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Joker_Girl 03-19-17 03:23 AM

Venting....Can't Get it Together
 
So, I'm worse (of course, right?) And been to the doctor, to get even more crazy pills, and have been on them a week seeing little to no change.

I have been on Adderal 30 XR in am, 15 IR in early evening, and at night Effexor XR 150 mg. I have been suicidally depressed th the past month, and am able somehow to function at work. But at home i am a mess. I am either in sit in a chait and space out mode, or laying there listening to evanescense bawling. I cant clean, i just move the same **** around. Anytime i do anything, its a horrible mess. All that makes me feel better is doing arts and crafts, so i have paint and stuff everywhere.

I have some need to have it "clean", and "pretty", so im stressed about it.

I dont know if i even like what i am doing anymore, but its all i know.

So im still on those meds and ambien 5 to 10 mg , also abilify 2 mg and provigil. I dont see a change.


I am a zombie at home i walk around wanting to do somethin but unable to feel the slightest motivation. I dont even have all our stuff moved from the other house. I am about of the mood to just leave mosr of it.

Its like i dont know what to do anymore, im cleaning brain damaged or something.

aeon 03-19-17 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Joker_Girl (Post 1937719)
I am either in sit in a chait and space out mode, or laying there listening to evanescense bawling.

:grouphug:
Ian

Swissy 03-19-17 08:29 AM

Re: Venting....Can't Get it Together
 
Art always helps me, too. Listen to Evanescence and bawl while you paint. Put the bad stuff into your art to make room for serenity and the possibility of happiness. I would love to see some of your work, I have been looking for an art forum but haven't found any active ones I like. And I have found that it helps hanging on to the idea that nothing is forever and though the minutes, hours and days pass slowly, the years fly by. If I look back to a really crappy time and realize how long ago it feels and how quickly time is passing, I know that even though it doesn't feel like it, this low point will pass, too. Your next amazing moment awaits you, we all have amazing moments waiting for us. In a blink, everything can change, just hang in there.

Swissy 03-19-17 08:56 AM

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Also, for me music evokes things I felt at the time I discovered the artist and song. When I get down, really down, I can't even bear listening to certain things without getting pushed over the edge. Maybe switching up your music will help. Right now I am all about Veruca Salt. "It's Holy" is like being hit in the face with sunshine. And I am definitely more dark than light ;)

meadd823 03-19-17 04:01 PM

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I get the sick of junk every where want it cleaned up but who has the time and energy to do it even if I do manage to have time and energy I find myself not getting as much done as I would like to.

It is spring I finally managed to get the Christmas lights off the outside of the house. I was so excited I had to post it on facebook.

The cats took care of the inside Christmas stuff before New Years. :eek:

Yesterday I vacuumed one floor today I have removed Christmas lights from the house = I celebrate the little accomplishments because for me the big one simply ain't going to happen.:o

Fuzzy12 03-19-17 07:42 PM

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Yup celebrate the little accomplishments and give yourself lots and lots of slack. :grouphug:

Little Missy 03-19-17 07:56 PM

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JG, you are taking an interesting cocktail there and maybe they aren't IT. But what do I know?

fathom6 03-19-17 10:05 PM

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Hi JG, here are my 2cents:

- The meds are helpful though only to an extent. To treat your condition as a whole, meds only play maybe 20%-30% of a role. I believe the CHALLENGE for us lies in piecing the necessary puzzles together to achieve that overall well being.

- Listen to 'motivational speakers', there are free youtube videos.

- Make good friends who will be positive energy around you.

- If you could afford time, join volunteer groups. i.e. increase your positive energy.

I personally think, having a simple, pure/clean lifestyle, meditation, sports, being good, thinking good, if you could afford 'therapy' do it, all that combined together with the right meds will only solve our problems. So best of wishes in your journey.

Joker_Girl 03-19-17 11:27 PM

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This is the first time i have evef taken a mood stabilizer, and i dont know if it is doing anything. It's a tiny dose, but i just don't know. She wanted to up my effexor, but i said no because we tried that about a year ago, and it made me feel weird. So this happened instead.

The provigil is because i am so freaking tired and out of sorts lately. My schedule is just a disaster, and i am sure that is part of my problem. I work 12 hr shifts, usually nights, but we have been short and i have been doing extra shifts, and i am just all over the place. I dont sleep well in the day alot of the time, and when my husband has a day off, i want to spend time with him.

I dont notice it doing anything, though.

I actually got a little bit of cleaning done today, though. Or at least i moved some stuff around.

I feel like this is alot of different stuff to be on, though, and it is just a stab in the dark as to what will work, but i guess that is how it always is.

