was having sexual side effects from it so he stopped. I hold no resentment against him for that but the fact that he will not address the problem is driving me crazy. I am labled as the bi#$@, nag, control freak etc. I'm the one here,I'm the one that reads the books. He won't talk to me about it because he doesn't think that there's anything wrong. Other people think I'm crazy he's just "stressed" they say. I don't mind pulling up the slack around the house but it's the big things that get to me...him being aware...or talking to me ...or remembering that I asked for a "date." It would be so nice if I didn't have to remind him all the time. I know that he'll get a thought in his head about taking me somewhere or telling me something but it never makes it out of his brain.
I'm not sure how long I can hold on if he doesn't adress this with me. I am a loving,caring, understanding person that really wants to help this person that I love, but I can only help him not do it for him.
Thanks for letting me "vent" I know this was long!
Paula