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ADD Forums - Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Support and Information Resources Community - Careers/Job Impact http://www.addforums.com/forums This forum is for adults to discuss how AD/HD affects work and career. en Mon, 21 Jan 2019 12:59:40 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.addforums.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg ADD Forums - Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Support and Information Resources Community - Careers/Job Impact http://www.addforums.com/forums What to look for in a business partner http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=194345&goto=newpost Mon, 21 Jan 2019 01:38:54 GMT Hi guys,

I got a brilliant idea to crowdsource your collective knowledge.

The problem I've been recently facing is that, after several years of reevaluating my life, I feel that I finally have a clear view on what and how to do for my dreams to come true.

OK, that is not the problem yet :)

The real problem is, I cannot do it alone and I need to carfully choose partners.

And here's the challenge: I have no idea where to start.
I feel like a restarted android with no data.

When I think about the way I evaluate people, it seems I subconsciously ask myself whether they could be a good friend of mine. That's all what it comes down to.
But that might be a total miss in this case.

What if I need partners whom I would hate in a private, nonbusiness setting?

What to look for in people you need to work hard with (and you have no whip on them like a contract you pay for or authority) ? Is there any magical formula for this ? Any quick quizz to apply ?

Don't tell me there is not, the intrnet is full of advice on how to find a romantic partner, isn't that even more trouble ?:D

TL;DR:

What 3 personal characteristics would you seek in a business partner ? (----- now that you know you have ADD with all its +s and -s ) ]]>
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Struggle with applying for jobs http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=194331&goto=newpost Thu, 17 Jan 2019 22:01:20 GMT I struggle with applying for jobs and it's getting worse. Because my work history is all of the place- teaching, non-profits and nursing, I do a custom cover letter for every job. I have to try and tie everything up for HR or whoever reads them.

I have low confidence in my writing skills so it takes me a long time and I've rewritten the whole thing when it's all said and done.

I'm still applying to jobs on the edges of healthcare/nursing, in places where I think I could be successful but honestly applying for anything in that field gives me such anxiety and I so lack confidence in myself during the writing the cover letter, it's excruciating.

It's about also my pattern of what happens when I get a new job. I don't want to go through the same scenario again in a new setting with new people. I look good on paper, interview well and I'm in my late 40's so I've been in the workforce for years and years so that sets the expectations. It often does not help me in the end that I am friendly and basically outgoing

The pattern:

I get the job and do well in the beginning and then at some point, still in the early phase, things start to go downhill. I get terribly embarrassed, self-esteem tanks, become so self-conscience in front of my manager(s) as I know they are thinking/saying WTF happened with her and I've made more work for them so I try to dodge them whenever possible. If my co-workers are effected I just want to quit and feel beyond terrible. If it doesn't effect them but they start treating me differently and/or talking about me, the self condemnation is very bad. Yet at the same time, I am mad at them (all hidden, of course) as I am thinking, why are you treating me differently/poorly? This doesn't effect you at all. Do you think that what is wrong with me is catching?

I can't even fathom treating people differently/poorly based on performance. When I see other people like me or when something not good is going on, I am nicer and make a point to treat them better.

Well, I better get back to struggling with my cover letter. Thank you for listening. ]]>
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Not sure how to move forward with career http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=194261&goto=newpost Sat, 05 Jan 2019 19:09:52 GMT * Landscaping ... high school / college > outcome: very good , made a lot of money for my age :) *2>* Retail sports store ... during college > outcome: fired :mad: for insubordination *3>* Public accountant ... two...]]> I'm a 43 year old male. Below is an over-detailed timeline of my career:

