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Essa96 12-31-17 06:56 AM

Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Signs you don't have ADHD and your behaviour is actually normal...
I find it very difficult to distinguish between normal behaviour and those with TRUE ADHD...

You procrastinate a lot? So do many students and lazy people...
You can't focus? maybe you just have a naturally very short attention span

I'm not trying to say ADHD isn't real but these are the questions that come to my mind when I question my ADHD...

So, what are the signs that you probably don't have ADHD?

sarahsweets 12-31-17 07:14 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
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You procrastinate a lot? So do many students and lazy people...
You can't focus? maybe you just have a naturally very short attention span
Yes but this applies across the board. Many people have a hard time with at least one thing they procrastinate or loss focus on, but adhd people have a hard time on many things..I think it has to be 6 or more areas of your life in 2 or more ways? Or maybe reverse that...
Being lazy is more like a choice...Your mom asks you to do the dishes and you choose to wait for someone else to do them. You know she asked for help but why cant anyone else do it? Or your mom asks you to do the dishes. You start unloading the dishwasher but UPS arrives with a package. You walk away from the dishwasher to get and open the package and its your new woodworking set. You decide to assemble the tools and try it out real quick on a scrap of wood. Before you know it 2 hours have passed and the door to the dishwasher was left open with half of the clean dishes in it still and a sink full of dirty ones. You didnt meant to ignore your mom and you do not think it should be anyone elses' job, you literally forgot because you got distracted.

Or you know you have a doc appt tomorrow at 8am. You get up a little late and are runnning around trying to get out the door. You cant remember where you left your keys or phone. You find them, grab the forms you need to bring and show up at your appt without your insurance or ID. Even though you know this is an obvious need for any appt, you just didnt think about it because your were running late and had such a hard time finding your phone and keys.

Little Nut 12-31-17 12:00 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Hi Essa, Maybe if you start w/ what diagnoses ADHD. Then the lack of most or all of those items/criteria/symptoms would indicate "not ADHD". Keep in mind that is not the same as "normal". GL & HTH, -LN

Ronelh 12-31-17 12:08 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Whether you’re trying might be an indicator. Like, for most people, they have lapses of attention from time to time because they are tired or worried about something specific, or for whatever reason just aren’t making an effort. But I struggle to pay attention even when I am making a conscious effort, and not particularly tired or anxious.

Ronelh 12-31-17 02:12 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Also working memory problems in ADHD are more than just occasionally forgetting things. Sure, everyone forgets stuff sometimes. But I do it to the extent that it can cause major issues in work, home, church, even relationships sometimes. I walk into rooms and forget why I went in there, not just once in a while like most people do, but nearly every day. I walk into someone’s house with several items and I am sure to forget some of them if I don’t keep them all together. I am really as absent minded as many people in their 70’s... but I’m only 36. And I’ve been like this as long as I can remember.

So forgettting things occasionally isn’t ADHD. But forgetting things so often that it makes life difficult is one of the key signs of ADHD.

Lunacie 12-31-17 02:51 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
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Originally Posted by Ronelh (Post 1980492)
Also working memory problems in ADHD are more than just occasionally forgetting things. Sure, everyone forgets stuff sometimes. But I do it to the extent that it can cause major issues in work, home, church, even relationships sometimes. I walk into rooms and forget why I went in there, not just once in a while like most people do, but nearly every day. I walk into someoneís house with several items and I am sure to forget some of them if I donít keep them all together. I am really as absent minded as many people in their 70ís... but Iím only 36. And Iíve been like this as long as I can remember.

So forgettting things occasionally isnít ADHD. But forgetting things so often that it makes life difficult is one of the key signs of ADHD.

Side note ... my memory is actually better now at age 67 than it was in my
30's because I'm taking meds and supplements to treat my adhd and anxiety.

ADaptHD 12-31-17 05:45 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Ask yourself two questions:

1. Do you have trouble sustaining attention?
2. Do you fidget a lot or have trouble sitting still?

If you answered no to both, then that's a sign that ADHD is less likely. Although even then, people are complicated, so it's not definitive evidence that you don't have ADHD.

I agree, though, that it's hard to know what it feels like to have ADHD vs. what it feels like to be "normal" because all we know us what it feels like to be ourselves! Trying meds helped clarify this difference for me by showing me "oh, that's what it feels like to be able to ... [insert thing ADHD interferes with here]."

PoppnNSailinMan 12-31-17 06:10 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
One sign that you don't have ADHD is that you haven't had symptoms associated with it such as forgetfulness or a tendency to procrastinate or difficulty focusing, or completing things, etc., since childhood.

Some of the things I have a hard time doing such as finishing things or paying attention when I should because I got distracted can be traced all the way back to Kindergarten where I got unsatisfactory marks for "Completes work" and “Listens and follows directions.” And I've continued to have problems completing things ever since and got negative teacher comments about this all the way through elementary and middle school.

Fraser_0762 01-01-18 01:00 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Difference between ADHD and non-ADHD is that with ADHD, it's not even a choice. You don't choose to be lazy, unproductive and disorganized. You simply are that way, no matter how angry and frustrated it makes you.

Greyhound1 01-02-18 11:47 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
The best sign would be a specialist saying you didn’t have ADHD

Stevuke79 01-03-18 08:27 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
Once you find your wallet and keys... I say you're cured!!

I'm about to attempt to cure my own ADHD for the day right now.

Stevuke79 01-03-18 08:28 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
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Originally Posted by Fraser_0762 (Post 1980547)
Difference between ADHD and non-ADHD is that with ADHD, it's not even a choice. You don't choose to be lazy, unproductive and disorganized. You simply are that way, no matter how angry and frustrated it makes you.

That's true . .. but just to be fair to the OP, neurotypical people can experience this as well.

Barbrady1 01-03-18 09:19 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
You can remember someone's name about a minute after they have been introduced to you.

My mind is usually so disorganized and clouded that I can forget midway through an argument what the dispute was regarding. I think it's why people often see me as being rather laid-back because I never seem to remember past conversations with others. Thus, it's very difficult for me to be angry with anyone for any length of time as I am often 'tuning out' or distracted by something utterly immaterial.

apertxre 01-21-18 05:20 PM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
I often wonder about signs you don't have ADHD. It seems like some aspects might just be personality quirks? I haven't been diagnosed, so I can't really tell.

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Originally Posted by Barbrady1 (Post 1980834)
You can remember someone's name about a minute after they have been introduced to you.

My mind is usually so disorganized and clouded that I can forget midway through an argument what the dispute was regarding. I think it's why people often see me as being rather laid-back because I never seem to remember past conversations with others. Thus, it's very difficult for me to be angry with anyone for any length of time as I am often 'tuning out' or distracted by something utterly immaterial.

I do all of this all the time. It's really ridiculous. I'm at a lost when it comes to verbal convo. Even in text, I often have to read over and over again, or go all the way back to remember something. It's honestly annoying.

Drogheda 01-23-18 01:56 AM

Re: Signs you DON'T have ADHD?
 
projection is your key to unlock this mystery.

in otherwords, when you compare yourself to others you can only see(err, type in this instance) your reflection. or that quality in you you aren't sure about.

and that's completely ok.


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