I have been painting and decoupaging and drawing and stamping and glittering like a madwoman, though, like my life depends on it. Maybe it does. Today i repotted plants.

Postulate 03-19-17 11:45 PM

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If before going to bed you were to do an exciting activity that you really like, and for a few hours you trully enjoyed that activity, finally you call it a day and go to bed.

Immediatly when you wake up after 6 hours, do you:

1) Feel an urge to continue that same activity and can still relate to the motivation and thoughts you had during that activity before going to bed?

2) Or do you feel like you're now part of something new and have trouble relating to your thoughts and what kept you motivated before you went to bed, which caused you to spend hours at that activity?

finallyfound10 03-20-17 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Joker_Girl (Post 1937890)
This is the first time i have evef taken a mood stabilizer, and i dont know if it is doing anything. It's a tiny dose, but i just don't know. She wanted to up my effexor, but i said no because we tried that about a year ago, and it made me feel weird. So this happened instead.

The provigil is because i am so freaking tired and out of sorts lately. My schedule is just a disaster, and i am sure that is part of my problem. I work 12 hr shifts, usually nights, but we have been short and i have been doing extra shifts, and i am just all over the place. I dont sleep well in the day alot of the time, and when my husband has a day off, i want to spend time with him.

I dont notice it doing anything, though.

I actually got a little bit of cleaning done today, though. Or at least i moved some stuff around.

I feel like this is alot of different stuff to be on, though, and it is just a stab in the dark as to what will work, but i guess that is how it always is.

I have been painting and decoupaging and drawing and stamping and glittering like a madwoman, though, like my life depends on it. Maybe it does. Today i repotted plants.

(((Joker_Girl)))

It's not your fault that your hospital, like mine, can't get their sh** together and are short staffed. If you want to really vent about the ridiculousness that goes on in far too many hospitals, go to allnurses.com where you'll find lots of support for work-related issues. I'm on there too and it can be helpful. There is even a thread for RN's with disabilities where ADHD, depression, etc. are often posted about. I've PM'd with some great gals who struggle with issues who also have stressful nursing jobs.

Stop working extra shifts right now. If people stop working extra shifts they'll have to get moving and hire new people faster rather than keep it short staffed. An very seasoned RN explained that logic to me and it makes perfect sense.

You are hurting yourself. Think of what you would say to one of your patients in our therapeutic nursey way if they told you that they were actively doing something that was hurting them.

You could work all nights when all of the patients are sleeping :mad::(. I have to rotate days/nights all 12's so I know how hard it is, especially taking certain meds which may be a big part of what is going on right now. Nursing is probably one of the worst jobs for someone with ADHD and other emotional/mental issues IMHO and when we are having an emotional/mental crisis, it can really put us over the edge. I'm 100% percent sure that I would be in a better place mentally/emotionally if I didn't have this type of nursing job at a short-staffed hospital.

Continue to do your artwork and working with plants!! If it is helping you, keep doing it!! Are there any plant/flower conservatories by you? That could be a wonderful date for you and hubby!

I googled art therapy for adults and came across SoulCollage which looks interesting. Are you seeing a therapist? They can be extremely helpful and I highly recommend it if you are not.

Good luck and keep us posted!
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icantbelive93 03-24-17 10:01 AM

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I know the feeling, it sucks. I don't know what to write but I hope it gets better:)

sarahsweets 03-25-17 03:02 AM

Re: Venting....Can't Get it Together
 
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Originally Posted by Joker_Girl (Post 1937719)

I have been on Adderal 30 XR in am, 15 IR in early evening, and at night Effexor XR 150 mg. I have been suicidally depressed th the past month, and am able somehow to function at work. But at home i am a mess. I am either in sit in a chait and space out mode, or laying there listening to evanescense bawling. I cant clean, i just move the same **** around. Anytime i do anything, its a horrible mess. All that makes me feel better is doing arts and crafts, so i have paint and stuff everywhere.

You would think our homes would be places of respite and peace but so often in the thick of it with depression, our homes become our prisons. I identify with what you are talking aboutl

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I have some need to have it "clean", and "pretty", so im stressed about it.
Let that go for awhile and ask for help cleaning it.


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I am a zombie at home i walk around wanting to do somethin but unable to feel the slightest motivation. I dont even have all our stuff moved from the other house. I am about of the mood to just leave mosr of it.

Its like i dont know what to do anymore, im cleaning brain damaged or something.
Im sorry you feel this way and I wish I had the magic words to tell you things will get better-but thats irritating sometimes when you feel as low as you say you do.
Keep doing what you are doing, see your doc frequently so your meds can be monitored-even if you think they dont do jack for you. Do you see a therapist or counselor?


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