1> Landscaping ... high school / college > outcome: very good , made a lot of money for my age :)
2> Retail sports store ... during college > outcome: fired :mad: for insubordination
3> Public accountant ... two years post college > outcome: poor performance reviews :mad:, disliked job, quit to pursue finance career
4> Small investment bank ... 2.5 years > outcome: rocky start then hit my stride and really enjoyed for ~1.5 years :) ... feel apart though and got fired :mad: along with two other co-workers (during rough patch in economy / firing was partially my fault and partially due to the economy, enough to claim laid off) - developed good mentor relationship
5 > 9 months of unemployment -- had to move back home :mad:
6 > Turnaround consultant at national consulting firm (brought to firm by mentor from last firm) ... 2.5 years > outcome: terrible first year (poor performance review and very close to fired :mad:), switched groups and had a good second year :), last 6 months were a disaster again :mad: / worked under person who could not stand me ... applied to grad school during last 6 months and got into a handful of great schools
7 > Full-time grad school ~1.5 years (went dead broke by end of school but had best time of my life) :)
>> DIAGONOSED FOR ADHD during next position, began taking Strattera + monthly therapy (still do both 10 years later) <<
8 > Prestigious investment bank on Wall Street ... 6 years> outcome: decent first 3 months :) then a disastrous 18 months (nearly fired again :mad:) then a turnaround and acceptable performance for next 1.5 years, rough 5th year with really bad performance review :mad: and closed out 6th year on a high note (obviously lots of ups and downs in this job + managed to accumulate some savings)
9 > Hedge fund position 1 ... 2.5 years > good start :) (first 6 months), rocky 2nd year and acceptable finish (PM retired and I was transferred to portfolio manager role in different fund at same firm)
10 > Hedge fund position 2 ... 9 months > mixed start and decent finish :) (very independent role, little oversight ... only 2 down months out of 8) -- firm liquidated due to an insider trading issue unrelated to me in any way -- unemployed briefly for a few weeks before getting a call for next position
11 > Hedge fund position 3 ... 2 years > brought over last minute to join group of portfolio managers and top executives from last fund to prestigious mutual fund to begin a new hedge fund unit > terrible first 6 months :mad: (head of group established his dislike for me very quickly and let it be known that I had a lot of proving of myself to do / had little interaction with person at last firm but enough for him to establish an opinion about me ... good next 12 months - had very strong performance in 2017 and was in the upper 20% of the PM's :) (was told throughout year I was doing poorly, was behind and in year-end review that I disappointed ... confused by this, but anyway) ... investing performance feel apart during final 6 months and was suddenly fired in Aug. 2018 :mad: - third PM to be fired (common in this type of hedge fund) but first of the original group to be let go ... abrupt firing, no real warning but never established a good relationship with head people - director of research never could stand me (really messes with my head)
12 > unemployed / job searching 3 months :mad:
13 > project work for large company I used to cover as an investor ... 2 months > outcome: suddenly fired during holiday season :mad: (not much reason provided but I have a feeling it was because I didn't check-in during XMas week -- not sure how much of this is my performance vs. the project getting scrapped but naturally not feeling great about it)

So, there you have it. The full detail provided on purpose to demonstrate thoroughly the type of career I've had. Some really high highs (the investment bank I worked for is one of the best in the world) and some really low low's. Some patterns seem to show but perhaps nothing conclusive enough to design a strategy around.

Now, I am unemployed on benefits :mad:. I have some savings but definitely not enough to retire on. I live in NYC, which is very expensive. I have a one year old and a wife who has been struggling to get her start-up off the ground (zero income :mad:). Our fixed costs are relatively low for NYC but we definitely need to cut them substantially more and will be trying to sell our apartment and move out of NYC this winter.

