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sarahsweets 03-12-18 04:14 AM

I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Which do you prefer and why? Whats the difference? I think I tend to say I have adhd but I know Ive also said "I'm add".

OyVeyKitty 03-12-18 04:56 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
"I have ADHD" or "I am a person with ADHD." It is just a tiny bit of what makes me "me" and not part of my identity in any way really, so saying "I am ADHD" doesn't convey the right message for me personally. :) I'm more like Meredith Brooks; a little bit of everything. :lol:

sarahsweets 03-12-18 06:04 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by OyVeyKitty (Post 1988272)
"I have ADHD" or "I am a person with ADHD." It is just a tiny bit of what makes me "me" and not part of my identity in any way really, so saying "I am ADHD" doesn't convey the right message for me personally. :) I'm more like Meredith Brooks; a little bit of everything. :lol:

Are you a b*tch or a lover or alive or a mother?;)

Fuzzy12 03-12-18 06:41 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I don't have a strong preference except that I really dislike "I am ADHD" but that's only because it doesn't make sense grammatically. You can't be attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder. Maybe "I am an ADHD" would make more sense grammatically but not necessarily be more meaningful. You are not a disorder. Maybe my disorder would work. So you could say "I am my ADHD"....

I woukd say I have ADHD. I don't think it's that different to I am a person with ADHD but it's easier to say. I know neuro linguistic programming etc make a big deal about how the language that you use affects your thinking but I doubt that it has a huge effect. It's mainly just habit.

Bart1992 03-12-18 07:03 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I don't really talk to other people about my condition, but I would rather say something general like "I have trouble concentrating" or "I cannot pay attention to lectures for so long" , "I am forgetfull sometimes" etc.

I do this because I don't really fit the image people often have with adhd. in my country at least, it is more associated with hyperactivity and impulsivity, whereas i am of the inattentive type. When I have said I have adhd to people before, people are very surprised and say oh but you're so quiet/calm!

When needed (i.e. in contact with doctors/school) I would state I was diagnosed with having adhd. This is because I don't feel the diagnosis process is so good that i can say with certainty that I have adhd (there still don't exist blood/ecg tests, it was only based on questionnaires and observation).

I certainly do have symptoms and I feel the medication helps me, but I don't see myself as very different from other persons and thus do not want people to associate me with adhd when they think of me.

OyVeyKitty 03-12-18 11:36 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by sarahsweets (Post 1988277)
Are you a b*tch or a lover or alive or a mother?;)

I'm working on that last part, I think I've got the rest down. ;)

aeon 03-12-18 11:38 AM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I have been diagnosed with ADHD (-PI).


Cheers,
Ian

Kaia.S 03-12-18 12:52 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I have adhd... i abuse my condition gratefully as it explains a lot ;-)))

I wouldn't be a broken leg if my leg was broken. Though i was born with adhd and it will stay with me until i die... i'm also not blue eyes. I don't identify with body or thoughts... i'm a human experience, with assets, defects, possibilities and limitations.

Budkeiser 03-12-18 01:31 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I am a person with ADHD.
I know that I am what I am. ;)

ToneTone 03-12-18 04:46 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
I have ADHD is fine with me.

I've been diagnosed with ADHD is also fine.

So funny, shortly after diagnosis I ran around telling people I have ADHD ... Now, I rarely tell people, because they don't seem to understand it. Nothing very good comes of disclosure.

I will talk about hating tedious tasks ... and hating detail-oriented work. That's my secret way of not apologizing for having ADHD.

Lunacie 03-12-18 05:04 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12 (Post 1988280)
I don't have a strong preference except that I really dislike "I am ADHD" but that's only because it doesn't make sense grammatically. You can't be attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder. Maybe "I am an ADHD" would make more sense grammatically but not necessarily be more meaningful. You are not a disorder. Maybe my disorder would work. So you could say "I am my ADHD"....

I woukd say I have ADHD. I don't think it's that different to I am a person with ADHD but it's easier to say. I know neuro linguistic programming etc make a big deal about how the language that you use affects your thinking but I doubt that it has a huge effect. It's mainly just habit.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kaia.S (Post 1988322)
I have adhd... i abuse my condition gratefully as it explains a lot ;-)))

I wouldn't be a broken leg if my leg was broken. Though i was born with adhd and it will stay with me until i die... i'm also not blue eyes. I don't identify with body or thoughts... i'm a human experience, with assets, defects, possibilities and limitations.

We do say "I'm blue-eyed." There doesn't seem to be a good way to modify
ADHD to say the same sort of thing. There is with Autism, but not Bipolar.
Epilipsy is modified to say "I'm an epileptic." I have been an Asthmatic. And
I am also a Migraineur.

I am blue-eyed, dyed-blonde, a mom, a gramma, a woman, a senior citizen,
overweight, sometimes silly, sometimes over-emotional, nearsighted,
. . . and it depends on the setting which of those I use to describe myself.

This is a personal choice, and no one should be shamed for such choices.

Fuzzy12 03-12-18 05:11 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Lunacie (Post 1988342)
We do say "I'm blue-eyed." There doesn't seem to be a good way to modify
ADHD to say the same sort of thing. There is with Autism, but not Bipolar.
Epilipsy is modified to say "I'm an epileptic." I have been an Asthmatic. And
I am also a Migraineur.

I am blue-eyed, dyed-blonde, a mom, a gramma, a woman, a senior citizen,
overweight, sometimes silly, sometimes over-emotional, nearsighted
. . . and it depends on the setting which of those I use to describe myself.

This is a personal choice, and no one should be shamed for such choices.

You could say I am attention deficient and hyperactive though it's a bit of a mouthful.

OyVeyKitty 03-12-18 05:39 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12 (Post 1988344)
You could say I am attention deficient and hyperactive though it's a bit of a mouthful.

There's also "I'm an ADDer," but it's not common enough for people to know what you're talking about and if you pronounce it "adder" people might think you believe you're a snake (or someone who's really into addition.) :doh:

Personally I propose we start saying we're ADDictive. :lol:

Fuzzy12 03-12-18 06:50 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by OyVeyKitty (Post 1988347)
There's also "I'm an ADDer," but it's not common enough for people to know what you're talking about and if you pronounce it "adder" people might think you believe you're a snake (or someone who's really into addition.) :doh:

Personally I propose we start saying we're ADDictive. :lol:

:lol:

Vex187 03-12-18 09:10 PM

Re: I am adhd, I have adhd or I am a person with adhd?
 
Generally I dont usually tell people, so I tend to lean towards the "im just me direction"... but if i had to choose it would be i have adhd as its much faster to say than i am a person with adhd lol.

I was only diagnosed with ADHD last year but had a previous ASD diagnosis and have found that both of those are largely misunderstood, as is mental health in general, so if i say anything it'll usually be symptoms or traits. Going by past experiences, saying i have adhd to people who dont know me well usually ends up in them forming judgements based on social stigmas, or me explaining what it is/isnt... so i rather just skip the drama as most people will still think its only a behavioral issue anyway. With people i know and get along with im happy to say i have adhd if it comes up in conversation as education helps and its something i like about myself anyway.

Slightly off topic but ASD wise is the same as the ADHD diagnosis, if i say anything i'll usually say high functioning autism. The first people I really told openly were from uni, and I ended up being called "that autisitc guy". While its true to a point, I sorta feel being identified by a personality trait is the same as being identified by a physical one, so it doesnt sit well with me.


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