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Old 11-08-17, 05:08 PM
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Re: Being ignored on dating sites

In general, men get many less responses than women do.

If you decide to message someone, make sure it is because something really speaks to you from their profile...not just their looks, not just because of something they said...the whole profile, overall, must capture your interest.

Which makes the next part easy...

Write to them, but don’t just say hello, and don’t start off with a joke (unless that’s really your thing)...give them some feedback about what you read in their profile, say why it caught your interest, and because you have some real interest, ask some questions about those things they care about.

Based on what I have just said, it makes sense to put forth some real effort toward making your own profile complete, open-ended, and relevant to those things you care about.

You’re creating something to communicate who you are, what interests you, what you are looking for...and be authentic about those things, because this is not a situation where you want to present yourself as anyone other than you are. That said, it isn’t necessary to list those things that challenge you in life unless you want to (and I’d still recommend against it). There will be time enough for those things, should that become necessary.

You’re trying to tell a person who you are and why you might be someone they would find interest in. That said, your profile is not an advertisement, and you are not selling yourself.

And make sure your photos (and yes, you should have a few) are current, meaning nothing older than 6 months. They don’t need to be professional (though that won’t hurt), but make sure they really show who you are...both in the sense of what you look like, and what you do and where you do it.


Cheers,
Ian
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