Career-wise, I have had issues working under almost every supervisor but the one mentor listed above (whose has a child w/ severe ADHD as an interesting side note) ... As I get older, I seem to lose interest in things easier, I'm very distractable, anxious and generally live in a state of frustration. Despite trying my best to monitor my impulsiveness, I just can't help to cut people off, blurt out thoughts, get overly passionate / aggravated, say things I shouldn't say, express to much feeling or thought ...etc. I've done everything in my power to become organized but it's impossible. For some reason, over the last 10 years, I've begun hording information, especially about investing. I default to searching for good info but never seem to get done processing what I found. Some people I've worked with have said I'm one of the smartest people they've ever worked with (I generally think they are just patronizing me, and perhaps some are but then these same people will ask if I want to do entrepreneurial endeavors with them, go through ideas with them, etc. - confusing). Other people think I am a complete worthless idiot and openly show it -- unfortunately, I put a few of my ex-managers in this category. I've always been in the upper decile in creativity and can think about things in ways others cannot. On the other hand, often others can process information at much quicker speeds with a lot better accuracy. In general, I feel that on a 0 - 10 scale, I work daily with a pattern that looks something like this: 1,1,4,10,10,1,1,1,1,1,3,8,1,1,1,10,10,10,1, 1, 1, 1.... when I hit the 10's it feels great (to me at least) but then i just default back to the 1's. As a obnoxious person who sat next to me (who didn't like me) once said: "the more I'm around you, I realize you aren't dumb and lazy but I'm really not sure what you are..." I've found this accurately characterizes a lot of people I interact with. As for pay, you may think - wow, a lot of years in banking, consulting, and investing ... this guy has to have some good coin. Unfortunately, I never got very good bonuses compared to others and luck has it that I somehow I ended up earning pretty much just salary for almost every year I was an investor. Living in NYC on salary alone is not easy.... so, all my savings came from three just o.k. bonuses as a banker less my wife and my grad school loans paid back.

So, with all of that out there (sorry about the negativity, I'm just being open and honest + giving you perspective into my frustrations)... I feel I have two choices moving forward career-wise: (1) keep lowering my asking price until I finally find a bid for my skills (I've sent out ~500 resumes in past 5 months + scoured my network -- all with practically zero success in gaining any traction). Try everything in my power to make the position work. However, in the back of my mind, I just feel that positions 14, 15, 16, 17, etc. will look like 12 and 13 ... as I'm getting older, people just don't have the patience anymore + it does seem like my ADHD symptoms have been growing worse over the past few years for some reason. Also, I'm not all that certain, given my history, ADHD, etc. that I can ever count on job security anywhere anymore ... or (2) risk a substantial amount of my savings and purchase a franchise or a small business and try to compound capital on my own. This appeals to me more but I'm not sure where to even start with becoming an entrepreneur. Also, I fear losing most of my savings. With a wife and son, I need to find stable income so an entrepreneur to me is not defined by things like writing blogs, etc., it would mean opening up a small store or something similar with the intent of growing it. As for investing ... the 500 resumes I referenced above have all been towards investing jobs. Unfortunately, once you blow up as a portfolio manager, you are done. Only a few of us blow up without ever making much money.

With all of that out there.... any recommendations, advice, commentary, cautions, etc? I've been seeing help for this for many years but it doesn't seem to really help me answer these big questions. ]]>
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Preparing for Job Interviews http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=194206&goto=newpost Wed, 26 Dec 2018 23:33:26 GMT Hi- I have had several short terms jobs over the past few years and I am trying to move into a career that I think I can excel at. I was in a role for many years that made me unhappy and I know that if I stay motivated then I can find something that makes me happy. When it comes to to job... Hi- I have had several short terms jobs over the past few years and I am trying to move into a career that I think I can excel at.

I was in a role for many years that made me unhappy and I know that if I stay motivated then I can find something that makes me happy.

When it comes to to job interviews, I have hit a number of stumbling blocks.

1. I go off topic very quickly.
2. I can't look my interviewer in the eye.
3 I don't answer the questions I am asked and provide relevant answers.

I do not have difficulty getting interviews and from most jobs specs you can usually tell what may come up in the interview but this is where I struggle to find my groove.

I look at many job specs together and then try to find the perfect method of preparing which really just makes me feel more frustrated/confused/ill-prepared.


Any guidance people can provide would be appreciated.

Thanks ]]>
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