Get Real
Posted 02-19-09 at 02:35 PM by RedHairedWitch
(for a friend)
Accept the fact that he is not you
Accept the fact that he is not “normal”
Accept the fact that he will never meet your expectations
Accept the fact that your expectations are unrealistic
Accept the fact that you should have gotten to know him better before you committed your life to him
Accept the fact that the problem is half you and not all him
Accept the fact no one leads a perfect life
Accept the fact that there are dirty socks on the floor
Accept the fact that he really is trying his best
Accept the fact that his best may not be good enough for (see your expectations)
Accept the fact that ADHD is part of your life
Be grateful he doesn’t beat you or cheat on you
Be grateful he has stuck by you all this time
Be grateful that he is trying his best
Be grateful that he loves you more than life
Be grateful he doesn’t complain about you the way you complain about him
Be grateful he doesn’t resent you for trying to force him to be “normal”
Be grateful he hasn’t burned out from years of trying to meet your expectations
Be grateful he hasn’t walked on you and the kids
Be grateful he puts up with your constant nagging
Be grateful he works a hard, dirty, nasty job for you and the kids
Be grateful its only dirty socks on the floor
Be grateful its only ADHD and not something worse
Now…
Get real
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Accept the fact that he is not you
Accept the fact that he is not “normal”
Accept the fact that he will never meet your expectations
Accept the fact that your expectations are unrealistic
Accept the fact that you should have gotten to know him better before you committed your life to him
Accept the fact that the problem is half you and not all him
Accept the fact no one leads a perfect life
Accept the fact that there are dirty socks on the floor
Accept the fact that he really is trying his best
Accept the fact that his best may not be good enough for (see your expectations)
Accept the fact that ADHD is part of your life
Be grateful he doesn’t beat you or cheat on you
Be grateful he has stuck by you all this time
Be grateful that he is trying his best
Be grateful that he loves you more than life
Be grateful he doesn’t complain about you the way you complain about him
Be grateful he doesn’t resent you for trying to force him to be “normal”
Be grateful he hasn’t burned out from years of trying to meet your expectations
Be grateful he hasn’t walked on you and the kids
Be grateful he puts up with your constant nagging
Be grateful he works a hard, dirty, nasty job for you and the kids
Be grateful its only dirty socks on the floor
Be grateful its only ADHD and not something worse
Now…
Get real
Tags: acceptance, life, love, marriage, reality
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I have very few, next to none, NTers in my life (real life) and the more I read this forum especially the non-ADD partner and the parenting sections, the more I talk to friends who have a NTer in their life causing them grief for not being normal, the more I am glad I have avoided any close relationships with the "normals"
I think NT doesn't do it justice. How about "perfectionist judgemental martyrs". Yes that works. PJMsPosted 02-19-09 at 03:01 PM by RedHairedWitch 
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I like this A LOT. In college I realized something about myself; I have always found a reason to want to break up with my boyfriends. I do this to friends too, though. It's like, I pull them towards me and push them away when there flaws become apparent to others. Embarassingly, I find the people I connect with are people who aren't completely accepted by society and the people I would like to have a relationship with (social, fun, positive people) cant be what I need emotionally. Why do I do this to the people who adore me, though? It's got to be my ADHD... and then some... Luckily I am good at hiding this problem from the people i'm in a relationship with. Acknowledging this realization while I have these thoughts of breaking up is helping with my current relationship. I just wish I wouldn't go through these spells every day. It's a new relationship, hope it gets better. The good is way better than the bad though.
Posted 02-23-11 at 02:07 PM by tired1823
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